House/flatshare situation.

fonecrusher1

How much do you interact with your housemates?

I live in a houseshare with 3 other people. Theres very little contact between any of us. Conversations are nothing more than formal pleasantries ie; "morning" or "hows it going" or "goodluck". Its a very quiet house, boring in fact.

My friend lives in a house where there always seems to be something going on, he has a great laugh with his housemates, always beers, xbox, friends of friends mingling & so on. Then i go back to my place & its zzzzzz.....

Thing is theres a compromise for both situations. For me, as ive described above. For my buddy he says sometimes his gaff can turn into a smokey, noisey sh!thole, almost pub-like. Theres been manys a punch up over certain people not being able to sleep etc etc.

So fellow houseshare type people, do you live in snoresville or a bit of a party house?


Im already laughing at first few puns & jokes...you guys just crack me up.

OutlawPete

I live alone so good side to that is it's loud and noisy / quiet and peaceful .. of my own choosing

Bad side is there's a deficiency of naked lady to cuddle me

Oranage2

well the only house mates i had were mom and Dad and we did some partying but all seriousness aside - i lived away for college and didnt know the lads but we all came good friends and drank, PS3 and party nearly every day - good times.

Maybe move out to a college area - you'll never have to grow up

orourkeda

Any gang bang potential?

Orange69

Walk around the house with your penis out for a couple of days, that should get the conversation going at least.

mikom

I live in my own house with the missus.
Snoresville somedays, party house somedays.
Such is life.

NoHornJan

Always go for the top bunk.


A bit of advice from experience.

AskMyChocolate

Orange69 wrote: »

Walk around the house with your penis out for a couple of days, that should get the conversation going at least.

Tried that, but tbh I didn't become any more interesting.

Pdfile

AskMyChocolate wrote: »

Tried that, but tbh I didn't become any more interesting.

tuck it between your legs

get on all fours

start barking like a pitbull.

Instant win.

scientific1982

Party houses are good craic for a while but id take a quiet place anyday now. Plus its more fun wrecking other peoples houses.

Mr Benevolent

fonecrusher1 wrote: »

How much do you interact with your housemates?

I live in a houseshare with 3 other people. Theres very little contact between any of us. Conversations are nothing more than formal pleasantries ie; "morning" or "hows it going" or "goodluck". Its a very quiet house, boring in fact.

My friend lives in a house where there always seems to be something going on, he has a great laugh with his housemates, always beers, xbox, friends of friends mingling & so on. Then i go back to my place & its zzzzzz.....

Thing is theres a compromise for both situations. For me, as ive described above. For my buddy he says sometimes his gaff can turn into a smokey, noisey sh!thole, almost pub-like. Theres been manys a punch up over certain people not being able to sleep etc etc.

So fellow houseshare type people, do you live in snoresville or a bit of a party house?


Im already laughing at first few puns & jokes...you guys just crack me up.

I try to stay to myself as much as possible. I'll be friendly, but not overly social. I far prefer a quiet house. One particular place was interesting. A new girl moved in and we got on well. The others kept at me to go for broke but I wasn't bothered as getting cosy with a housemate usually causes more trouble than it's worth. Anyway, another guy from the house hooks up with her and he spends the next few months trying desparately to make me feel jealous. Anyway, it turns out he's engaged and has a kid. Chaos ensues.

That was actually a fun house. The last place I was in was Brisbane. A sterile apartment with myself and my girlfriend and 4 Koreans. Nobody spoke to anyone unless nessecary, it was a bit like being in a dole queue.

Mackman

Ive lived in both. Once i was living with 2 women, boring, each had our own lives. Luckily, my mates had a party house around the corner, so i just went over there every night.
Had the best of both worlds

Terry

I get on really well with one of my lodgers. He's been here for about 2 years now. I rarely see him though.
We'll have a drink together the odd night, but he's quiet and prefers to keep to himself, as do I. Once he has his tv or a few DVDs, and a few cans, he's happy.

