"We're on a break!"

starlit

Seriously, why do guys often say to girls that he or she wants a break, either from each other or the relationship? Is it a way to ease the break up with out saying it? Is it just to see things from another perspective and take each other back when things have cooled down or is it a quicker easier cowardly way to break up not knowing how to end the relationship?
Couples who are adults that act like the above mentioned aren't teenagers anymore, what gives?

What is your opinion on this kind of scenario?

The idea for these questions came from the Healthy Living Supplement that went with the Irish Independent. Mods can move this to PI if they wish.

Superbus

'Cos of Friends.

Biggins

Thats life.

Its their way sometimes of breaking it gently - but its a load of stupid tosh.

Micky Dolenz

They want to sleep with other people.

mikom

snuggles285 wrote: »

Seriously, why do guys often say to girls that he or she wants a break, either from each other or the relationship?

The "throwaway" culture.
Either you're with someone or you're not.

"I'm sorry, your baby died from malnourishment"

"But, but, we were on a break"

recylingbin

I got a break of 47 once. Missed an easy pink because I put too much right hand side on it to hold position for a red.
Still won the frame.
:cool:

Scarinae

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ttuA1UEUAI0

AckwelFoley

They want a break so they can find some one better.

If after that time they cant pull, or they realise they only pull mingers or red heads, they want the option to go back to the cert.. which is you.


Ive never looked for a break, its either working or its not, you either want to be there or you dont, personally men that want breaks are bitches and need to man the fcuk up

Scuid Mhór

Fishie wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ttuA1UEUAI0

we are now going to use this topic to applaud fishie for his educated musical tastes.

Antomus Prime

It's a cowards way of breaking up with someone if you ask me, I remember a girl telling me she wanted to go "On A Break" so I basically told her we weren't in an episode of Friends and to make up her mind if she wanted to be with me or not, cause at the end of the day if you need to think about weather or not to stay with someone then the answer should be pretty obvious.... NO YOU DONT.

But sure thats just an opinion.....

Mark200

Girls say it to guys too, it's not just guys to girls. I've seen it happen to a couple before where they went on a 'break' just because they were fighting a lot and stuff. But after it they were better than ever.

And a break doesn't always mean it's acceptable to get with someone else... often it just means that they're taking a break from seeing each other, just to give themselves some space.

starbelgrade

Coz you're ugly.

Doylers

My current gf said it to me there a few months ago. I said to her were either together or were not there's no in the middle crap so make up your mind. A break is a break up people, it's just a longer way to drag it out

Antomus Prime

Doylers wrote: »

My current gf said it to me there a few months ago. I said to her were either together or were not there's no in the middle crap so make up your mind. A break is a break up people, it's just a longer way to drag it out

And what was the outcome dude?

00112984

Because of a stupid Americanism. Ten years ago you'd break up with someone and maybe get back together. Thanks to Friends the term "we're on a break" came into the Irish vernacular.

orourkeda

snuggles285 wrote: »

Seriously, why do guys often say to girls that he or she wants a break, either from each other or the relationship? Is it a way to ease the break up with out saying it? Is it just to see things from another perspective and take each other back when things have cooled down or is it a quicker easier cowardly way to break up not knowing how to end the relationship?
Couples who are adults that act like the above mentioned aren't teenagers anymore, what gives?

What is your opinion on this kind of scenario?

The idea for these questions came from the Healthy Living Supplement that went with the Irish Independent. Mods can move this to PI if they wish.

Because they're too afraid to dump each other

Doylers

anthonyk.is wrote: »

And what was the outcome dude?

She took it back and I'm with her nearly 3 years.

El Weirdo

snuggles285 wrote: »

Seriously, why do guys often say to girls that he or she wants a break, either from each other or the relationship? Is it a way to ease the break up with out saying it? Is it just to see things from another perspective and take each other back when things have cooled down or is it a quicker easier cowardly way to break up not knowing how to end the relationship?
Couples who are adults that act like the above mentioned aren't teenagers anymore, what gives?

