Marraige

starbelgrade

The only cure for love....

So, what's your opinions on it? Have you ever thought about it? Would you ever consider it? If so, where would you like to get married? And who to? Not for you, then why not? Are you already hitched? How's it going? Etc...

orourkeda

Marriage is for suckers.

Its the ultimate in glorified business contracts

galwayrush

Very happily married, and i had my wife's express permission to state that...............

Ian Beale

starbelgrade wrote: »

And who to?

A woman.

galwayrush

orourkeda wrote: »

Marriage is for suckers.

Its the ultimate in glorified business contracts

That definitely stops with marriage........:pac::pac:

Mint Sauce

would like to one day for tax reasons if i meet the right girl.

elleburp

starbelgrade wrote: »

The only cure for love....

There's a cure?

minidazzler

Marriage is a redundant institution that is sold to women as proof a man loves them and sold to men as "the right thing to do"

I would have a massive party to celebrate my love for a woman if I was indeed in love, but I would not get married I think.

alwaysadub

Not that bothered to be honest. I'd have no problem spending my life with someone and not marrying them.

I've never really been one of these girls who dreamt of a big white wedding growing up and all that.

If i did ever decide to get married, i'd probably elope. Mainly to piss my mother off.

OkComputerGirl

Cant wait to get married to my boyfriend.. He hasnt asked me yet but we both talk about it all the time so we are just waiting

big expensive weddings are horrible and costly!
I want a nice, small cosy wedding Im sure my father will be delighted to hear that!

starlit

Not necessarily just a contract but it is a very sacred thing in my opinion! Obviously built from love, communication, trust, compasion, honesty and friendship!

I'd consider it if I were with the right person, someone I would see myself grow old with until I am old and grey! I'd hope to have kids straight away after, no point hanging on!;)

I'd only be with someone my family and friends would approve of though, they can be very judgemental and then again I am very picky when it comes to men!

I'd be happy to have a small wedding nothing too splashy and big but its not something I've thought about much. Probably a church or on a beach somewhere. I'll cross that bridge when It comes to my turn in my own good time, can't really decide on other aspects until the time comes!

KerranJast

Mawage. Mawage is wot bwings us togeder tooday. Mawage, that bwessed awangment, that dweam wifin a dweam... And wuv, tru wuv, will fowow you foweva...

starbelgrade

OkComputerGirl wrote: »

Cant wait to get married to my boyfriend.. He hasnt asked me yet but we both talk about it all the time so we are just waiting

:D That's what's known in the business as "keeping her sweet".

WindSock

The only benefit of it these days is for fathers rights if you have kiddies.

JONJO THE MISER

No way, i love being free too much.

Superbus

KerranJast wrote: »

Mawage. Mawage is wot bwings us togeder tooday. Mawage, that bwessed awangment, that dweam wifin a dweam... And wuv, tru wuv, will fowow you foweva...

Inception?

Mint Sauce

snuggles285 wrote: »

Not necessarily just a contract but it is a very sacred thing in my opinion! Obviously built from love, communication, trust, compasion, honesty and friendship!

I'd consider it if I were with the right person, someone I would see myself grow old with until I am old and grey! I'd hope to have kids straight away after, no point hanging on!;)

I'd only be with someone my family and friends would approve of though, they can be very judgemental and then again I am very picky when it comes to men!

I'd be happy to have a small wedding nothing too splashy and big but its not something I've thought about much. Probably a church or on a beach somewhere. I'll cross that bridge when It comes to my turn in my own good time, can't really decide on other aspects until the time comes!

Agree with most that apart from the third paragraph, if you love someone, what does it mater whay other people think, yes its a plus if friends and family like them, but its what you think of them is surely the most important

starbelgrade

Superbus wrote: »

Inception?

Jesus H - what a sh*t film. Haven't seen a film as bad as that since The Matrix. Utter & complete drivel.

OkComputerGirl

starbelgrade wrote: »

:D That's what's known in the business as "keeping her sweet".

Haha that sounded bad didnt it..
Were both only 24 and are totally in love with each other. Trust me, he wants to get married more than i do!

Superbus

starbelgrade wrote: »

Jesus H - what a sh*t film. Haven't seen a film as bad as that since The Matrix. Utter & complete drivel.

Disagreed.

Anyway:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VwoRMAC461A

OPENROAD

:eek:

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/howaboutthat/2035996/Woman-married-to-Berlin-Wall-for-29-years.html

starlit

What is wrong with a couple showing how much they love each other and showing their commitment? If they genuinely love each other, live together, want to spend the rest of their lives together, raise children (better environment) why not get married! Parents of the couple would be much happier with that kind of set up!

starlit

irish-stew wrote: »

Agree with most that apart from the third paragraph, if you love someone, what does it mater whay other people think, yes its a plus if friends and family like them, but its what you think of them is surely the most important

I'm in that thinking myself, I suppose if you really love them it shouldn't matter but sometimes I have to make my family and friends happy in order to make myself happy sometimes!

NothingMan

I'm not completely averse to marriage but it's not important to me. It is definitely only something I would consider if I was sure that, not only did I love the person, but wanted the same things in life and it was something that they wanted. But even then things change down the line and you never know what you'll want from life in the future.

The Agogo

Yes - to gain a US passport

anyone else notice the spelling error (marraige??) in the thread title?

starbelgrade

The Agogo wrote: »

Yes - to gain a US passport

anyone else notice the spelling error (marraige??) in the thread title?

