Stuck in a rut HELP!!!

LegacyUser

Hey guys I am really distressed here.. Everywhere I go in life I seem to be the butt of everyones jokes for example in school I was always the first one to be picked on and be made a laugh out of, However everyone said they loved me and even some went out of their way to get in contact with me after school.

I work in this shop only twice a week and that's the exact same they make jokes about me being a virgin at 18.. Is there seriously somthing wrong with that these days BTW?,,,,,,, They also try take advantage of my good nature and when everything is said and done I'm the one that ends up doing most of the work..

Info on me:: I am skinny but nothing to bad, I have always been told by family,friends and girls that I am really good looking and even tonight a girl told me lol.. So it's not like i'm a mutant or look different to everyone else.. why do you think I am having this problem? And how can I change it?

I have been going through a few other problems but dont think I can mention them on the same post can I??



Thanks peoples......

Silverfish

AshMashMash wrote: »

I have been going through a few other problems but dont think I can mention them on the same post can I??



Thanks peoples......

Of course you can. Talk away.

LegacyUser

AshMashMash wrote: »

Hey guys I am really distressed here.. Everywhere I go in life I seem to be the butt of everyones jokes for example in school I was always the first one to be picked on and be made a laugh out of, However everyone said they loved me and even some went out of their way to get in contact with me after school.

I work in this shop only twice a week and that's the exact same they make jokes about me being a virgin at 18.. Is there seriously somthing wrong with that these days BTW?,,,,,,, They also try take advantage of my good nature and when everything is said and done I'm the one that ends up doing most of the work..

Info on me:: I am skinny but nothing to bad, I have always been told by family,friends and girls that I am really good looking and even tonight a girl told me lol.. So it's not like i'm a mutant or look different to everyone else.. why do you think I am having this problem? And how can I change it?

I have been going through a few other problems but dont think I can mention them on the same post can I??



Thanks peoples......

Well my other problem is that well it is really affecting me not having a girlfriend, I mean generally it doesnt bother me but the reaction of some people when they find out i'm a virgin and still single is just unreal.Today I had a 16 year old telling me about sex, A new low lol.... A cousin acutally asked me ''whats wrong with you?''
Because of this I am avoiding partys and I think it really prevents me from getting close to new people becuase I really hate admitting i'm single now. Today for example I lied to a fella told him I was in a serious relationship and that my girlfriend loves having sex.. I hate lying but it really is my only option now..



I have also been suffering from really bad depression on and off the last few months,, some days I will be fine and happy others I will be seriously contimplating taking an od (today is one of those days) .. And I find recently I am nearly in tears at the most stupid things..

Ickle Magoo

Have you told your doctor how you feel? If you think you are suffering from depression then that's your first port of call.

Being a virgin at 18 is not unusual. Being honest enough to admit you are, less so. Remember that.

Admitting your a virgin at 18 takes balls. Some who admit it has alot more about them then someone who lie's and it also means you have respect for females. And also you will find the 1st time very special if you wait for the rite person to come along.

Don't be tempted to go out and try get off with a drunk woman just to lose the virgin tag. Sex while drunk with a stranger isn't always as good as its made out. But by all means, go out with mates and have a good time. No point locking yourself up.

Just wait and be patient, live life and you will meet someone who also wants to meet you.

And i wouldn't worry about the people saying stuff about you, if thats all they have time to do then it says alot about them and that they have nothing better to do.

Keep your head up, enjoy life, your still young.

tenchi-fan

I think you need to take these things in your stride. Certainly don't be bitter. If you're laughing people probably think you're enjoying the craic even if it annoys you deep down.

If people joke about you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable, a stern "john. do you mind. that's getting tiresome, ok?" Sometimes you need to nip something in the bud.

As for you doing all the good work because it's in your good nature.. that's nonsense. it sounds like you're working for approval. And people will take advantage of this fact.

Don't let people manipulate you into doing work . If someone asks you for a favour, make sure you agree the terms of exactly what they are asking you to do before you agree to it.
Be especially careful of requests from authority figures (staff who might be older but aren't actually managers) and pretty girls (unless you genuinely have a chance with them).
An important system is reciprocation. If someone asks you for a favour, after you do it and they say "thanks" just use the phrase "I know you'd do the same for me." Make sure to get that favour returned! If they say they are busy, you can say "I understand, but I was busy last friday and I helped you out. It will only take 5 minutes and I'd really appreciate it ."