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Is a break-up the right thing?

  • 28-09-2010 11:22pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I've been going out with a guy for the last 9months. All has been going great, really enjoy each others company, have fun when we meet up, I feel really happy around him and when Most recently I've moved to the city for work purposes and so live closer to my bf, about 30minutes away approx which has been great as we can meet up more often. My new job does invlove overtime and some weekends also now and again. I have been stressed recently with the new move and job but have also been wondering about the relationship I'm in at the moment but there's something inside me that does not feel right.

    I've been thinking about my bf and I and wondering if maybe a break could be the right thing. Perhaps this is just me taking the stress out on him and the fact that beacuse I'll be so busy with my new job that it may impact worse on our relationship than when I was I just don't know what to do. he's great guy and I really adore him and enjoy his company but just something inside me dosnt feel right at the minute and I don't know what exactly it is and what to do.

    Please if anyone has any advice re should I break up with my bf, or any advice at all please do help.


Comments

  • #2
    LighterGuy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,243 ✭✭✭LighterGuy


    Hmmm,
    This is a confusing situation.

    What I mean is, you say you are happy with your boyfriend. You state that so much in the thread. But yet you have thoughts of breaking up with him... but you dont really go into why?

    You state you moved to be closer to him. Now you are thinking about breaking up...

    Which do you think is really the issue:

    • Is it because you fear that the new move and job will make your relationship turn bad in the upcoming months? [which is just relationships fears]
    • Is there something more going on under the surface? ... do you think deep down think he is not the one you want to be with?


  • #3
    La frog fairy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 167 ✭✭La frog fairy


    i can see you seem very confused....having doubt is never good but then again if you loved him, without a doubt, then you probably wouldnt have those feelings, no?
    Do you miss him when you dont see him for a while?
    maybe the 9 months runned its course and the chemistry died out.

    my favourite ex boyfriend, with who im good friend, broke up with me by simply saying he loved him and loved hanging out with me and all but jsut didnt have "it" ..as i guess the IT thing you feel for someone, you might love him but maybe its just not there...if anything, be like my ex, honest, to this day im thankful he did it that way cos i got over it super quickly, no wondering around is he this, is he that, will he come back etc...i moved on and its the best way to do things, honestly...

    So have a think of what is is you love about him, or what would you miss and maybe have a simple chat with him and see how you feel

    in any case, good luck


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