Yes. I also noticed that you didn't finish your first sentence with a full stop & didn't start the second sentence with a capital letter.

But in the wider scheme of things, no-one really give a flying f*ck.

sentient_6

Women in the thread -> ya cant wait its going to be perfect & we'll live happily ever after

Lads in the thread -> not a f**kn notion!

starlit

I'm 25, so taking my time on that front, still young yet! I've a bit of time yet before I be willing to settle down with someone. Just haven't met any I'd consider settling down with just yet!

OPENROAD

snuggles285 wrote: »

I'm 25, so taking my time on that front, still young yet! I've a bit of time yet before I be willing to settle down with someone. Just haven't met any I'd consider settling down with just yet!

Are your friends married yet? and do you think that when you reach your early 30's and all your friends are married and you have not met that do you think you will start to panic?

Shelga

KerranJast wrote: »

Mawage. Mawage is wot bwings us togeder tooday. Mawage, that bwessed awangment, that dweam wifin a dweam... And wuv, tru wuv, will fowow you foweva...

I love you.

starlit

OPENROAD wrote: »

Are your friends married yet? and do you think that when you reach your early 30's and all your friends are married and you have not met that someone special, would you start to panic?

None of my friends are married! Not even engagged! But I do know of people I went to school and college with who are married/engagged and have kids.

I probably would panic if I hadn't met that special person by my early 30s, hope to be married with kids by then or at least settled!?
Most of my cousins and siblings didn't marry till their late 20's (only a few), the majority married in their early 30's, mid 30's and late 30's so its kinda the norm that I wouldn't expect to marry until my 30's.

sligopark

starbelgrade wrote: »

The only cure for love....

elleburp wrote: »

There's a cure?

Yes - divorce - no better way of finding out you actually married a cünt

starlit

I'd like my career to take off and live away from home again and be more independent and hope to complete a masters before I get married...

Need to find the perfect man!

Mrmoe

I don't really see the point in marriage, so there is a good chance I will never get married.

orourkeda

galwayrush wrote: »

That definitely stops with marriage........:pac::pac:

I thought being suckered starts with getting married

starbelgrade

I'm happily married.



































But my wife isn't.



Ba-dum-ching!

orourkeda

marriage is a load of bollix

Stink on the inside

JONJO THE MISER wrote: »

No way, i love being free too much.

Have to agree there.

I wonder how eager divorcees are to get remarried?

starlit

Marriage isn't for everyone! The traditional way is not always suited to some people. Its what ever way that makes them happy is what counts! Some people have kids before they marry its not a big a deal for some people. Everyone is different depending on their values and views that they share with their partners, and depending on the individual themselves.

Dublinm

if you get it right, you will be happy,
if you get it wrong, you will be complaining

starbelgrade

Dublinm wrote: »

if you get it right, you will be happy,
if you get it wrong, you will be complaining

And when they were only halfway up, they were neither up nor down.

furiousox

There's nothing to fear about 'marriage' imo.
If you're already happy together marriage won't change that.
Having children is a much sterner test of a relationship than marriage believe me.

The Big Red Button

I'm with himself five and a half years now, engaged for two.

We're both very busy with our careers at the moment, and are living opposite sides of the country as a result. Realistically it'll be another 5-7 years before we'd be in a position to even think about planning a wedding. We're planning to build a house in a few years, so it'll be a long time before we have €5,000 or so to spare for our very small non-religious wedding abroad.

For me, getting married is sort of an afterthought. We are already totally committed to our future together and don't particularly need a piece of paper as evidence. I'm aware of the tax benefits involved, and I would ideally like to be married if we ever decided to have children, so I guess we'll do it at some stage. Apart from anything else, it'll be an excuse for a party!

But it's not something that I would stress about, or get into debt for, or even be too bothered about saving up for. If we have the money to spare, we'll do it our way eventually. If we never get round to doing it properly, we'll probably do a cheap civil ceremony at some stage for the tax/children reasons. But it wouldn't bother me a bit if I never get married.

I guess it probably means more to you if you're doing it for religious reasons?

Jesus Wept

Marriage is usually pretty retarded.

Females have being a bride, weddings, the big day, marriage and babies, etc, bred into them from a scarily young age.
Then most grow up and say 'I just really like the idea of being married' - no fucking shit.

Pherekydes

Where's the option for "second time around is best" (or at least better than the first time)?

we'llallhavetea_old

no no no! i will never be married. it makes me squirm just thinking about it. actually i tend to get high pitched and squeeky when i speak about it with friends. i don't see the point too it at all.

i'm the complete opposite to snuggles, who, quite frankly, is making me break into a rash. *scratches furiously*

starbelgrade

Pherekydes wrote: »

Where's the option for "second time around is best" (or at least better than the first time)?

I never thought of that one.

Jesus Wept

we'llallhavetea wrote: »

i'm the complete opposite to snuggles, who, quite frankly, is making me break into a rash. *scratches furiously*

It's alright, they make you get tested before you get married.

Wibbs

Considering by past knack at going for a long line of disloyal and emotionally fickle and fragile women and watching the experiences of my mates both male and female(with all too rare exceptions, then no. No way Hose for me personally.

furiousox

Do you still have to do a pre-marriage course these days?
(It's where a celibate man tells you all about sex)

starbelgrade

Wibbs wrote: »

Considering by past knack at going for a long line of disloyal and emotionally fickle and fragile women ... then no. No way Hose for me personally.

Maybe if you stopped preying on easy targets...