What is your opinion on this kind of scenario?

The idea for these questions came from the Healthy Living Supplement that went with the Irish Independent. Mods can move this to PI if they wish.

Transexuals?

mahamageehad

I'm on a break at the minute actually. Or in an "open relationship".

To be honest it's weird after getting used to somebody to be free to see other people and have to start thinking in that way again. But I think it makes you appreciate the other person more!!

Hmmm... can't say I would've gone for it if the circumstances weren't as they are. I think a lot of people use it as an easy way of breaking up!

As for whether it'll work out for me....? I'll tell ya in a year!!

alexlyons

Doylers wrote: »

My current gf said it to me there a few months ago. I said to her were either together or were not there's no in the middle crap so make up your mind. A break is a break up people, it's just a longer way to drag it out

anthonyk.is wrote: »

And what was the outcome dude?

are you actually serious?

hardCopy

recylingbin wrote: »

I got a break of 47 once. Missed an easy pink because I put too much right hand side on it to hold position for a red.
Still won the frame.
:cool:

Did you pot the brown?

starlit

El Weirdo wrote: »

Transexuals?

Ah, only realised my mistake! Meant to say seriously why do guys say to girls or vice versa girls say to guys if he or she wants a break!

Thanks for the opinions everyone. I guess there are two sides to every story I suppose and everyones meaning of a 'break' is different when it comes to relationships but its still cac and childish that adults still do that sort of thing when they want to break up, its just cowardly. They need to own up and say how they feel, its better to know where the couple stands in the relationship, its only fair!?

MonkeyTennis

dont agree. Sometimes you just need a little space to figure it out.

FreudianSlippers

MonkeyTennis wrote: »

dont agree. Sometimes you just need to bang other people to figure it out.

FYP

Aidric

The grass is always greener etc etc

steddyeddy

Well I never heard a mature person ask to go on a break put it that way, another sh1tty one is trying to make the other person break up with you so you can avoid the guilt.

Novella

A break means, "I'm going to see if I can get laid by someone else, and if I can, we're over but if I can't, yeah, I'll get back with you".

Princess Peach

My ex asked for breaks a few times. I never really found out why, or asked what he got up to when we were apart, but it was not a nice feeling.

I know a lot of boys who have asked for breaks, but I dont think I know of any girls who asked for one..... Maybe its easier for girls to talk about problems we have in the relationship. Boys might need to be alone to work it out?

They confuse me

starlit

Its a pain in the behind when it happens no matter how old you are! I was 21 at the time when it happened to me, the guy was a year younger than me. You think he have more cop on like. Asked out of the blue he wanted a break, I thought things were going great. It lasted a week, I didn't know where I stood, he asks a week later to take him back, so I did so I could dump him but I was too coward to do it and didn't want to get a reputation, thought we might have a chance to work things out but that didn't last much longer, it just bide time an extra week. Met up for a few drinks and that was the last I saw him as my boyfriend. Never heard from him for about a week asking me for another break again but made it more clear it was to break things off completely. I was fine with that. Stayed friends for a few more weeks but I ended it offically and broke all contact with him. The only thing sticky about the break up was that he asked me not just to go with one of his friends but two of his friends I didn't know and never met. Talk about childish. I texted him for a while, eventually found out he deleted my number after about two weeks. Didn't care, so broke all contact with him after that.

Kasabian

snuggles285 wrote: »

Its a pain in the behind when it happens no matter how old you are! I was 21 at the time when it happened to me, the guy was a year younger than me. You think he have more cop on like. Asked out of the blue he wanted a break, I thought things were going great. It lasted a week, I didn't know where I stood, he asks a week later to take him back, so I did so I could dump him but I was too coward to do it and didn't want to get a reputation, thought we might have a chance to work things out but that didn't last much longer, it just bide time an extra week. Met up for a few drinks and that was the last I saw him as my boyfriend. Never heard from him for about a week asking me for another break again but made it more clear it was to break things off completely. I was fine with that. Stayed friends for a few more weeks but I ended it offically and broke all contact with him. The only thing sticky about the break up was that he asked me not just to go with one of his friends but two of his friends I didn't know and never met. Talk about childish. I texted him for a while, eventually found out he deleted my number after about two weeks. Didn't care, so broke all contact with him after that.