Then there's the needy little bitch of a conspiracy theorist.
He just keeps on whining about his ex girlfriend. Gets into constant rows with her over the phone, and then spends the night with her.
He'll be back in a few hours with another story that I've heard 500 times over the past 4 months. Then he'll get stroppy when I tell him that I don't really give a flying **** about how his ex has pissed him off, go up to his room and play country music at a loud volume, then start sulking when I ask him to turn it down because the neighbour's kids are in bed and the walls are very thin.

He's on a thin line now, and the only reason he still has a roof over his head here is because he has nowhere else to go.

My friends won't come over any more because he pisses them off too.

Snowie

having lived in a house were We used to have partys for 3 days striaght
living in a quite house sounds like a sweet deal...

There less mess to contend with, we have a fair few partys in my appartment this but, the cleen up sucks ass, I hate wakign up with ahead like acave man and trying to cleen up a house half drunk with the smell of cigerate ash sticky floors and crap every were its just not worth it..

tho having said that if i ever get my own own place i would have big partys get every one over for fancy dress partys.... and just partys i wouldnt be into the dinner party coupley ****e of sittign around with red and having mature conversation and ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh


so not me

Austerity

When I lived in Ireland I shared a house with pretty quiet people, no parties and everyone went to sleep early from Monday to Friday. If I'm sharing with people I prefer to live with quiet people.

I prefer keeping to myself mostly.

fasty

I like a bit of interaction beyond your basic 'hello' in the morning or after work and in the place where I live I can get that. We all get along, have a bit of crack and occasionally socialise together without going overboard so it straddles the line between quiet and party house.

Sometimes there are parties of course, but I personally hate them and usually go to bed after a few hours with earplugs. I don't really like strangers in my house tbh.

kfallon

fonecrusher1 wrote: »

So fellow houseshare type people, do you live in snoresville or a bit of a party house?

Give me snoresville any day!! Believe me it's best!

kylith

I live with my OH so I have a fair bit of interaction with him.

When I had housemates I always wanted them to leave me alone because I generally hate people. One guy was great; used to stay in his room watching films, though I did worry sometimes that he was going to top himself.

After him came a girl who couldn't get the message to frak off and leave me alone. I even got NTL put in in her room but she just wouldn't leave me alone. Wouldn't have been too bad but she was always coming out with frakking stupid comments.

Some of my mates have lived in party houses; they're nice to visit, but I wouldn't want to live there.

curlzy

Really depends on who you're living with, I lived with great people for 2 years and it was party central, then I lived with Bitchface McTotaltool for 10 months, I spent most of that time avoiding common areas/her. Now I live with just my bf so it's party central when we want and snoresville when we want

kfallon

curlzy wrote: »

then I lived with Bitchface McTotaltool for 10 months

How is Bitchface these days, not seen her in a while. Tell her I was asking for her won't ya

MingulayJohnny

First house share in Dublin was with a neighbour from down the country. Just the two of us and we didn't crowd each other. Was young enough so went home most weekends. Then his girlfriend moved in and I was a strange bird in the nest. The push out started with constant suggestions that 'You can move the small tv up to your room if you want' , I played dumb and just went 'Nah I'm fine here'. Eventually the tension got too much and I split.

Next house share was with two strangers who were laid back enough and ended up spending almost three years tearing up Dublin with one of them. Crazy , crazy times. We ended up having to leave because the house was being sold and we just didn't stay in contact.

Since then been living on my own except for spending the first half on this year in a house share with a friend. Decent fella but a nightmare to live with , he couldn't stand boxes of tea being displayed on the worktop!! , He once packed my shoes away and I couldn't leave the house for half an hour. very anal & OCD. I see ads for house shares with 4-5 people now and I just cringe.

Mr Benevolent

When I had housemates I always wanted them to leave me alone because I generally hate people.

WTF? Why are you on Boards instead of emailing yourself or something?

kylith

Confab wrote: »

WTF? Why are you on Boards instead of emailing yourself or something?

