Online Dating Etiquette

LegacyUser

Hi all, going unreg for this one..

so, online dating etiquette question... I had a first date last week with a really nice woman. It went quite swimmingly and we got on brilliant over a near 4 hour coffee.. definite attraction there.

following day we were chatting and she agreed she had a lovely time so the potential for a 2nd date was brought up... . Over the weekend, gave her a call and asked her out again towards this weekend coming, agreed.. grand, we just need to confirm details.

I've online dated before and went through several first dates but there was no 'spark' there as there is with this woman. So, I guess I'd kinda like to concentrate on her and see where it goes, obviously that depends on date 2, but I have a good feeling about it. We aren't bombarding each other with txts/calls all the time, (I may ring tonight to confirm details) so I can't see it falling before the second date.

My question relates to the etiquette now involved, and opinions from any other online daters would be great please..

What does one do about the site? I am getting notified of mail coming through for me, but whilst i have no interest in pursuing/setting up any other dates, normal curiosity is getting to me, but is it wrong, with a 2nd date on the way, to be seen on the site before then?

I feel like I'm kinda walking round a mine field here, wondering what to do and say next, I guess I got so used to meeting girls on dates where there was sufficient intrigue over phone/txt etc that didn't translate into the real life meeting, that I don't want to step the wrong way now that I've met a woman who I do genuinely like and would like to get to know better...

thoughts??

I'm early 30s, she's late 20s...

thanks a mill!

Trashbat

not an online dater myself (been with OH longer than I've had an email address ) but I would say that if there is a possibility that this girl you like can see your online activity, then I'd leave it off for a while. It may cause some friction, and there's been enough threads here about online paranoia.

There's always the chance you may miss out on someone better, but dating is all about taking chances. I say resist your urge if it could cause problems.

StarryMoon0

confused online wrote: »

Hi all, going unreg for this one..

so, online dating etiquette question... I had a first date last week with a really nice woman. It went quite swimmingly and we got on brilliant over a near 4 hour coffee.. definite attraction there.

following day we were chatting and she agreed she had a lovely time so the potential for a 2nd date was brought up... . Over the weekend, gave her a call and asked her out again towards this weekend coming, agreed.. grand, we just need to confirm details.

I've online dated before and went through several first dates but there was no 'spark' there as there is with this woman. So, I guess I'd kinda like to concentrate on her and see where it goes, obviously that depends on date 2, but I have a good feeling about it. We aren't bombarding each other with txts/calls all the time, (I may ring tonight to confirm details) so I can't see it falling before the second date.

My question relates to the etiquette now involved, and opinions from any other online daters would be great please..

What does one do about the site? I am getting notified of mail coming through for me, but whilst i have no interest in pursuing/setting up any other dates, normal curiosity is getting to me, but is it wrong, with a 2nd date on the way, to be seen on the site before then?

I feel like I'm kinda walking round a mine field here, wondering what to do and say next, I guess I got so used to meeting girls on dates where there was sufficient intrigue over phone/txt etc that didn't translate into the real life meeting, that I don't want to step the wrong way now that I've met a woman who I do genuinely like and would like to get to know better...

thoughts??

I'm early 30s, she's late 20s...

thanks a mill!

Whats wrong with letting those other mails "sit" for a week or two while you investigate this opprotunity?
On one hand this one could turn out to be nothing, on the other hand it might turn out to be great.
I'd treat it like real life if it was me I guess. If I thought I quite liked someone, I'd hold off on dates with other people for a bit to see what happened, but thats just me.

hightower1

If it were me chatting or meeting up with someone with the intent of perhaps being more than friends with that person I wouldnt be doing the same with anyone else? Its just a respect thing, having multipal "possibles" is like having no faith in the one person and if thats how you intend to START with that one guy/girl the future outlook doesnt seem that bright. Just my opinion.

Mysterious&Shy

Hi all!

I met my Fiance through online dating! We are going out over 18 months and due to get married in 2012.

There is no harm in letting the mails sit for a week or two as someone else said.

I didn't delete my account for a month but I did leave mails sit and after a few weeks I deleted everything as we both wanted the same thing.

Hope this helps! PM me if you want any more help!

Best of luck!