If you could change things about yourself?

caseyann

Women criticize them selves way to much.
What are you not happy about on your body or in your personality, Are you a yes person when you mean no.
When someone tells you you are good looking do you believe them?
Or are you happy with what you got?

Personally i am very happy with what i got(so wouldnt change a thing).I had grown up not very confident in myself and somehow found it on my own.

Links234

I can think of one thing I'd like to change about myself.

Fifilefleure

caseyann wrote: »

Women criticize them selves way to much.
What are you not happy about on your body or in your personality, Are you a yes person when you mean no.
When someone tells you you are good looking do you believe them?
Or are you happy with what you got?

Personally I am very happy with what I've got (so wouldnt change a thing).I had grown up not very confident in myself and somehow found it on my own.

I think the older I've become more accepting of how I am and how I look. The way I look at it, is that I'm still a work in progress and that I've become more aware of who I am and that some of my traits do need to be toned down, not changed. I don't want to change as I don't think people can truly change. Also I wouldn't be me if I changed

Physically I would love to change my skin - it's never been perfect no matter what I do, eat or take lol oh well there is always something :P

Eve_Dublin

Physically I'd change nothing. I'm far from perfect but I've honestly no desire to be. I'm happy with my lot actually. I could probably do with toning up my backside a bit maybe.

Personality-wise...plenty.I'm working on that all the time. I wish I was more patient, I wish I didn't have such a ferocious temper (that's definitely improving...deep breaths and count to ten) and I wish I didn't procratinate so much.

Most of all I wish I'd more confidence in my own abilities. People tell me I'm good at something and I don't listen, it doesn't sink in. Only the bad stuff does and that's something I really am trying my best to work on. When I hit 30, I realised life is too short for messing around and I want to reach my potential to some degree. I hope that happens.

Overall though, I think I'm grand.

Eve_Dublin

Links234 wrote: »

I can think of one thing I'd like to change about myself.

Ooooh have I missed something? What would you change??

(Sorry if this question is too nosy...ignore it if you want)

Edit: Completely ignore this question...totally out of line. Sorry.

krudler

Probably my eyes, never really liked them

stupidusername

If I could change one thing about myself physically.....

I'd get rid of my freckles.

stupidusername

stupidusername wrote: »

If I could change one thing about myself physically.....

I'd get rid of my freckles.

Aw what's wrong with freckles?

princess-lala

I have a list as long as my stumpy legs

1. My trusting people - I trust way too much!
2. My stumpy legs as mentioned above.
3. My hair - I'd love it thicker
4. My tummy - It should be flater
5. My boobs - Id love them bigger.
6. My eyes - Id love a proper colour not just greeny bluey.
7. My toes - ever see my toes and youll understand!
8. My laugh - its a mess
9. My height! I wanna be 3inches taller!
10. My not having any major talent!

Ah well theres ten top things but meh what can ya do! God made me this way so thats the way I'll be staying

stupidusername

bluewolf wrote: »

Aw what's wrong with freckles?

Nothing, on other people. I don't even mind being pale anymore, kinda like it almost, I just hate the freckles. well, no it's more that I have so many. I wouldn't mind if it was less.

wicklowstar

I would make myself less broody...
Its ruining everything

liah

I'd change my face shape to be just a little bit wider. Also if my eyes were less round and a little more.. elongated, it'd be nice. But I'm quite content with how I am now.

The Big Red Button

Physically, I can't really say anything. I mean, I'd like to lose a few pounds, but to be honest I'd get a lot more satisfaction about putting in the effort and seeing results than just magicking it all away! And, I don't know, I'm relatively healthy and not horribly deformed or anything. So as regards looks I guess I wouldn't want to change anything, really.

Then, personality-wise.

I'm always getting annoyed with myself for being so stubborn. But if you took that away, I probably wouldn't be as determined and I wouldn't work as hard as I do to achieve things.

