No interest

Sound Bite

Anyone I want to be with or would want to start a relationship with is not interested in me.

The men that are interested in me, I usually do not find attractive. I have met some very nice, decent, genuine guys but I simply don't find them attractive. When I say attractive I don't mean just looks/physically, I mean in terms of personality etc.

I used to think it was just bad look but it happens so often that I'm starting to question it more. Any thoughts?

midlandsmissus

You want what you cant have. We all do this.

johnr1

This is interesting, I have almost exactly the same experience with women a lot of the time. I think it's too silmplistic to say " We all want what we can't have". There must be something we are doing or some vibe we give off when interested which is offputting to the target of our interest.
I personally am more attracted to physically smaller women a couple of years younger than me but recieve loads of interest from tall women who are older then me.
Obviously personality is far more important but at the initial attraction stage we usually make decisions in a few seconds, and these decisions are seldom overturned.
Didn't mean to hijack your thread OP but I think it's the same thing at work here.
Anybody got any insights ?

Ickle Magoo

Perhaps you deliberately distance yourself from potential partners or talk yourself into not fancying them? Nice? Genuine? Hardly exciting language to use. Maybe you haven't found someone that you really click with yet - and that click is mutual?

I have been in love or fancied very few people in my life and I think it's usually down to self-protection and not wanting to take the risk of falling in love with someone and it's only when an exceptional relationship comes along that I fall head over heels.

Sound Bite

Like JohnR1s post, I think more than a case of simply wanting what you can't have. Btw JohnR1 great to see this is not just me.

I dont think I do anything different to turn off the guys I am interested in, I'm definately not the clingy type so its not like I'm scaring them off.

Ickle Magoo, I find your post interesting & its certainly given me something to think about. I dont think I distance myself from potential partners, I mean I've no reason too or none that I'm consciously aware of. I'm 100% sure that I'm not talking myself into not fancying these guys...I defiantely dont fancy them. I'd love to think that its just cos I havent met the right person but not sure if thats all thats at play here. Also dont think its self preservation either, any of my past relationships have been fairly good....

Ickle Magoo

That's what I mean, I know people who date people and they "like them" and keep going and then start to really like them and then form a relationship. I tend to look for the fireworks before I'll get involved, if that makes any sense? No fireworks then no matter how "nice" it's not going to happen.

mackbolan

At least you are not in a relationship with a guy who you don't like.
Lots of people are clinging onto people they don't love because they don't want to be alone.