I enjoy hating ye from behind my computer screen. If ye were in my house I'd properly hate ye.

curlzy

kfallon wrote: »

How is Bitchface these days, not seen her in a while. Tell her I was asking for her won't ya

LOLS:D She's still a bitchface, only seen her a couple of times since, thank the flying spagetti moster!!! But if I do see her I'll tell her you were asking for her!!:eek:

I can't stand party houses. I lived in one on Erasmus and it was hell. I'd go to brush my teeth and find someone puking in the bathroom, I'd get up in the morning for college and find 4 people asleep on the couches, go to get my breakfast and discover that all my milk and cereal were gone. I can't live like that. I like parties and all but not in my home! Quiet and boring sounds perfect to me. If I want to party, I'll go out.

the_syco

Terry wrote: »

He's on a thin line now, and the only reason he still has a roof over his head here is because he has nowhere else to go.

Sounds like he has no reason to move out. Give him a months notice, and throw the f**ker out. Better yet, have someone snail mail you telling you that he has to be thrown out, as he's getting too close to uncovering the plans for world domination. Have everything typed out, including the envelope, and have the "one wold order" logo on the back. Leave it lying around, maybe on the kitchen table, so that he'll think it's all part of some conspiracy.

Sykk

Ah the two of them are alright. Don't head out for pints or anything. I'm moving in with mates shortly

stovelid

Don't house share but I would preferred a quiet house to live in and then just partied in the houses where the people there were are mugs enough to let you.

Eddie Ere

kylith wrote: »

I even got NTL put in in her room but she just wouldn't leave me alone.

kylith

Eddie Ere wrote: »

She wanted to watch crap telly, so I got digital telly put in in her bedroom (the house I live in belongs to a family member) so she could go up there and watch whatever she wanted. She still insited on sitting in the living room asking stupid questions about series 5 of the programme I was watching.

smash

fonecrusher1 wrote: »

How much do you interact with your housemates?

I live in a houseshare with 3 other people. Theres very little contact between any of us.

You need one of these:

squeakyduck

I used to live with a few friends we used to party every so often and there was a general good atmosphere in the house. Then we all split up and went our own ways.

I now live with a girl and a guy. I keep to myself we are all in and out of the house at different times and if I'm off I usually stay in bed with my laptop!I moved here just as I started my MA so I needed silence to read and do my work and stuff! I love it here though in between town and where I work and my boyfriend is a short bus ride away!

fonecrusher1

I think in hindsight im actually quite happy that i live in a quiet house.

Its great having a few drinks in someones elses house but even better being able to walk away back to normality.:pac:

I couldn't live in a mad house, i actually like being able to get to sleep at a normal time & living in a clean organised house. Even though it is painfully quiet i think ultimately its better than the alternative.

Not being able to sleep is a sh!t way to live.

stupidusername

I've lived in party houses, and hated it because at the time I was in college years 3 and 4, and I actually took my work seriously at that point, and didn't appreciate being kept awake til 5am every day.

Right now I'm sharing with one girl. Her smoking really gets to me (but I'm moving out anyway) and besides that it's pretty ok. Though she leaves the windows open ALL the time, and doesn't seem to notice when the dishwasher has already been put on so keeps putting it on again leaving me with no dishes (see rant in R&R). despite all that she's quiet and doesn't have people over and is reasonably tidy and clean, so it's probably still one of the best places I've lived :rolleyes:

anniehoo

Gimme a quiet boring house anyday. Lived with my best friend for 3 years and had no major problems tbh, neither of us liked talking in the morning and were night owls so worked out well. Had mutual friends and liked boozin on the weekends. When she moved out i had a flatmate from hell then. Never paid bills on time, moonlighted her hair dressing business from our sitting room (not fun comin home to chunks of randomers hair all over the table,floor,couch). ..and she was friends with a local dealer,who regularly called over and scared the life outta me. She owed me nearly a grand by the time i moved out.Never again.

