Facebook question

LegacyUser

I got a friend request for a girl I went to school with. She was two faced and nasty and was nothing but horrible to me but pretended to be 'friends' in front of others.

If I hit 'ignore' will she know or should I just leave it sitting there? She will see some of my friends at a wedding soon and at Christmas and will probably act all innocent saying I ignored her request making me out to be the bad one.

I don't care that much. Just need to decide - hit 'ignore' or just leave it there! Certainly not adding her as a 'friend'.

Blowfish

Who cares if she knows? If you don't plan or want to have any sort of social contact with her, there really isn't any point in accepting it over some sort of silly feeling of obligation.

If others ask about it (though do people really go around discussing who accepted/rejected their friend request?), tell them why.

Terri26

if you leave it "sitting" there when you change your status, if photos are added etc it will come up on her home page. if you hit ignore changes won't although if she goes to your page again to see it will say add as friend again or it will say responding/waiting for friend request or similar. to avoid this I would block her as well as delete her and play dumb!

Leeg17

I'd delete the request.

To be fair I only use facebook to talk to people I normally couldn't to at home, friends in other countries etc. Alot of my facebook friend's are people that have me added yet I haven't seen in over a year since we finished the leaving cert.

LC2010HIS

ignore her ass. who cares!

i had "friends" on my FB who were in my year and who féckin mocked me n ignored me - and i deleted um. sending a message basically that school is over. i dont want u to have contact with me ever again.

what would be the point of having her on fb if she was horrible before? and u dont even care or like her?
and if she ever questions it, put her in her box. youve moved on and u dont want anything to do with fake people!
im sure if she wanted to "catch up" she'd go outta her way to make plans with u to ur face. not ur book (funny? no? ok )
facebook is very superficial. as from my own tale above. ignore her. u dont have to justify anything.....sounds like she wants a good aul nose at ur business tbh:rolleyes:

Mr Keek

FFS It facebook, hit the ignore button. The only reason she's asking is the get her Friends count up and to be nosy and have a look at yer pics.

Why would you care what she thinks, you hate her guts right?

Who cares what she says at the wedding. If I ever heard anyone complaining that someone declined them on Facebook I would think that they are a sad insecure little child.

Just ignore her, she won't get any message saying you have done so if thats what your worried about.

tenchi-fan

rather than hit ignore , just leave it outstanding.
I have 3 outstanding friends request and i dont know how many group requested.

Jagera

I've had this from a friend of a friend who I didn't even know. This is what I did:
- I accepted it
- immediately had a nosy at their details & photos just to see what she was up to
- within a few minutes I deleted her

This way, they get the email saying "XYZ has accepted your friend request", yet when you delete them, they get nothing..

However, in your case, you're probably better off ignoring it.

LighterGuy

bw wrote: »

I've had this from a friend of a friend who I didn't even know. This is what I did:
- I accepted it
- immediately had a nosy at their details & photos just to see what she was up to
- within a few minutes I deleted her

This way, they get the email saying "XYZ has accepted your friend request", yet when you delete them, they get nothing..

However, in your case, you're probably better off ignoring it.

Only problem with that is after they see you've accepted they'll goto your profile and see your not a friend and realise you deleted them ... lol.


Op,
Dont have anyone on your facebook friends list who you dont like, or more importanly, who doesnt like you.

Alot of adding people of facebook is nonsense. Your average person will add dozens of acquaintances. People they mightnt even particularly like, people who mightnt particularly like them.


Altho a bit off topic. I am suprised at the number of people above who said "dont accept!" while certain threads ago someone was talking about how come their friend request that was sent to someone they worked with wasnt accepted. The average reply there was "grow up its facebook" or "maybe they dont like work friends on there" etc .... then it was revealed the person she was inviting to be a friend had other people from the job as friends. Clearly not wanting to accept her request.

My point really is that if your friend request isnt excepted .. or ignored... take it as that person doesnt particularly like you

Chinafoot

Terri26 wrote: »

if you leave it "sitting" there when you change your status, if photos are added etc it will come up on her home page.

Eh? I don't believe this is the case. I've never seen any updates from people I requested to be friends with while the request was waiting to be accepted. Unless your profile is completely open, the whole point if "requesting" friends is so that you can choose who sees your stuff. It'd be a pretty big glitch if you could simply send a request and then get all their updates while its sitting there.

OP, hit ignore. She is nothing to you so there is no point in worrying about what she might say to friends. I'm confused as to why you would even care to be honest.

tinkerbell

Hit ignore. Jees why should you feel bad because you don't want somebody who you didn't like in school having access to your information?!

I ignore people all the time on FB, I have ppl adding me who I wasn't friendly with in school yet they added me, like why?! There are people who added me who I haven't spoken to in over 10 yrs, why should I add them either? No thank you! In fact some people have added me because they knew my friends but never even spoke to me - eh, IGNORE!

And if people ask why you didn't add them, then just say "sorry, but you only have ppl on there who you regularly talk to". And if your friends bring it up on why you didn't add this person, then just tell them why!! People ask me why I didn't add such-n-such n I'm just like "errr that person is not my friend, so why would I add them?" Then they see the point and just leave it.

Some people on FB just add ppl just so their "friend count" goes up.

Dudess

OP, who cares if she knows you ignored her? What a twat she seems - attempting to add someone she was horrible to in order to increase her friend count. How pathetic.

