falling out of love or a bad patch

LegacyUser

I'm in a 2 year relationship with my oh and lately I've been doubting my feelings for them.
up to a few weeks ago I got all the usual feelings of being in love , but lately I'm just not feeling it which is really getting to me.
I don't get excited about seeing them like I used to , sometimes I don't care if I see them at all. Things they do that I used to overlook are now really irritating me , even sleeping together I'm not that bothered , in fact like never before I'm thinking " here we go again "
I would go so far as to say sometimes I really dislike the person.

There has been a lot of fighting and difficulty lately and we have been through a lot together so I am wondering does this contribute to why I feel like this or is this a normal phase in a relationship?
Is this normal for a recently exciting and loving relationship to just dwindle so easily I'm torn on deciding whether I really want to continue to keep seeing this person and ride the storm or just come out with it and say I am not sure how I feel anymore.
I'd honestly hate to hurt this person by bringing this up if it is just a temporary set back.
I'm just so confused
On one hand I do love them - I'm just not sure if I am " in love " with them.
Would welcome other peoples opinions who have been thru similar situations.

Funky Kingston

non regd wrote: »

I'm in a 2 year relationship with my oh and lately I've been doubting my feelings for them.
up to a few weeks ago I got all the usual feelings of being in love , but lately I'm just not feeling it which is really getting to me.
I don't get excited about seeing them like I used to , sometimes I don't care if I see them at all. Things they do that I used to overlook are now really irritating me , even sleeping together I'm not that bothered , in fact like never before I'm thinking " here we go again "
I would go so far as to say sometimes I really dislike the person.

There has been a lot of fighting and difficulty lately and we have been through a lot together so I am wondering does this contribute to why I feel like this or is this a normal phase in a relationship?
Is this normal for a recently exciting and loving relationship to just dwindle so easily I'm torn on deciding whether I really want to continue to keep seeing this person and ride the storm or just come out with it and say I am not sure how I feel anymore.
I'd honestly hate to hurt this person by bringing this up if it is just a temporary set back.
I'm just so confused
On one hand I do love them - I'm just not sure if I am " in love " with them.
Would welcome other peoples opinions who have been thru similar situations.

I've been in this situation .

You're not in love. If you dislike someone and are clearly bored with your life with this person it is surely over IMO.

Colonel_McCoy

I agree, think its time to move on. A relationship is meant to make you happy and you are no longer in love.

Taltos

non regd wrote: »

On one hand I do love them - I'm just not sure if I am " in love " with them.

As in other posts - this is one of those lines I really really hate. But I guess people tell themselves all manner of lies to ease their own guilt.

non regd wrote: »

I would go so far as to say sometimes I really dislike the person.

Now - read this - and read it and read it.
It is over.
Time to tell your soon to be EX that it is just not working and you have moved on from them.

How someone can write something like this and then claim to love that person is just beyond me.

End it.

miec

Hi Op

I'm afraid I would have to concur with the other posters, the only kind thing to do is end the relationship. Sometimes relationships struggle due to external issues but when it breaks down due to a dislike of the other person then that is something that cannot be overcome. Your feelings have changed and that sometimes happens.