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starlit

Kasabian wrote: »

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Okay! I am just stating my case thats all, not asking for advice!! I have already said that mods can move this thread if they wish!:cool:

d.anthony

Princess Peach wrote: »

My ex asked for breaks a few times. I never really found out why, or asked what he got up to when we were apart, but it was not a nice feeling.

I know a lot of boys who have asked for breaks, but I dont think I know of any girls who asked for one..... Maybe its easier for girls to talk about problems we have in the relationship. Boys might need to be alone to work it out?

They confuse me

Bingo.

Girls have a tendency to keep arguing the same point over and over and getting nowhere. Happened to me a few times. I needed a bit of space and time to think about things without her in my ear all the time.

Kasabian

snuggles285 wrote: »

Okay! I am just stating my case thats all, not asking for advice!! I have already said that mods can move this thread if they wish!:cool:

20 yo blokes want to shag as many girls as possible, this is his motive.

Hope that helps.

starlit

Kasabian wrote: »

22 yo blokes want to shag as many girls as possible, this is his motive.

Hope that helps.

I got that impression from him anyway with all his talk, lied about his 's*x life' and all to me.

He was 20 so couldn't blame him. Prefer them older and mature now thanks very much.

Kasabian

snuggles285 wrote: »

I got that impression from him anyway with all his talk, lied about his 's*x life' and all to me.

He was 20 so couldn't blame him. Prefer them older and mature now thanks very much.

Older I can give you, mature I can't.



:pac::pac::pac::pac:

starlit

I seriously don't want a guy that acts immature and childish! Whether he younger or older than me. I've had enough of that carry on.

Liam Byrne

anthonyk.is wrote: »

.....at the end of the day if you need to think about weather or not to stay with someone then the answer should be pretty obvious....

http://photos-c.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash1/hs489.ash1/26719_395045724663_676954663_4919457_4476079_n.jpg

Kasabian

snuggles285 wrote: »

I seriously don't want a guy that acts immature and childish! Whether he younger or older than me. I've had enough of that carry on.

Gunsfortoys

You will get that statement from someone who is fed up of the other half yammering on and on when he/she is trying to relax.

LimerickDan

snyper wrote: »

They want a break so they can find some one better.

If after that time they cant pull, or they realise they only pull mingers or red heads, they want the option to go back to the cert.. which is you.


Ive never looked for a break, its either working or its not, you either want to be there or you dont, personally men that want breaks are bitches and need to man the fcuk up

Is there something wrong with red heads??

ascanbe

snuggles285 wrote: »

I seriously don't want a guy that acts immature and childish! Whether he younger or older than me. I've had enough of that carry on.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/media/images/38079000/jpg/_38079040_carryon_ken150.jpg

winston82

LimerickDan wrote: »

Is there something wrong with red heads??

Yes, they have no souls.

YouTalkinToMe

Then have a kitkat

amacachi

LimerickDan wrote: »

Is there something wrong with red heads??

You know perfectly well what the answer to that question is, I assume that's why even on your Xbox 360 avatar you have the hair covered with a helmet.

johnn

WE WERE ON A BREAK!!!

DOC09UNAM

amacachi wrote: »

You know perfectly well what the answer to that question is, I assume that's why even on your Xbox 360 avatar you have the hair covered with a helmet.

Wait a minute, you mean i could be playing online with red heads?

*cancels subscription*

Hyperbullet

recylingbin wrote: »

I got a break of 47 once. Missed an easy pink because I put too much right hand side on it to hold position for a red.
Still won the frame.
:cool:

See where you went wrong? You foolishly went for the easy pink when the tricky brown can sometimes be the more satisfying shot.