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Girlfriend has no friends, relationship breaking down

  • 23-08-2010 7:27am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi everyone. Have been with my gf for 5 years, we are both 22. We have been living together in dublin for the last 6 months or so, and for about 6 months previously in our home town.

    She is working in the service industry, with very unsociable hours- late and early shifts that vary week to week and rarely with weekends off. She wants to stay in the job as it is a foothold into what she wants to do.


    From when she gets home to when she goes to work, i'm the only person she sees. She had a work night out last month, and met up with a friend once before that, but thats pretty much it for her solo social life.

    I have a few hobbies which i do once a fortnight and meet up with the lads from college every now and then, but don't have any female friends to introduce her to, which i think she needs.


    She has long fallen out of contact or just fallen out with her friends from secondary school, and has a handfull of friends from college, but does not see them often as they are scattered around the country/world.


    She isn't happy with the place we are living, neither am i and we are looking for somewhere else, but she says she is afraid of what happens financially if we break up . I'm in college but earn enough to pay my own way.


    There are some issues between us, but i don't think they are big enough that they can't be worked through, but in combination with the work and living situation they are becoming an issue. I am outspoken and don't always speak with tact, and she is quick to take offence.

    During a tearful conversation last night she revealed that her sister thinks she will regret staying with one person since she was 18, although she has had previous relationships. She says she needs a close friend to talk to about there things but has none.

    I have tried to encourage her to join some group that interests her, but she can't find anything that her work will allow her too. She can't request or expect a set day or evening off on a regular basis

    She says she still loves me, but she is really unhappy and depressed. I don't know what to do.


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  • #2
    magneticimpulse
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,952 ✭✭✭magneticimpulse


    Im really sorry to hear about your girlfriends situation. I understand everyone needs friends, but I think sometimes in relationships, people can become cut off from friends.

    Anyway, there is meetup.com, such groups as New and Not so New in Dublin have at least 4 things happening a week. So if she does happen to get a day/night off...the chances are she might be able to do something with them. There is not much commitment to when you do or dont show up, so I think it would be ideal. They put the events details up on the site and if something happens to interest her then she can head along to that and meet new people.


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