I know that sometimes I trust people far too easily and get far too close to people too quickly and easily. But, you know, I guess I'm a pretty good judge of character because it hasn't actually backfired on me yet, and I have no regrets in that area. So, as long as it's working out for me, it's not something I'd want to change.

Today at work I was kicking myself because I was dealing with some really hardcore theory that I was finding it very hard to understand, and I was just wishing that I could've been born a little more intelligent. But then, if everything just came too easily and naturally to you, you wouldn't really take pride in your work, would you? And there would be no big sense of achievement when you got it right?

Basically everything that I think of that I might want to change, there's some opposite reason that I wouldn't really want to change it.

So I guess I'm happy enough as I am!

brainyneuron

caseyann wrote: »

Women criticize them selves way to much.
What are you not happy about on your body or in your personality, Are you a yes person when you mean no.
When someone tells you you are good looking do you believe them?
Or are you happy with what you got?

Personally i am very happy with what i got(so wouldnt change a thing).I had grown up not very confident in myself and somehow found it on my own.

Is there a point to this thread?? You say women critcise themselves too much yet that is exactly what you are inviting people to do!
Given the chance I would probably change many things about myself both physically and personality/confidence wise, but to dwell on it and to worry about it is pointless. To be happy in my own skin and to accept what I am/what I have is/are so so important I think.
I would hazard a guess that many women would change at least one thing about themselves if not more more but making a thread about it is a pointless exercise and just makes people feel worse about themselves.

Girls accept you for you, do not try to change yourself for another person, think of the Christina Aguilera song when you're feeling crap about yourself!

Little Acorn

Flat stomach!!!
Love my boobs, happy enough with bum.
Even at my slimmest I always had a bit of a stomach. I used to think a couple of years ago that it was big, but I would kill to have it back now as I realise it wasn't half as bad as I thought compared to it now. Strange thing is I still have a very small waist, tummy seems to just expand rapidly below that!!:D

I'd go with being more sociable more easily :rolleyes:
I don't dwell on flaws tbh, either I can change it or I can't

bluecatmorgana

I need to lose about half my weight
I'd like to have the bump on my nose removed
I'd like to be more intelligent.
I'd like to have more confidence.
I'd like to be more sociable.
I'd like narrower feet

rainbow kirby

caseyann wrote: »

Women criticize them selves way to much.

I agree.

caseyann wrote: »

What are you not happy about on your body or in your personality, Are you a yes person when you mean no.
When someone tells you you are good looking do you believe them?
Or are you happy with what you got?

But then you move on to ask some critical questions...

You're not really making a lot of sense there.

Please try and keep things positive here, dwelling on flaws is not a healthy thing.

Eve_Dublin

brainyneuron wrote: »

Is there a point to this thread?? You say women critcise themselves too much yet that is exactly what you are inviting people to do!
Given the chance I would probably change many things about myself both physically and personality/confidence wise, but to dwell on it and to worry about it is pointless. To be happy in my own skin and to accept what I am/what I have is/are so so important I think.
I would hazard a guess that many women would change at least one thing about themselves if not more more but making a thread about it is a pointless exercise and just makes people feel worse about themselves.

Girls accept you for you, do not try to change yourself for a another person, think of the Christina Aguilera song when you're feeling crap about yourself!

True. Good point. Thread might be a bit pointless alright especially posting your physical "faults" up on a forum. I don't like to hear any woman complaining like that. No good can come of it but aspects of your personality that you can work on....I think it's good to acknowledge them so you can try and change them. I don't know any of you here and probably never will (because I don't live in Ireland), so it's cathartic for me to say, "Hey, I'm a complete lunatic temper-wise sometimes but I'm working on it!" instead of fooling myself and pretending it's all okay.