Live on my own now and LOVE it! My own mess, my own noise..my own space.:D

mack81

the_syco wrote: »

Sounds like he has no reason to move out. Give him a months notice, and throw the f**ker out. Better yet, have someone snail mail you telling you that he has to be thrown out, as he's getting too close to uncovering the plans for world domination. Have everything typed out, including the envelope, and have the "one wold order" logo on the back. Leave it lying around, maybe on the kitchen table, so that he'll think it's all part of some conspiracy.

Please do this and let us know what happens. I would do it only i live with my girlfriend and she would just laugh at me and lock me under the stairs again

fonecrusher1

stupidusername wrote: »

I've lived in party houses, and hated it because at the time I was in college years 3 and 4, and I actually took my work seriously at that point, and didn't appreciate being kept awake til 5am every day.

Right now I'm sharing with one girl. Her smoking really gets to me (but I'm moving out anyway) and besides that it's pretty ok. Though she leaves the windows open ALL the time, and doesn't seem to notice when the dishwasher has already been put on so keeps putting it on again leaving me with no dishes (see rant in R&R). despite all that she's quiet and doesn't have people over and is reasonably tidy and clean, so it's probably still one of the best places I've lived :rolleyes:

To be honest i just wouldn't have it. I don't smoke, i live in a no-smoking house & if someone took it upon themselves to start smoking in the house i'd very quickly tell them not to.

Occasional loud music or slight messiness is one thing, inhaling secondary smoke is unacceptable.

stupidusername

fonecrusher1 wrote: »

To be honest i just wouldn't have it. I don't smoke, i live in a no-smoking house & if someone took it upon themselves to start smoking in the house i'd very quickly tell them not to.

Occasional loud music or slight messiness is one thing, inhaling secondary smoke is unacceptable.

well see that's where its tricky. I asked before I moved in did she smoke, she said ya but she only smokes in her room, so i thought fine. but she doesn't. if she's in the sitting room alone, she'll smoke, but if i go in she'll stub it out. she wont light up if i'm there. but the place still stinks, and my clothes still stink.and my throat still gets irritated. Even when she does smoke in her room the place stinks up.

fonecrusher1

stupidusername wrote: »

well see that's where its tricky. I asked before I moved in did she smoke, she said ya but she only smokes in her room, so i thought fine. but she doesn't. if she's in the sitting room alone, she'll smoke, but if i go in she'll stub it out. she wont light up if i'm there. but the place still stinks, and my clothes still stink.and my throat still gets irritated. Even when she does smoke in her room the place stinks up.

Ah i see. Well unfortunately you knew it was a smoking house before you moved in. Oh well.

Thats the thing about cigarette smoke, no matter where the smoker is, the smell travels to every single room in the house. I used to smoke myself so i know all about it!

stupidusername

fonecrusher1 wrote: »

Ah i see. Well unfortunately you knew it was a smoking house before you moved in. Oh well.

Thats the thing about cigarette smoke, no matter where the smoker is, the smell travels to every single room in the house. I used to smoke myself so i know all about it!

Yep. it just stinks the whole place up.

so anyone have a house for me to move to??

scientific1982

kylith wrote: »

I live with my OH so I have a fair bit of interaction with him.

When I had housemates I always wanted them to leave me alone because I generally hate people. One guy was great; used to stay in his room watching films, though I did worry sometimes that he was going to top himself.

After him came a girl who couldn't get the message to frak off and leave me alone. I even got NTL put in in her room but she just wouldn't leave me alone. Wouldn't have been too bad but she was always coming out with frakking stupid comments.

Some of my mates have lived in party houses; they're nice to visit, but I wouldn't want to live there.

Jeez, you sound like a pleasure to live with.

Adyx

I seem to alternate between party houses and quiet houses. I lived in one student house (with a couple of friends but I worked full time) and there was 10 of us living there, most of whom were bordering on insane even when sober. There was never any clean dishes and the house got trashed regularly but it was a good laugh.
These days I'm in a quiet(ish) house but I would give anything to live on my own, just for the privacy and peace & quiet.

scientific1982

Mostly lived with mates. First few years serious party houses and now relatively quiet. Rather goin to the pub anyday over a house party. Could never live in a house where the only interaction was hello and a few pleasantries. You're spending a significant portion of your time at home so you might as well have a bit of craic with your housemates instead of being a dry ****e.

