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Making the Move Advice

  • 23-08-2010 9:10am
    #1
    jamesor
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3 ✭


    Hi all,


    im a 25 year old lad just out of a relationship and looking to get back on the scene. i would definitely be classified as shy and even in my younger single days, wouldnt have had much luck with the girls.

    basically looking for advice on when to make the move to kiss with someone. other than them throwing themselves at me, do i just dive in for the kiss? ask them if they'll kiss me, etc etc. might sound like im a complete tool but times have changed and if i dont ask, il get no where!


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  • #2
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    I think you generally have to play it by ear.

    If there has been lots of physical contact - touching your arm, touching your leg, holding hands, etc, lots of eye contact and happy to be in your personal space and you theirs then try leaning forward and speaking quietly and if they don't move away, move a bit closer and so on. :)


  • #3
    jamesor
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3 ✭jamesor


    Ickle Magoo wrote: »
    I think you generally have to play it by ear.

    If there has been lots of physical contact - touching your arm, touching your leg, holding hands, etc, lots of eye contact and happy to be in your personal space and you theirs then try leaning forward and speaking quietly and if they don't move away, move a bit closer and so on. :)


    would be great to get more points of view/pointers/advice...


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    hey op i'm a girl around the same age as you ...
    If there has been lots of physical contact - touching your arm, touching your leg, holding hands, etc, lots of eye contact and happy to be in your personal space and you theirs then try leaning forward and speaking quietly and if they don't move away, move a bit closer and so on.

    +1 as a girl this is usually how a guy makes a move on me, although recently i met a really shy guy, who i was chatting away to, he asked me for my number and handed me his phone to put it into, as i was doing so he started pulling my hair back out of my face behind my neck (in a gentle way lol) and when i looked up he just smiled and kissed me, which i though was really cute, and a great way of testing the waters so to speak, as i knew what was coming when i looked up and it gave me the opportunity to tell him to "stop at my hair" if i wasn't interested...

    yeah seriously don't overthink it, personally i'm not a fan of guy asking if they can kiss me, i find it a bit forced or something, as was said above if shes in your personal space and touching your arm/hand whatever then chances are she won't mind a kiss ;)

    oh and go easy on the drink...i don't care how nice/hot/cute a guy is if hes hammered drunk...ehhhh noooo thanks...


  • #5
    jamesor
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3 ✭jamesor


    i'm a girl wrote: »
    hey op i'm a girl around the same age as you ...



    +1 as a girl this is usually how a guy makes a move on me, although recently i met a really shy guy, who i was chatting away to, he asked me for my number and handed me his phone to put it into, as i was doing so he started pulling my hair back out of my face behind my neck (in a gentle way lol) and when i looked up he just smiled and kissed me, which i though was really cute, and a great way of testing the waters so to speak, as i knew what was coming when i looked up and it gave me the opportunity to tell him to "stop at my hair" if i wasn't interested...

    yeah seriously don't overthink it, personally i'm not a fan of guy asking if they can kiss me, i find it a bit forced or something, as was said above if shes in your personal space and touching your arm/hand whatever then chances are she won't mind a kiss ;)

    oh and go easy on the drink...i don't care how nice/hot/cute a guy is if hes hammered drunk...ehhhh noooo thanks...

    Right, been off the scene for a bit so wasnt sure if just getting a number would be ok. Kinda feel like just getting a number is completely random/pot luck. Never found myself in a situation like that. Things have changed.

    Good to get as many points of views....


  • #6
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Actually op sorry, now that i think back, he actually asked me for my facebook page first, we were getting along so well he said he wanted to add me or something, he asked for my number after the kiss ;) .
    wasnt sure if just getting a number would be ok. Kinda feel like just getting a number is completely random/pot luck. Never found myself in a situation like that.
    I guess it depends on the girl, but if ye're both flirting, getting on well, then i never mind a guy asking, obviously you'll meet the odd 'cow' who'll look at you like you've 4 heads, but that happens to us all from time to time guys & girls, everyone gets rejected now and again, its her loss :)


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