The Guy at work . . ..

LC2010HIS

Ok so theres a guy who works in my store. Hes in a diff department but ive served him before. Weve chatted once or twice briefly and i really think hes smart and handsome - theres something about him. When i was training i made a major mistake and he went and let the manager know(no idea why, nothing to do with him) but it was so silly i feel he may think im a bit stupid........
.... thing is, we barely know eachother and im probably just another collegue. Im wondering is there anything i can do to maybe get him interested as i dont wanna run the risk of lookin like a stupid stalking collegue(happ at my last job and the guy spread it around:mad:).
So, what can i do? :rolleyes: i sound silly, but whatever!!

LighterGuy

Well answer is you just have to talk to him. put yourself in situations to talk to him. he trained you so he knows who you are. Start of by saying hi to him at times. Then its much easier to start a conversation.

The ice breaker is the hardest part. But you have that thing where he trained you. Granted from the sounds of it you havent exactly talked to him since. But theres a million things you could do ... be creative. If you just walk over to him after not chatting for so long it might be a bit awkward. So to make things go a bit smoothly just build up to where you can openly have a conversation. No awkwardness then.

Then in a conversation... flirt with him :P
If you're a bit shy. Drop the cliche line in - "so do you have a boyfriend?" pretty much says it all. He would have to be stupid to not realise thats a flirty question. Good thing is your not directly asking him out.
Alot of people (especially within jobs or friend circles) will go off and tell others when they get asked out - eg, "oh yeah sharon asked me out" - always hated that. You dont want that. Which is perfectly fine

Flirt with him, let him know. And if he is anyway interested he'll flirt back.




I dont mean to be bad tho, you said you made a mistake and he told the manager about it. Unless that mistake called for the manager knowing about it (a void in the till etc etc etc) then that was really a slimeball thing to do.

LC2010HIS

LighterGuy wrote: »

Well answer is you just have to talk to him. put yourself in situations to talk to him. he trained you so he knows who you are. Start of by saying hi to him at times. Then its much easier to start a conversation.

The ice breaker is the hardest part. But you have that thing where he trained you. Granted from the sounds of it you havent exactly talked to him since. But theres a million things you could do ... be creative. If you just walk over to him after not chatting for so long it might be a bit awkward. So to make things go a bit smoothly just build up to where you can openly have a conversation. No awkwardness then.

Then in a conversation... flirt with him :P
If you're a bit shy. Drop the cliche line in - "so do you have a boyfriend?" pretty much says it all. He would have to be stupid to not realise thats a flirty question. Good thing is your not directly asking him out.
Alot of people (especially within jobs or friend circles) will go off and tell others when they get asked out - eg, "oh yeah sharon asked me out" - always hated that. You dont want that. Which is perfectly fine

Flirt with him, let him know. And if he is anyway interested he'll flirt back.




I dont mean to be bad tho, you said you made a mistake and he told the manager about it. Unless that mistake called for the manager knowing about it (a void in the till etc etc etc) then that was really a slimeball thing to do.

Hey
no he didnt train me. i was in training and he was in the queue and spotted a mistake i made - i felt very stupid! hes 19 too

yeah, he told the manager about the mistake and came back n told me. in fairness, i would of told them myself......i dunno why he involved himself when he doesnt work in my department. . . .

Kidchameleon

He sounds like a tosser. I wouldn't be interested in anyone who's a rat... I say don't bother OP.

SheRa

Why would you want to be with someone who told your boss about your mistake, when it was none of his business?

He doesnt sound like he is someone you should be with.

bills

Be very careful -getting involved with people at work can get very messy.

Get to know the guy first before you go making any decisions about pursuing him

boarduser1980

bills wrote: »

Be very careful -getting involved with people at work can get very messy.

i agree 100%, been there done that, and it can get messy. your better off keeping well clear. he doesnt seem like a nice guy anyway.

jessiejam

OP he sounds more like someone who wants to get one up on you. Making himself seem smarter than he is to the boss and making you look stupid.

No one likes a lick arse, he is one of those

I would stay clear

piby

LC2010HIS wrote: »

When i was training i made a major mistake and he went and let the manager know(no idea why, nothing to do with him) but it was so silly i feel he may think im a bit stupid........

I don't understand why you could fancy him after he was such a little snitch. He sounds like one of those kids in primary school who would run to the teacher everytime somebody used a swear word!!!

ordinary_girl

bills wrote: »

Be very careful -getting involved with people at work can get very messy.

Get to know the guy first before you go making any decisions about pursuing him

Agreed. I don't know that you should rule him out because he "snitched" on you, if you really are interested in him. Is there anyone who works in your department who's friends with him? Is there anyone there who could tell you a bit about him, vouch for him personality-wise?

Zen65

LC2010HIS wrote: »

...i dont wanna run the risk of lookin like a stupid stalking collegue(happ at my last job and the guy spread it around:mad:).
So, what can i do?

Look elsewhere. Did you not learn from the previous experience?


Be at peace,

Z

dolphin city

You work in the same premises as him
you like him
you made a mistake at work
he sees it and runs to your manager to snitch, even tho it's none of his business
you still like him after that
You are only 19

advice.

Do not go near him
okay, you might like him but then again it might be just an "unattainable crush"
if anybody else snitched on you, what would your reaction be
are you making excuses for him snitching on you - if so, it's a crush
Don't make excuses for somebody you know nothing about.
DO NOT get involved with somebody at work unless its a very serious relationship/marriage
when IT WILL always go wrong, you will be left with egg on your face and may have to leave your work

If you still want to pursue it I would suggest you secure a job somewhere else first

dolphin city

also, your mention of being a stalker "happenend in my last job" makes me wonder do you just pick somebody in whatever work you are in to fancy. Is it a habit for you?

if so, do not act on it - you will end up the loser. If he likes you he will let you know, although I do now think that maybe you just get it into your head in your jobs, maybe to make life a bit more xciting, and then get carried away with it.

Sulkinskimpy

bills wrote: »

Be very careful -getting involved with people at work can get very messy.

Get to know the guy first before you go making any decisions about pursuing him

i was warned off a guy I became interested in when I first started my job-8 months on I couldn't be happier and he couldn't be nicer.

although I do agree with the above-be prepared for your business to become everyone elses business and make sure you kow a good bit about him.
alot of guys and girls it has to be said like the thrill of dating someone at work more than the person so be sure of what you actually like before going ay further.

getting to talk to him a bit more should help the whole thing as it doesn't sound the greatest when he's behind your back ratting you out so just be sure girl and then have fun-don't let something pass you by anyway-eventually any gossiping will stop-good luck