Sound Bite

Some might say I'm too stubborn, fiery and I should change it.
But really, they must mean determined and passionate.
Depends on how you look at it, no need to change a thing!

caseyann

princess-lala wrote: »

I have a list as long as my stumpy legs

1. My trusting people - I trust way too much!
2. My stumpy legs as mentioned above.
3. My hair - I'd love it thicker
4. My tummy - It should be flater
5. My boobs - Id love them bigger.
6. My eyes - Id love a proper colour not just greeny bluey.
7. My toes - ever see my toes and youll understand!
8. My laugh - its a mess
9. My height! I wanna be 3inches taller!
10. My not having any major talent!

Ah well theres ten top things but meh what can ya do! God made me this way so thats the way I'll be staying

First one not bad,and you need to look at it that,thats not your problem as you trust to much.But that people are willing to take advantage of your trust.
Therefore they are the problem not you;)

The ones in between,remember no one sees you as you see yourself.
and the last one.
Create a talent

caseyann

brainyneuron wrote: »

Is there a point to this thread?? You say women critcise themselves too much yet that is exactly what you are inviting people to do!
Given the chance I would probably change many things about myself both physically and personality/confidence wise, but to dwell on it and to worry about it is pointless. To be happy in my own skin and to accept what I am/what I have is/are so so important I think.
I would hazard a guess that many women would change at least one thing about themselves if not more more but making a thread about it is a pointless exercise and just makes people feel worse about themselves.

Girls accept you for you, do not try to change yourself for another person, think of the Christina Aguilera song when you're feeling crap about yourself!

Point of the thread was the title,and the questions i asked.

princess-lala

caseyann wrote: »

First one not bad,and you need to look at it that,thats not your problem as you trust to much.But that people are willing to take advantage of your trust.
Therefore they are the problem not you;)

The ones in between,remember no one sees you as you see yourself.
and the last one.
Create a talent

TBH I don't care what people think of me - Ive had a rough three years and come out the other side!

Theres very little I can change about my list there, I'm happy with myself because I have a great family and friends.

I don't need to change things about myself for more friends or more male attraction!

I'm me and thats all that matters

Neadine

I'd like to change EVERYTHING.
Start from scratch and make an entire new person, inside and out.

caseyann

Jiggle wrote: »

I think the older I've become more accepting of how I am and how I look. The way I look at it, is that I'm still a work in progress and that I've become more aware of who I am and that some of my traits do need to be toned down, not changed. I don't want to change as I don't think people can truly change. Also I wouldn't be me if I changed

Physically I would love to change my skin - it's never been perfect no matter what I do, eat or take lol oh well there is always something :P

Its a realization isnt it.Comfortable in your own skin.

MJOR

Loads of things... if i listed them i would be committed...

Walls

Does the question refer to just the body, or to anything at all?

caseyann

Walls wrote: »

Does the question refer to just the body, or to anything at all?

Anything at all.

rannerap

Theres a few things id like to change but I'm preety happy with what I got! If i got the choice to change something I probably wouldnt, its those differences that set you apart from everyone else

Links234

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

Ooooh have I missed something? What would you change??

(Sorry if this question is too nosy...ignore it if you want)

Edit: Completely ignore this question...totally out of line. Sorry.

Hey, listen to me, you are not out of line at all.
Look, I said what I said with a sense of humour, and I don't want anyone to feel inappropriate about it. Have a giggle or anything, I don't ever want people to feel they have to tread on eggshells about me.

lil'bug

there are a lot of things i would want to change tbh i'd love to be a few dress sizes smaller and have better skin. But if I could only change one thing it would be my feet i'd love to be a size 6 or 7, i'm a size 9! at least they are pretty now that i got them tattooed

Truley

The only thing I'd change about my physical self is my skin. I have quite bad facial scars, otherwise I would be perfect.

My boyfriend told me a saying once, if you're not pretty at sixteen it's not your fault. If you're not beautiful at sixty it is your fault.

Bascially as cilched as it sounds, I truly think if you are a good person on the inside it shows on the outside. A happy and healthy person looks beautiful.

