Am i being unreasonable?

Rocky_Dennis · 23-09-2010 2:01pm #1

I'm going to London tomorrow for a couple of days. A friend of mine was living over there for the summer and came back last weekend. God only knows why, but he thought he could check 4 bags at the airport for the flight home. When he got to the check in desk, he was told that he would have to pay 720 pounds to check in all the bags. Obviously he couldn't afford this so he stored them in a storage unit in the airport. Anyway, he knew i was going to London this weekend. He has asked me would i collect the bags when i arrive in London, i can only check in 1 bag and he wants me to meet a friend of his in west London on Saturday to give him the other bag, even though i am travelling to south London. I have no bags checked in at the airport so i will have to go to the hassle of checking in a bag. Haul his 2 bags with me from heathrow to south London, travel back to west London on Saturday to give it to his mate. This seems like a lot of hassle considering i am meant to be going on a holiday. Anyone think i am being unreasonable about the situation cause i feel bad at the same time for not wanting to do this.

Snakeblood · 23-09-2010 2:03pm

Andrewh1984 wrote: »

I'm going to London tomorrow for a couple of days. A friend of mine was living over there for the summer and came back last weekend. God only knows why, but he thought he could check 4 bags at the airport for the flight home. When he got to the check in desk, he was told that he would have to pay 720 pounds to check in all the bags. Obviously he couldn't afford this so he stored them in a storage unit in the airport. Anyway, he knew i was going to London this weekend. He has asked me would i collect the bags when i arrive in London, i can only check in 1 bag and he wants me to meet a friend of his in west London on Saturday to give him the other bag, even though i am travelling to south London. I have no bags checked in at the airport so i will have to go to the hassle of checking in a bag. Haul his 2 bags with me from heathrow to south London, travel back to west London on Saturday to give it to his mate. This seems like a lot of hassle considering i am meant to be going on a holiday. Anyone think i am being unreasonable about the situation cause i feel bad at the same time for not wanting to do this.

Too much. He could spend some cash to come over. and pick them up, it's not much.

fonecrusher1 · 23-09-2010 2:04pm

Balls to that.

Tell him its his problem not yours. One bag..yeah ok. 4?!! no way.

Edit: I just realised its 2 bags, its still being cheeky for him to ask.

ClutchIt · 23-09-2010 2:04pm

He should have offered ya €50

Kasabian · 23-09-2010 2:04pm

Tell him to fcuk off. Totally unreasonable what he is asking.

krudler · 23-09-2010 2:06pm

Err, tell him take a running jump? thats his own mess he needs to sort out, hes got some cheek to ask you to take whats basically the best part of a day out of your trip to sort out something for him, dont feel one bit sorry about refusing this. It pisses me off when people want you to load up of booze and fags for them, never mind traipsing around London with someone elses luggage.

Celly Smunt · 23-09-2010 2:06pm

would he do it for you?

oppenheimer1 · 23-09-2010 2:06pm

Andrewh1984 wrote: »

I'm going to London tomorrow for a couple of days. A friend of mine was living over there for the summer and came back last weekend. God only knows why, but he thought he could check 4 bags at the airport for the flight home. When he got to the check in desk, he was told that he would have to pay 720 pounds to check in all the bags. Obviously he couldn't afford this so he stored them in a storage unit in the airport. Anyway, he knew i was going to London this weekend. He has asked me would i collect the bags when i arrive in London, i can only check in 1 bag and he wants me to meet a friend of his in west London on Saturday to give him the other bag, even though i am travelling to south London. I have no bags checked in at the airport so i will have to go to the hassle of checking in a bag. Haul his 2 bags with me from heathrow to south London, travel back to west London on Saturday to give it to his mate. This seems like a lot of hassle considering i am meant to be going on a holiday. Anyone think i am being unreasonable about the situation cause i feel bad at the same time for not wanting to do this.

Ask yourself the question, would this friend do this for you if you asked? Therein lies the answer to your predicament.

Canis Lupus · 23-09-2010 2:07pm

Make sure look in the bags before you end up at customs with a drugs dog mauling your arse.

Rocky_Dennis · 23-09-2010 2:07pm

pmcmahon wrote: »

would he do it for you?

I honestly don't know if he would.

Sykk · 23-09-2010 2:08pm

No way in hell would I do that, or ask anyone to do that.

FlutterinBantam · 23-09-2010 2:08pm

That friend needs a Burgundy Doc Marten applied to his fcuking nutpurse rapido.

kylith · 23-09-2010 2:09pm

Tell him you'll do it if he arranges for someone to meet you at the airport. You don't want to be held responsible if they get lost/stolen on the tube, you have enough stuff of your own to look after.

fonecrusher1 · 23-09-2010 2:10pm

pmcmahon wrote: »

would he do it for you?

