I think my co-worker might 'like' me?!?

LegacyUser

I started a new job last year but was moved to a different department 3 months ago where I have been partnered up with one guy who trained me up for the new position and who I now work with exclusively. I should add in now that I am 24 and (happily) engaged to my fiancé of 2 years and he is 35 and (seemingly happily) married with 2 kids.
We have got on really well from the beginning and seem to be quite similar to each other with regard to interests and just generally in personality and sense of humour etc. We always seem to make each other laugh but in the past few weeks I think he's started to act kind of flirty around me or maybe I'm misreading things.

For instance when in a group he always seems to deliberately seek out my eye when telling a joke or making a funny comment and I've noticed him staring at me a little when he thinks I'm not looking. He has also started nudging my arm gently when telling a joke or when we have to go somewhere e.g. *Nudge* Are you coming to the canteen? He also does that kind of 'triangle look' whenever he first sees me in the morning and gives me a big smile when he says hello that he doesn't seem to do the anyone else in the office.

I really don't know but it's making me a bit worried that if he is mildly flirting that I've somehow done something to encourage this, though to my knowledge I have never flirted with him. I don't even think I have touched him other than his hand when passing something like a stapler to him!
I would never cheat on my fiancé and he has said before when the topic came up on the radio that he could never cheat on his wife as he couldn't live with the guilt and also that he had a really good marriage. I'm really confused as to why would he flirt with me because of this or he actually not being flirty and just being friendly?

ManOfMystery

Maybe it's just harmless flirting and nothing more? Just because he flirts a little with you doesn't mean he's about to pin you to the wall and start snogging you. Flirting can lead to something more serious, yes, but in a lot of cases there is no intention to take it any farther.

belongtojazz

Maybe he does fancy you, but it's in that "safe" way. In that you're both taken and have already had the discussion on infedelity and know it is not something either of you believes in. Therefore he can flirt and enjoy your company knowing it will never go any further.

darad

Sounds like a nice friendly fella, are you secretly hoping that hes flirting with you? Doesnt really sound like he is.

LegacyUser

personally i think deep down you might like this guy, but there is so many people out there that its only natural you connect with other guys other than just your fiance.

Bottle_of_Smoke

might just be fond of you. Or fancies you and knows its off limits

CDfm

Its a hard thing to be matey with co-workers of the opposite sex and that seems to be what it is. Some people are socially inept.

I would not read anything more than that into it.

Zen65

confusedgirl12345 wrote: »

I'm really confused as to why would he flirt with me because of this or he actually not being flirty and just being friendly?

It does not sound like flirting to me. It sounds like he's just being friendly with his co-worker.

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