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Dont know where im going wrong

  • 12-09-2010 6:41pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi guys and gals,

    Same ole story here, im a male 23 years old and single. sick and tired of being single although when out an about i never look for a woman just like hanging out and talking.
    Im told im a good looking guy, tall, blue eyes, blonde hair, not pasty white and have a very toned and athletic physique. Now im not self centred in anyway and i see my self as approachable. i do not tend to shy away either, i just cant seem to bring my self to ask some one out or even get passed the chatting stage when out in town or where ever i may be. it always just pleasantries at the end, and im loosing the plot with it all!
    where am i going wrong!!


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  • #2
    Delicate_Dlite
    Closed Accounts Posts: 250 ✭✭Delicate_Dlite


    Ok, firstly relax. :)

    You're still pretty young, and I know how frustrating it can be, to meet ppl or get past the small talk stage. I wish I could give you some brilliant advice or magical formula.

    You say that you dislike hitting on girls, how about trying to build a friendship first?, invite them to a night out/ coffee/lunch with a few ppl? Maybe join a club, so you meet ppl and see them regularly and could socialise them a few times before 'hitting on' them.

    This is advice I've heard / been given, hopefully it'll be of some use to you. :)

    Don't worry, I'm sure you'll meet someone soon.


  • #3
    Zen65
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,630 ✭✭✭Zen65


    ughagain wrote: »
    ..... i just cant seem to bring my self to ask some one out or even get passed the chatting stage when out in town or where ever i may be. it always just pleasantries at the end, and im loosing the plot with it all!
    where am i going wrong!!

    There, that's where you're "going wrong". If you don't ask, you don't get.

    But it's early days, so chill for a while and stop being so anxious about it all. At some point you'll realise that the risk in asking someone out is very small compared to the potential gain.


    Be at peace,

    Z


  • #4
    mackbolan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23 ✭mackbolan


    If you are talking to a woman you like get talking about her favourite music or films or places and say that you heard x movie or y play or z band were in town and that you both should go see it, tell her to give you her number and you both can meet up.
    Just be friendly, talkative, make fun and interesting conversation.
    Don't wait for women to come talking to you and just take the initiative.
    You have nothing to lose.


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