Very true.

I would do my best to help a good friend who has helped me out of bother in the past. But within reason.

I think too much is being asked of the OP. If it was a friend i'd known for years i'd bring the bags but i would make sure he remembered the gesture.

daltonm · 23-09-2010 2:11pm

I think it's a bit much and really putting you out when you are supposed to be taking a break.

My other reservation would be checking in bags that don't belong to me - not saying your pal is up to anything but if one of his bags are flagged for a search and anything is found, you're it!

Rocky_Dennis · 23-09-2010 2:11pm

kylith wrote: »

Tell him you'll do it if he arranges for someone to meet you at the airport. You don't want to be held responsible if they get lost/stolen on the tube, you have enough stuff of your own to look after.

That's the other side of it, if something is lost or damaged, i will be responsible for it, that is hassle i could do without.

Biggins · 23-09-2010 2:12pm

Canis Lupus wrote: »

Make sure look in the bags before you end up at customs with a drugs dog mauling your arse.

Indeed. Its a very strange situation.
I would be very, very weary.

To be honest I would say "No".
If he insisted, I would be looking for compensation for any costs involved and I would be telling him that I would be declaring the bags immediately to security upon arrival at the airport, that the bags were not mine, they were not packed by myself and that I'd have no idea as to content!

Mr. Presentable · 23-09-2010 2:13pm

Either he's a friend - in which case stop bitching and do him a favour - or he's not.

brianthebard · 23-09-2010 2:13pm

He'll never learn if you help him out, he has to get out of his stupidity hole alone!

KevinVonSpiel · 23-09-2010 2:14pm

Andrewh1984 wrote: »

I honestly don't know if he would.

Well, you do know that he's taking the p1ss... you don't have to directly tell him so. Just make some arrangement, real or fictional, that prevents you collecting the stuff...

Rocky_Dennis · 23-09-2010 2:16pm

Mr. Presentable wrote: »

Either he's a friend - in which case stop bitching and do him a favour - or he's not.

I'm not bitching, just asking peoples opinion on the situation.

flyton5 · 23-09-2010 2:16pm

Just say you slept it out and didnt have time to pick up his bags because you only made your flight by the skin of your teeth....if he says anything tell him to fupp off....the baxtard.

fonecrusher1 · 23-09-2010 2:17pm

Mr. Presentable wrote: »

Either he's a friend - in which case stop bitching and do him a favour - or he's not.

That sounds tough & all but i think its a dumb situation his 'friend' has put him in.

Maybe his friend should pull his head out of his hole & be little bit more considerate of other people. This guy is going on his holidays, he doesn't want the bullsh!t hassle of being responsible for someone elses baggage.

Rocky_Dennis · 23-09-2010 2:18pm

flyton5 wrote: »

Just say you slept it out and didnt have time to pick up his bags because you only made your flight by the skin of your teeth....if he says anything tell him to fupp off....the baxtard.

He wants me to collect them when i arrive in London so that excuse is gone.

bonerm · 23-09-2010 2:19pm

Tell him to fook off. I don't even know the guy and I already dislike him.

alwaysadub · 23-09-2010 2:19pm

No, you're not being unreasonable. If it was one bag that you didn't have to travel for,that'd be one thing, but he's taking the piss. Tell him to get a cheap flight and pick his own bags up!

sensibleken · 23-09-2010 2:19pm

Andrewh1984 wrote: »

I'm going to London tomorrow for a couple of days. A friend of mine was living over there for the summer and came back last weekend. God only knows why, but he thought he could check 4 bags at the airport for the flight home. When he got to the check in desk, he was told that he would have to pay 720 pounds to check in all the bags. Obviously he couldn't afford this so he stored them in a storage unit in the airport. Anyway, he knew i was going to London this weekend. He has asked me would i collect the bags when i arrive in London, i can only check in 1 bag and he wants me to meet a friend of his in west London on Saturday to give him the other bag, even though i am travelling to south London. I have no bags checked in at the airport so i will have to go to the hassle of checking in a bag. Haul his 2 bags with me from heathrow to south London, travel back to west London on Saturday to give it to his mate. This seems like a lot of hassle considering i am meant to be going on a holiday. Anyone think i am being unreasonable about the situation cause i feel bad at the same time for not wanting to do this.

Why would you have to meet the friend in west london?
Can his mate not meet you at the airport, you can collect one bag, him the other two at the same time.

