New housemate taking advantage?

sarmer

Hi guys I would just like some other people's thoughts on this as I'm getting seriously annoyed about this issue! I'll try to keep it as brief as possible!

Basically, at the beginning of Sept I moved in with 2 friends from college. We needed a fourth person for the house so we paid the months rent and deposit to the landlord and he said that we should find someone asap and that they could pay us their share on moving in (for this month's rent and the deposit) and from next month we would all be paying directly to the landlord. Anyway a few days after we moved in, we got another girl from college to move in and we worked out how much she was due to pay us each and she agreed to that.

Almost 3 weeks later, I still haven't got the rent money although she has paid the other two people in the house. I have asked her lots of times about it and she keeps saying she'll transfer it etc but this is getting ridiculous. I know we were a bit silly not doing it all officially at first but because she is a friend we all thought it would be fine.

I'm really not good at confrontation when I'm friends with someone - we do actually get on very well so I don't want to be a b*tch about it. But I really am beginning to feel like I'm being taken advantage of tbh. She's been asking me to organise stuff for the house which I think is crazy given that she hasn't even paid me rent!! She's also very disorganised regarding college so I've been helping her with that too.

Anyway like I said I don't want to be a b*tch about it but I really don't know how to handle the situation. If she wasn't a friend I would be able to confront her about it but because she is a friend I really don't feel like I can.

Would appreciate some thoughts on this anyway. Thanks in advance

Victor

Write down your thoughts.

Talk to the others two (without the non-payer) and explain the situation. Explain the pressures it is putting on you. Get them on your side.

Then sit down with the non-payer and explain that she has to pull her weight, primarily by paying the rent and that she has little say until she is up to date with the rent. Explain that you want to remain friends, but that she is making things difficult.

She may claim inability to pay (there is a recession after all), but its a bit late to claim that when she has not claimed it to date.


Question:
Are you friends or just acquaintances? Try to keep your friends, but lose the deadweights.
If you or her are having financial difficulties already, how will things proceed for the year?

Motley Crue

Send her an email about the money, seriously, and mark it urgent. Mention it to her in front of other people and even if it is embarrassing then just say it and make sure she knows that you've paid the other people and she will have to pay you or at least give you an explanation as to why this hasn't happened.

If she brags about having got a new phone, or taken a holiday, or going for a night out, or offers to buy drinks or needs to get a present for someone or offers to give money towards something...bring it up then. Harsh, but fair, and you will get the money.