ATMW

In my time I shared many flats, mainly in Dublin and London, the one thing I couldn't stand was flatmates that wouldn't talk to you.

My daughter is in a flat now, and she moans that one of her flat mates gets up in the morning and walks about the place in her knickers and a t-shirt. When I was her age I often used to do that myself! but times change--would it be considered "acceptable" now?

who what when

kylith wrote: »

She wanted to watch crap telly, so I got digital telly put in in her bedroom (the house I live in belongs to a family member) so she could go up there and watch whatever she wanted. She still insited on sitting in the living room asking stupid questions about series 5 of the programme I was watching.

I bet that poor girl has some nightmare stories about you her flatmates!

Terry

the_syco wrote: »

Sounds like he has no reason to move out. Give him a months notice, and throw the f**ker out. Better yet, have someone snail mail you telling you that he has to be thrown out, as he's getting too close to uncovering the plans for world domination. Have everything typed out, including the envelope, and have the "one wold order" logo on the back. Leave it lying around, maybe on the kitchen table, so that he'll think it's all part of some conspiracy.

Do you have the stationary to do that?
I'm fairly certain I gave you my address before.

ATMW wrote: »

In my time I shared many flats, mainly in Dublin and London, the one thing I couldn't stand was flatmates that wouldn't talk to you.

My daughter is in a flat now, and she moans that one of her flat mates gets up in the morning and walks about the place in her knickers and a t-shirt. When I was her age I often used to do that myself! but times change--would it be considered "acceptable" now?

The one thing i miss about living alone is that I can no longer be naked all day. I hate wearing clothes, but do so because nobody needs to see me naked. Again.

icywind1980

steve06 wrote: »

You need one of these:

Do Want!!

As for the topic at hand, I've lived in a party house and it's crap. People always eating your food, using your things, fouling up your bathroom (hopefully not the hall) with their messes. No thank you. I'll take the quiet house any day.

CHealy

I live with two of my very good friends, we've known each other since we started primary so since bout 4/5 and we all know each others hates and habits so its very easy to avoid arguments and the like. Sitting down watching tv on a quiet night is like watching it with 2 brothers cause were all so comfortable around each other. When we have party's it generally brilliant cause we all have the same group of friends and know all the same people.

At the moment i wouldnt change it for the world tbh

problemchimp

Maybe they wait until you've gone out and then the fun begins. Talking' laughing, joking, drinking, sex and spliffs. Are you a pain in the hoop to live with? lighten up and step away from your computer. Maybe have a wash aswell.

Mr Benevolent

ATMW wrote: »

My daughter is in a flat now, and she moans that one of her flat mates gets up in the morning and walks about the place in her knickers and a t-shirt. When I was her age I often used to do that myself! but times change--would it be considered "acceptable" now?

Yes if it's only girls living there, unless the flatmate has much better legs than everyone else in the flat.

I hate wearing clothes, but do so because nobody needs to see me naked. Again.

I'm still getting nightmares about that pic.

NothingMan

ATMW wrote: »

My daughter is in a flat now, and she moans that one of her flat mates gets up in the morning and walks about the place in her knickers and a t-shirt. When I was her age I often used to do that myself! but times change--would it be considered "acceptable" now?

If your daughter hates it so much she can move in with my gf and i'll move in with knickers girl.

I lived with 4 guys in college in a tiny house. Was good for a bit of socialising but 2 were really messy and lazy and one of them I just plain didn't like. A lot of mess, never a clean plate and they broke my stuff. So wouldn't wanna do it again.

I have a mate who lives with 6 other guys, all into music or UFC and all can be crazy bastards when in the mood, yet he said they rarely have parties and it's quite peaceful. Also he's the only one who's not a vegetarian so nobody touches his food. That sounds like a decent situation.