I dont think its reasonable what he is asking but it probably wouldnt be too much hassle to get one of the bags through for him if you wanted to help out a mate. just dont ruin your holiday for him

KilOit · 23-09-2010 2:20pm

Most of the friends i have i would do it for no bother, they are very much decent people and don't take advantage of anybody, op only you can answer this question, no one here knows your friends so can't make that call really.

fonecrusher1 · 23-09-2010 2:20pm

Andrewh1984 wrote: »

He wants me to collect them when i arrive in London so that excuse is gone.

Answer this question: Is he a good friend of yours who has helped you out of bother in the past?

Biggins · 23-09-2010 2:22pm

Answer this question: Do you 100% (no if or buts...) trust the person as to contents being 100% legal?

Rocky_Dennis · 23-09-2010 2:22pm

sensibleken wrote: »

Why would you have to meet the friend in west london?
Can his mate not meet you at the airport, you can collect one bag, him the other two at the same time.

I dont think its reasonable what he is asking but it probably wouldnt be too much hassle to get one of the bags through for him if you wanted to help out a mate. just dont ruin your holiday for him

I have given him all these options but he says the only way it will work is if i meet the guy in west London on Saturday. The guy will be working when i arrive in London tomorrow

hypervalve · 23-09-2010 2:24pm

That's asking way too much. Does your friend have a history of cheekiness? I'd offer to bring home one of the bags on the way back but **** bringing two of them out of your way to West London.

kylith · 23-09-2010 2:27pm

Andrewh1984 wrote: »

He wants me to collect them when i arrive in London so that excuse is gone.

So he wants you to pick up his bags, haul them all the way into London, then go out of you way to deliver one to someone you don't know, who knows where, miles out of your way and look after the other one while your on holiday and you're wondering if you're being unreasonable?

The more I hear of this the more inclined I'd be to point him to cheapairfares.com, or wherever, and tell him to pick up his own goddam bags.

OutlawPete · 23-09-2010 2:27pm

Why does he have so much stuff?

He should just bin it and move on.

Never let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat.

fonecrusher1 · 23-09-2010 2:28pm

OP don't do it.

It sounds like the opening scene to one of those Banged up Abroad programs.:eek:

"so all i had to do was meet another guy with the bags"......

Rocky_Dennis · 23-09-2010 2:29pm

hypervalve wrote: »

That's asking way too much. Does your friend have a history of cheekiness? I'd offer to bring home one of the bags on the way back but **** bringing two of them out of your way to West London.

I have offered to do that, i'm trying to give him a hand by doing this but its as if its do the whole lot or nothing:rolleyes:

sensibleken · 23-09-2010 2:29pm

Andrewh1984 wrote: »

I have given him all these options but he says the only way it will work is if i meet the guy in west London on Saturday. The guy will be working when i arrive in London tomorrow

In that case I think its very unreasonable. he can go to london himself for a day or weekend pick em up and give the other two to his mate. Just say your sorry, youd love to help, but it would mean giving up your entire break which you really need. or something along those lines

pickarooney · 23-09-2010 2:30pm

He could just fly over and do it himself surely?

happyfriday · 23-09-2010 3:55pm

He sounds like the one who is being unreasonable. God some people just really know how to take the piss. If it was my friend and I trusted them 100% I'd offer to take 1 bag with me but only on the condition that I could search it myself before bringing it through security (I might sound paranoid and untrustworthy but I'm not taking any chances, I don't care what anyone thinks) No chance I'd be ferrying bags all around London for him and that's for sure and if I were you I'd make that clear!! It's bad enough that you are going to the bother of not checking your own bags therefore cutting out the bull****e of waiting to collect bags when you get back to Dublin but you having to go out your way on your holidays!! Screw that!! Tell him you got your flight details wrong and you are in fact flying into another London airport!! Cheeky bugger!!! :rolleyes:

jackiebaron · 23-09-2010 4:13pm

Andrewh1984 wrote: »

I have given him all these options but he says the only way it will work is if i meet the guy in west London on Saturday. The guy will be working when i arrive in London tomorrow

Tell him to tell his fücking London friend to go to Heathrow to collect his sh!t. The bags aren't coming back with you anyway, are they, so it doesn't matter whether they sit rotting out in Heathrow or not. Don't fall for this wanker's bullcrap. "It has to be Saturday". Tell him to fück off. I'd never put a friend of mine through such an ordeal.

