don't know what to call this

This is inspired by the misogynist thread on AH....and various blogs

Imo when someone replies with an openly misogynistic comment to threads and are well aware they are doing it...they are propeller fairly harmless and well aware of what they are like...and if you meet them in real life they might be alright and you could maybe have a good argument with them.

However the kind of misogynist that is much more creep and scary imo goes like this ....they know an openly misogynist comment wouldn't be acceptably so they cover it with a mask of politeness and seemingly reasonably comments and they make sure their answers are open to multiply meaning.

For Example you might get a man saying something like this....i would love to meet a woman and be in relationship but at the moment i am broke i wouldn't be able to afford to take a woman out for a coffee, where are all the woman that enjoy the simple thing in life bla bla bla after a while you realize that hes actual agenda is a belief that all women are gold digging bitches... but as i said he has the intelligence to know saying that wouldn't be acceptably and that what make that kind of misogyny scary.

Anyone agree with me

Feeona

I believe the correct term is 'snivelling little ars*hole with no back bone' derived from the Latin arseholicus invertebrate

g'em

What's happening in other forums is not up for discussion here so pelase keep AH and its posters out of this thread, thanks.

sorry didn't think and as said i was only inspired by AH but you see it in lot of blogs and discussion sites not just boards!

SugarHigh

For Example you might get a man saying something like this....i would love to meet a woman and be in relationship but at the moment i am broke i wouldn't be able to afford to take a woman out for a coffee, where are all the woman that enjoy the simple thing in life bla bla bla after a while you realize that hes actual agenda is a belief that all women are gold digging bitches...

I don't see how thats a misogynist comment. Being in a relationship is more expensive than being single and by saying that I'm not calling women gold diggers. It's more expensive for both people.

At the start of a relationship you are usually expected to go and do stuff which maybe he can't afford. If they go out for dinner and split the bill that's still more expensive than if he stayed at home.

If he's broke it's also less likely he would meet someone because he wouldn't be going out anywhere.

Wibbs

SugarHigh wrote: »

I don't see how thats a misogynist comment. Being in a relationship is more expensive than being single and by saying that I'm not calling women gold diggers. It's more expensive for both people.

I'd be feeling similar and like you said it can be expensive for both. Now if the same guy said all women are gold diggers thats entirely different. Now yes some might be mealy mouthed and come out with the former to hide the latter, but I'd be working benefit of the doubt on that stuff.

Des Carter

mariaalice wrote: »

For Example you might get a man saying something like this....i would love to meet a woman and be in relationship but at the moment i am broke i wouldn't be able to afford to take a woman out for a coffee, where are all the woman that enjoy the simple thing in life bla bla bla after a while you realize that hes actual agenda is a belief that all women are gold digging bitches... but as i said he has the intelligence to know saying that wouldn't be acceptably and that what make that kind of misogyny scary.
Anyone agree with me

IMO You are reading far too much into these comments.

Maybe this isn't a good thread because you need to have read blogs and used message board for a long time to understand and its partly to do with the anonymity of the internet and how it allows people with good communication skills to mask the real meaning of what they are saying while simultaneously pretending to engage with the topic that is being discussed....

My head hurts after thinking that through:P

SugarHigh

mariaalice wrote: »

Maybe this isn't a good thread because you need to have read blogs and used message board for a long time to understand and its partly to do with the anonymity of the internet and how it allows people with good communication skills to mask the real meaning of what they are saying while simultaneously pretending to engage with the topic that is being discussed....

My head hurts after thinking that through:P

I think what you are saying definitely happens. The trouble is you can't be sure if that was actually their intention and I don't think it's fair to just assume it was and judge them on it.

hobochris

mariaalice wrote: »

For Example you might get a man saying something like this....i would love to meet a woman and be in relationship but at the moment i am broke i wouldn't be able to afford to take a woman out for a coffee, where are all the woman that enjoy the simple thing in life bla bla bla after a while you realize that hes actual agenda is a belief that all women are gold digging bitches... but as i said he has the intelligence to know saying that wouldn't be acceptably and that what make that kind of misogyny scary.

I wouldn't consider that Misogyny. As far as I'm concerned if I was to ask someone out for a coffee or something, I made the invite, so I pay. Many of my female friends go by the same etiquette. It sounds like the man in the example goes buy the same etiquette.

Labelling all women as 'gold digging bitches' from this example seem a bit far fetched.


I know the type of person you talking about, Both as Misogynists and Misandrists. Either way they are usually someone who articulates themselves very well to mask the hatred or belittling of the opposite sex usually fuelled by pent up frustration, possibly from lack of success meeting a desirable partner(just my guess).

This one is for Wibbs and its kinda related to the topic there was a time i use to long onto boards very early in the morning at the weekends ( long story why i was up that early )...but at time you would see threads that were very misogynistic or racist or even down right insane i realized that those people were doing that in the hopes that the sites weren't moderated at that hour of the morning and they might get there mad ideas out there.....of course when the moderators got a look at the post they were locked or deleted...so what i am trying to say is that people will use all sort of ways to get there agenda across!

pickarooney

Or they were drunk and posting uninhibited? I'm trying to think of an English word to describe what you're talking about. Wibbs' "mealy-mouthed" is probably the best term.