need opinion on issue regarding my summer holidays

LegacyUser

This will be long so apologies in advance. I went on holidays over the summer with five other girls, only one of them who I knew very well. Before the holiday, I would have considered her one of my best friends. I had only met the other girls before on nights out so couldn't say I knew them very well but they seemed lovely before the holidays. The holidays lasted 5 weeks and while I had an excellent time, I had a couple of low points. It still upsets me now so think I need some outside opinions on this so I don't think I am over-reacting and maybe I can move on from it.
As I didn't know these girls very well before the holiday, I was looking forward to meeting them and getting to know them and along with my friend I knew, I got on very well with three of the girls. One girl had issues with me from the start as I copped there were bad vibes there, it was sort of obvious.
A week later, I was sleeping and my friend came into the room and this time it was that I was being defensive with the one girl who had issues with me over something I said. I said right well to me being defensive is being confrontational, not letting something drop and almost getting into a row over something. In this instance I was definitely not defensive. Myself and this girl were talking about something and she said something jokey, I said something jokey back. We were both smiling and laughing almost like a slagging match but it was not over something serious that one would take offence over. At this point, I was getting really upset because I didn't think that was a reason to come into a room shouting at me. It was hard because I didn't have anybody to go to and tell abou it as my friend was the one who was after giving out to me. I just text my friend and said I honestly didn't think I was being defensive and I was sorry this girl does not like me but I had not been mean to her so what else could I do. That night I was really upset and found it hard to believe that my friend had done that to me as when you are on holidays with people, you only have conflict with people if you have to in order to make life easier for everybody or so I thought.

On a night out during the week, one of the girls sensed something was up and said don't worry about her (the girl who said I was defensive). She knows her from home and said thats her all over or something to that effect She had also been snappy at this girl for no reason twice and it upset her two.. Further on in the holiday the girl who had issues with me wasn't nice to me and it upset me. In front of everyone she was condescending towards me, if I was talking or giving my opinion she would just say "shhh". One night in a pub she was falling asleep, I went to wake her as we were leaving and she nearly lost her life, saying what is wrong with you etc etc.
At this point my confidence was really low because I couldn't understand why I was doing nothing to this girl but yet my friend said I was defensive. But when she was rude to me in front of everyone, my friend didn't step in or anything. I kind of spent the rest of the holidays keeping away from her because she just seemed to make all these sarcastic and nasty comments and I felt if I stood up to her, I would be "defensive" again.
My relationship with my friend from home has never been the same since. I haven't wanted to meet her or see her really sinced. I am upset that she treated me like this and when this girl was rude to people nothing was ever said. I am only home two weeks so it is still fresh in my mind and I feel I should say something to my friend about how it all bothered me. Just wondering, do you think I should or just leave it?
How should I bring it up without causing a row, even though the more I think about it the crosser I get? Do you think I am right in feeling down about this?
I know most problems on here are so much more serious but I need perspective on it because it is getting me down and I don't know if I am right or wrong. Thanks so much for reading my ramble.

LegacyUser

Your friend should have given you more support. I'd let your silence do the talking, if she wants to build bridges, let her do the running.
In saying that, you're (presumably) a big girl now, so if someone is rude to you in public, it's up to you to fight your corner- your friend may not have wanted to step in and cause a big division in the group.

finbarrk

5 weeks with girls you didn't know very well isn't going to be easy, something was bound to happen.

Taltos

Sometimes friendships just run their course. Maybe the best thing you can do now is just accept that your friendship is over and just move to distance yourself from this so-called friend.