Cunning Stunt · 23-09-2010 4:18pm

Just tell him you won't do it -- why all the drama? Like the last poster said - if he has another friend living in London, then why doesn't he go to the airport and collect the bags. You're on hols ffs

ballsymchugh · 23-09-2010 4:29pm

i take it he has the ticket for the left luggage place in heathrow with him. what you could do is offer to take the ticket and leave it at the aer lingus desk in terminal 1 (presuming that's where he came from) in an envelope marked for his other buddy from west london. this guy just needs to bring his passport and collect the ticket then collect the bags.

every Christmas when i was driving home i used to ask a few people if they needed big stuff brought home. one guy did but we just couldn't figure out when to meet up as i was in south east and he was in west london. in the end, he did what i've just said and i called into heathrow as i passed it on the way home. added about 30 mins to the spin but in the big scheme it was no bother.

failing that, he could ring ups or dhl and see if they offer a collection and deliver. it'd probably still be cheaper than storage and checking in for a flight.

Cheap Thrills! · 23-09-2010 4:40pm

Tell him no you won't be doing it. Be honest, just tell him you're not bothered with the hassle.

He sounds like one of those stupid, thoughtless people who brings inconvenience and irritation to everyone around. Don't 'fix' this mess for him, he'll never learn to think for himself if you sort this out for him.

If you're afraid he'll be annoyed if you say no, then grow a backbone. He might be annoyed but you should be annoyed with him for expecting his incompetence to be mopped up by his friend WHILE ON HOLIDAY.

Just tell him no, you're going oh holiday to enjoy yourself. Its HIS problem if he tried to bring home 4 bags on a plane, (btw does he live under a rock or is he thick or what?) not yours.

ascanbe · 23-09-2010 4:41pm

Andrewh1984 wrote: »

I have given him all these options but he says the only way it will work is if i meet the guy in west London on Saturday. The guy will be working when i arrive in London tomorrow

Well, give him another option; fcuk off for himself.
You shouldn't even be considering this unless it's for a really close friend in a bind, who you know would do the same for you.

falan · 23-09-2010 4:45pm

Just say no. I would never put someone under that pressure...

23-09-2010 5:22pm

Sounds a bit dodgy to me...maybe I'm watching too much telly, but do you actually know this friend of his? If not, he could be anybody and anything could be in these bags!
If however you knew who he was and what was in them, and it wasn't putting you out of your way then fair enough a favor's a favor and you could call on it later...but it is, so f*ck it, don't do it!

LizT · 23-09-2010 5:42pm

OP, you're not being unreasonable.
If for some reason the bags go missing, you're the one who will have to spend a couple of hours in the airport waiting for them to turn up.

As it is, if you did check them that would add time onto your journey. He's taking advantage of you, tell him that you just can't accept responsibility for his bags.

sheesh · 23-09-2010 6:11pm

forget the key to the locker, ring him in london being all apologetic .... that way you don't have to say no..

LizT · 23-09-2010 6:30pm

sheesh wrote: »

forget the key to the locker, ring him in london being all apologetic .... that way you don't have to say no..

There's no need for that. Just tell him the truth, it's an inconvenience and you don't feel comfortable doing it. Don't dig yourself into a hole.

goat2 · 23-09-2010 6:35pm

Andrewh1984 wrote: »

I'm going to London tomorrow for a couple of days. A friend of mine was living over there for the summer and came back last weekend. God only knows why, but he thought he could check 4 bags at the airport for the flight home. When he got to the check in desk, he was told that he would have to pay 720 pounds to check in all the bags. Obviously he couldn't afford this so he stored them in a storage unit in the airport. Anyway, he knew i was going to London this weekend. He has asked me would i collect the bags when i arrive in London, i can only check in 1 bag and he wants me to meet a friend of his in west London on Saturday to give him the other bag, even though i am travelling to south London. I have no bags checked in at the airport so i will have to go to the hassle of checking in a bag. Haul his 2 bags with me from heathrow to south London, travel back to west London on Saturday to give it to his mate. This seems like a lot of hassle considering i am meant to be going on a holiday. Anyone think i am being unreasonable about the situation cause i feel bad at the same time for not wanting to do this.

dont touch those bags, you are asked if you packed them yourself at the airport, you are not one hundred percent sure what is inside, you could find yourself there at her majastys pleasure for more than a weekend if there is something that should not be in the bag present

TimeToShine · 23-09-2010 7:09pm

I don't mean to offend the OP, but your "friend" is an absolute douche for asking you to do this. You're going away for A COUPLE OF DAYS, not a fúcking month, and he's asking you to traipse along from one side of London to the other "not that cheap either", meet some guy you'll take ages to find, and then all the way back, and all this at the end of your holiday so all you're gonna think about it what if they get lost etc...The gobshíte should have AT THE VERY LEAST arranged so that his "friend" meet YOU at the airport, otherwise tell him to go royally **** himself.

Am i being unreasonable?

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