Konata

Ugh. I'm very unhappy with how I look. I had anorexia a few years ago and so was very, very skinny. In the last 2 years I developed bulimia and combined with anti-depressants I ended up putting on a pile of weight. Like, A LOT. No one would ever believe I was once anorexic now So basically my weight is the main problem - and hence I hate my stomach, my thighs, my arms etc. etc.

I also have quite a few scars all over the place and I get sick of people staring at them. Make me very self-conscious.

My boyfriend often tells me I'm beautiful and I know he means it, yet at the same time I can't believe it? It's a strange situation >_<

hwiser09

I am happy with what I have. This is the life that GOD gives me so I should make the most out of it.

Giselle

I'm okay with how I look and with who I am generally, but I wish I was a bit more comfortable with dealing with strangers and larger groups of people.

A bit more outgoing, that would be nice.:)

Lia_lia

Physically, my teeth. I mean they are not awful. Just a bit fangy. Should have braces while I had the chance. Oh well, maybe in the future. Also my stretchmarks. Again not too bad but whatever. My boobs all also tiny. Like a big A/small B. But they are in proportion with the rest of my body so meh.

I would like to be less mentally unstable. That sounds kinda gay but I've been in an out of councelling and on and off various medication since I was a young teenager. Decides to pop up every few years!

alanna22

i'd change my weight -get rid of half of it!!
And change my way of thinking - I think too negatively and am annoyingly selfconscious.

I'm getting better at having phases of being happy with myself though, after all I am what I am

lynski

smaller boobs! like to get back to a d or dd - thought i was big then!

Dudess

I don't get the point of this thread: women are way too self critical, so here's an invitation for us to self criticise?

Lia_lia

^ A sure tis great craic!


Yeah this is actually a pretty stupid thread. Oh well.

Anna Molly

Physically, it's the usual things, I'd like to be trimmer, etc.
Personalty wise, I lose my temper FAR to easily. Working on that atm though.

caseyann

Dudess wrote: »

I don't get the point of this thread: women are way to self critical, so here's an invitation for us to self criticise?

Just because i made a general comment about women criticize them selves way to much. You are confused,the title is the subject of the thread and the questions, not what i wrote from my own thoughts;)

bills

Body wise - i am actually quite happy. I mean you can always want to change something.
But tbh, i am more than happy with mine.
However, personality wise, i wish i was more confident in myself!!

Novella

I guess if there were things I could change, I'd like to change stuff that has happened in the past... But if I changed them, would I still be the same person? I've battled a lot with mental illness, especially in the last year and tbh, a lot of the time, I do wish I didn't have to. However, I suppose I'm kind of proud too, 'cause while it has been really difficult, things are getting better and maybe I should focus on my strength and determination to get better as a positive instead of telling you 99% of the time, I wish I was someone else completely.

lisaface

I think the older I get, the more I realise you just have to accept what you're given. Mm that said, I would personally LOVE to be a bit shorter. Everyone wants something, someone else has,and I always get the 'oh I'd love to be your height', usually I give the 'ha ha yeaaah' and secretly I think, NO you bloody wouldn't, being an above average tall female(and above the irish male avg, where are all the tall irish men eh!? :P), sucks arse!!

Because of my height always being a thing since i've been 12 I slouch, I really regret that, I'll try fix that but it won't change a thing, so if I could go back in time the only thing i'd change is my height (somehow!!)

Personality wise, i'm pretty fixed there, I wouldn't change me in that dept.

apsalar

I don't much like to dwell on my physical traits...that way lies madness..

As for my personality, many things have happened over the years. What I would like most of all is a return to the shining happy innocence of my teen years. When I would be excited waking up in the morning. When I thought a boy sending me love-note smuggled through a friend in class was just great. When I thought my parents would live forever and I would not wake up at 21 and find my dad gone. When I didn't give two figs about money cos I never had to find it on my own. When I thought friends were as loyal to me as I was to them. When ending a relationship meant you would still be friends. When I thought cheating boyfriends were somnething from the movies. When I thought nasty people could be won over with a smile and kindness. When I thought being a parent was easy to do as all you needed was love......

