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I hate engagement ring shopping!!!! :mad:
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22-09-2010 8:16pm#1My boyfriend proposed at the weekend; great big shock cos we're together years and I'd given up on it ever happening, but it has, and now I have to choose a ring(proposal was with a one he got in Next:p)
So I've been looking since, and I HATE it, I just HATE it. It is the least most enjoyable shopping experience I have ever had. I don't have a clue, but I know what looks crap on my hand, and I'm sick of having sh1tty rings foisted on me, when even I know they look terrible. I'm not really interested in jewellery, but that seems to equate to 'lets trot out the most boring ring we have in the shop cos she doesn't care anyway'. Trays and trays of rings being brought to me, and me too polite to tell then I hate them all, so instead I hum and haw over them all:o
We have a decent budget, about 20k, or at least I think that's decent
I just want a nice ring, but I'm hating the experience so far, I was almost in tears in a shop today cos I'm so clueless and they expected me to know what I wanted. Is it normal to be like this?? I don't even want to be engaged right now:(0
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Eliza Dolittle wrote: »My boyfriend proposed at the weekend; great big shock cos we're together years and I'd given up on it ever happening, but it has, and now I have to choose a ring(proposal was with a one he got in Next:p)
So I've been looking since, and I HATE it, I just HATE it. It is the least most enjoyable shopping experience I have ever had. I don't have a clue, but I know what looks crap on my hand, and I'm sick of having sh1tty rings foisted on me, when even I know they look terrible. I'm not really interested in jewellery, but that seems to equate to 'lets trot out the most boring ring we have in the shop cos she doesn't care anyway'. Trays and trays of rings being brought to me, and me too polite to tell then I hate them all, so instead I hum and haw over them all:o
We have a decent budget, about 20k, or at least I think that's decent
I just want a nice ring, but I'm hating the experience so far, I was almost in tears in a shop today cos I'm so clueless and they expected me to know what I wanted. Is it normal to be like this?? I don't even want to be engaged right now:(
€20 grand for a ring, Thats a lot for an engagement ring. You should enjoy the experience though, You don't have to look straight away for a ring, you could always pick a few shops that you think you might like the ring from and have a look at them on the internet and get a few ideas instead of the assistants pushing rings and you might get see a few you like and then you could have a look then. I would love if my boyfriend proposed to me, we are together over 9 years but unfortunately we have both lost our jobs (me more recently) so we wont be getting engaged for another few years. Enjoy looking for rings
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20k for a ring >.>
Are you mad? Well I suppose if you can afford it and have nothing better to spend it on but still.. Either way get something without diamonds
Or as the other poster suggested, get something else that would mean more to the both of you? 0 -
€20 grand for a ring, Thats a lot for an engagement ring. You should enjoy the experience though, You don't have to look straight away for a ring, you could always pick a few shops that you think you might like the ring from and have a look at them on the internet and get a few ideas instead of the assistants pushing rings and you might get see a few you like and then you could have a look then. I would love if my boyfriend proposed to me, we are together over 9 years but unfortunately we have both lost our jobs (me more recently) so we wont be getting engaged for another few years. Enjoy looking for rings
Is it a good budget?? One shop made out like it was a rubbish budget???
I'd just like to have the ring for when we go official with the announcement; I have been looking online but what looks good online hasn't looked so good in reality. I'm really not enjoying the experience; I saw a ring in a shop on Sunday and I thinking of just going with it because I really cannot handle the stress of this, it has me totally befuddled.....how am I going to cope with planning a wedding LOL:D0 -
20k for a ring >.>
Are you mad? Well I suppose if you can afford it and have nothing better to spend it on but still.. Either way get something without diamonds Or as the other poster suggested, get something else that would mean more to the both of you?
My partner really wants me to have a ring. I tried to suggest this last night but he really wants me to have one; it seems to be quite important to him. I'd rather a puppy or a kitten tbh:p0 -
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If you're spending €20k on a ring then you obviously have a lot of money anyway, so money isn't an issue
Go into Tiffany! It's in Brown Thomas, and you can get an amazing ring in there for that price. Cartier is there too beside it if you'd like to visit there.
If you're spending €20k though it should be an enjoyable experience!0 -
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Just want to add are you nuts paying 20k for a ring! its only a stone at the end of the day.
Congratulations on your engagement. Wear your next ring for now
www.shopdi.com have a huge selection of rings, (not to purchase as its a USA company) but they have huge variety.
Its all what suits your fingers, style. It does not matter what you spend as long as your happy. 0 -
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Even if your budget is 20k, you don't have to spend the whole amount! This seems like enough to pay for a whole wedding IMO! :eek:
I'd avoid Tiffanys. I'm not engaged or anything, but their jewellery is so overpriced! You could go on a short trip to Antwerp or New York's Diamond District & get something made up specially for you, much better value than Tiffanys (although yes we should be spending our money at home blah blah blah...) and have a little holiday together at the same time 0 -
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Eliza Dolittle wrote: »Well, I don't have to spend the whole amount:D
And he'd probably prefer I didn't:p
I've not really looked at antique rings yet; I will be looking at some on Friday tho. Maybe that might be a nicer experience
Antique rings are fab. I got mine in a shop in Powerscourt Townhouse. Was looking at some yesterday and they are just fab. Farringtons near George's St arcade have lovely ones as well. 20k is a huge budget, you'd get something lovely for way less than that.0 -
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Eliza Dolittle wrote: »Well, I don't have to spend the whole amount:D
And he'd probably prefer I didn't:p
I've not really looked at antique rings yet; I will be looking at some on Friday tho. Maybe that might be a nicer experience
Just my opinion but maybe it would help you,
are you telling them you have a budget of 20k? it might seem pathetic but it might be the reason they are throwing random rings at you, (jealousy is never a good thing) so maybe if you try telling them your budget is 2-5k but you might be able to stretch to more (plus there are some gorgeous rings at those prices) you may get a better attitude from sales staff....
by the way congratulations on your engagement and enjoy your shopping experience remember its all about you 0 -
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tinkerbell wrote: »Actually OP, I was just thinking - if it's your boyfriend who wants you to get this ring more than you do, why don't you tell him to go off and surprise you and buy the ring himself?
to be fair, if she really finds most of the rings boring, it's putting a lot of pressure on her fiance to find the perfect ring - it's going to be a long 50 years if she doesn't like her ring that she has to look at every day!!
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op, i hear ya. i reckon i looked at every single engagement ring on the whole of the internet when we decided to buy a ring!! it got worse when i started looking in shops. pushy sales people who would listen to what i had in mind, scrunch up their faces and then show me something completely different, always trying to push on me what they would make the most commission from, not what i was interested in buying.
i do *kind of* agree that 20k is a ridonkulous amount of money to spend on a ring, but he obviously thinks you're worth it, and no one can tell you NOT to spend that much, good god that's no one's business but yours and his, at the end of the day. just bear in mind that it's only a ring. i just know myself that i'd never be able to leave the house knowing i had that much money on my finger!!!
i would urge urge urge you to get in contact with seamus from voltaire. i can give you more details if you want to pm me, but the main thing you'll get out of dealing with him is courtesy, choice, and most of all a relaxed atmosphere. he meets in a private space in dublin, and it's all so relaxed. there's no one else snooping and distracting either of ye. he has an immense choice of rings for you to look at, or if you have something in mind, like a certain shape or style he can get it made up for you - that's what i did - just gave him a photo of one i had found in a shop. there's no rush, you can take as long as you want trying things on, there's no sales speak, and he's such a genuine fella that he's happier that you get what you want. and with that budget you could basically get ANYTHING you wanted.
congratulations to you both on your engagement anyway, being engaged rocks 0 -
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One thing to consider when you're shopping - I would imagine that the majority of customers in these shops would have a budget of maybe €1,000 to €5,000 for their engagement ring, so obviously the shops are going to stock a much wider range of rings for this price range.
But if you come into the shop and tell them that you have a budget of €20,000, well then obviously the assistant is only going to show you the rings that they stock for around that price, in the hope of getting as much commission as possible. However chances are they won't have anywhere near as many rings in stock at that price as they have at lower prices.
Sounds like you've tried on plenty of rings at this stage, so you must have some idea of what you're looking for? What sort of metal you prefer, whether you want diamonds or other stones, etc? I think that you might have a better chance of success if, rather than telling the assistant your budget, just tell them the sort of style that you think you might like, and see what they come out with.
I know you say that you want a nice ring to show off when you announce the engagement, but you have every chance of getting a beautiful ring that you both love at a fraction of the cost, and it's not like you'll be telling anyone else the price of your engagement ring anyways!!!
If you really want to spend all that money, then it could still be of benefit to have a look at the more reasonably priced rings. As I said, there'll be a much wider range of them in the shops, and you might get a better idea of the style you want ... you could then go and get a similar ring made but with bigger diamonds or whatever.
Congratulations and best of luck with the shopping. 0 -
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