It could go on.....I wouldn't change the person I am now in my late 20s, as neurotic, scatter-brained and crazy as I sometimes am. I have been weak, strong, sad, happy...I am far from perfect and I know my flaws, helpless as I sometimes am to correct them. But I am me, I cannot change, only grow in new and interesting directions. I lost most of my religion when I was about 19, but the serenity prayer has always stayed with me. It's a beautiful piece of verse....

God, grant me the serenity To accept the things I cannot change; Courage to change the things I can; And wisdom to know the difference.
Actually, there is ONE thing I would like to change...if I had the courage, I would love to get some labial surgery done. I know there is no such thing as a good-looking vajayjay, but I have a skin tag (!horrors!) there that bothers me. Too bad the thought of anything sharp down there makes me cross my legs.:P

Links234

apsalar wrote: »

I know there is no such thing as a good-looking vajayjay

WHAT?!:eek:

Vajayjays are beautiful!

Madame Razz

Physically I'd keep my hands, my feet, and my eyes, and happily change the rest:); as a person I'd change plenty as well.

However I am what I am and beyond a certain level that can't/won't change so I guess I'll just have to make do:)

Acoshla

FUtoo wrote: »

Physically I'd keep my hands, my feet, and my eyes, and happily change the rest:); as a person I'd change plenty as well.

However I am what I am and beyond a certain level that can't/won't change so I guess I'll just have to make do:)

FUtoo I think you're lovely the way you are!

I'd change my nose (broke it years back, it's stoopid looking), my weak chin, physically I think that's it actually! I like my hair and I've been told I've nice eyes and a nice smile so I guess I'd stick with them.

I'd like to change how trusting I am too, I can be very naive, I believe people when they say things when really I shouldn't. Also I wish sometimes I knew when to stop talking, when I get nervous I talk a lot, and I'm nervous a lot of the time

jellie

In all honesty theres very little Id change about myself other than my weight. & thats within my control to change so its not something I can complain about really :P

Theres parts of me I dont particularly like but Im not sure what I could do to improve them or what would be better so dont really know how i could change them.

caseyann

apsalar wrote: »

I don't much like to dwell on my physical traits...that way lies madness..

As for my personality, many things have happened over the years. What I would like most of all is a return to the shining happy innocence of my teen years. When I would be excited waking up in the morning. When I thought a boy sending me love-note smuggled through a friend in class was just great. When I thought my parents would live forever and I would not wake up at 21 and find my dad gone. When I didn't give two figs about money cos I never had to find it on my own. When I thought friends were as loyal to me as I was to them. When ending a relationship meant you would still be friends. When I thought cheating boyfriends were somnething from the movies. When I thought nasty people could be won over with a smile and kindness. When I thought being a parent was easy to do as all you needed was love......

It could go on.....I wouldn't change the person I am now in my late 20s, as neurotic, scatter-brained and crazy as I sometimes am. I have been weak, strong, sad, happy...I am far from perfect and I know my flaws, helpless as I sometimes am to correct them. But I am me, I cannot change, only grow in new and interesting directions. I lost most of my religion when I was about 19, but the serenity prayer has always stayed with me. It's a beautiful piece of verse....

God, grant me the serenity To accept the things I cannot change; Courage to change the things I can; And wisdom to know the difference.
Actually, there is ONE thing I would like to change...if I had the courage, I would love to get some labial surgery done. I know there is no such thing as a good-looking vajayjay, but I have a skin tag (!horrors!) there that bothers me. Too bad the thought of anything sharp down there makes me cross my legs.:P

Just a bit of advice,i am pretty sure they freeze it or wrap skin tags and nearly never cut them off.

Beautiful piece thanks for reminding me of it