Chinafoot wrote: »

Eh? I don't believe this is the case. I've never seen any updates from people I requested to be friends with while the request was waiting to be accepted. Unless your profile is completely open, the whole point if "requesting" friends is so that you can choose who sees your stuff. It'd be a pretty big glitch if you could simply send a request and then get all their updates while its sitting there.

No it's definitely true - maybe it's something that has to be enabled though.

Terri26

Dudess wrote: »

OP, who cares if she knows you ignored her? What a twat she seems - attempting to add someone she was horrible to in order to increase her friend count. How pathetic.

No it's definitely true - maybe it's something that has to be enabled though.

yes it is true as I said I have seen it on my wall while waiting for someone to accept my friend request.

Dudess

I'm agreeing with you that it's true. I only noticed it myself today actually - someone I sent a request to ages ago and had forgotten about, I got an update she had changed her profile pic. I initially assumed she had added me but she hasn't.

Raminahobbin

I ignore people I don't know if they add me.
There was a girl a few weeks back who added me- I had met her 6 or 7 times through friends, but I took a dislike to her from the start. I didn't think I hid it very well either. Anyway, she added me, and I ignored it. Got a message off her a few days later asking me why I hadn't added her...

I did kinda panic slightly and just told her I had been getting alot of friend requests from people I didn't know, that I must have been added to a spam list, and I deleted all the requests from last week without reading them. She thanked me for letting her know....but she didn't send a second request, so I think she knows I was lying.

If she does ask why you didn't add her, just say you only add people you talk to regularly. Don't make up a stupid excuse like I did...

LegacyUser

OP here. I ignored her and am glad I did. I don't understand why someone who more or less bullied me would want to be 'friend' on Facebook. Maybe she has changed but I don't want anything to do with her so she can just f**k off. She isn't worth even thinking about.

LegacyUser

Ignore it and block her so she can't see even your profile picture, if she's sad enough to mention it just tell her you only add people you actually talk to on a regular basis. I have people from school who I know are just adding me to have a nose at what i'm up to so I decline, It's not a big deal cos if they ever bring it up it just sounds like a petty arguement on their part.

Chinafoot

Dudess wrote: »

OP, who cares if she knows you ignored her? What a twat she seems - attempting to add someone she was horrible to in order to increase her friend count. How pathetic.

No it's definitely true - maybe it's something that has to be enabled though.

Thats pretty messed up. More evidence of Facebooks crap approach to privacy. Was the profile open or private? Bizarre.

Anyway, to the topic...OP, if your friends are indeed your proper friends they're not going to give a fiddler's that some girl you don't like sent you a friend request that you refused.

Dudess

Chinafoot wrote: »

Thats pretty messed up. More evidence of Facebooks crap approach to privacy. Was the profile open or private? Bizarre.

Profile still closed off - the updates you get are only limited ones, such as profile pic change, joining whatever groups, etc.

LC2010HIS

Dont dwell on it OP - who cares like? youre overthinking it. just hit ignore.

and if she asks, which means shes extremely sad, tell her the blunt truth. why should u care? school is over and shes obviously still living in it. ur bigger than her. dont cave into her lil fb request!

so, if she says : "oh i added u on facebook and u ignored me, whats that about?" (in a jokey voice - i know the type)
just look her up and down and say: "and?" stare her down
and if she presses about it ,tell her : "school is over love" and then snigger and walk away.

she deserves it lol she'll feel very stupid then

ta da!:)

LC2010HIS

LC2010HIS wrote: »

Dont dwell on it OP - who cares like? youre overthinking it. just hit ignore.

and if she asks, which means shes extremely sad, tell her the blunt truth. why should u care? school is over and shes obviously still living in it. ur bigger than her. dont cave into her lil fb request!

so, if she says : "oh i added u on facebook and u ignored me, whats that about?" (in a jokey voice - i know the type)
just look her up and down and say: "and?" stare her down
and if she presses about it ,tell her : "school is over love" and then snigger and walk away.

she deserves it lol she'll feel very stupid then

ta da!:)

God and you were doing so well :rolleyes:......... To be honest while essentially OP shouldn't feel bad about ignoring her FB request, the second part of your advice is pretty petty and immature.

OP just hit ignore and leave it at that. if she asks then perhaps be assertive about it but id doubt she will. certainly don't sink to her level as you are making yourself out to be bitter and petty if you follow above advice

LC2010HIS

Deleted User wrote: »

God and you were doing so well :rolleyes:......... To be honest while essentially OP shouldn't feel bad about ignoring her FB request, the second part of your advice is pretty petty and immature.

OP just hit ignore and leave it at that. if she asks then perhaps be assertive about it but id doubt she will. certainly don't sink to her level as you are making yourself out to be bitter and petty if you follow above advice

tut u ruined my blair waldorf moment
ok ignore my dialogue then ha! - hit ignore OP:rolleyes:

LegacyUser

Is there a way to cancel requests from people who seem to be ignoring you? I sent one to a girl in my class, thought we got on OK but no acceptance.

tangerinepuppet

Unregistered wrote: »

Is there a way to cancel requests from people who seem to be ignoring you? I sent one to a girl in my class, thought we got on OK but no acceptance.

Go to your friends list. They should show up there if there's a request pending. You can click on an 'x' on the right to make it go away.

LegacyUser

This person is not showing up in my friends list at all! But when I go to the profile, it says 'friend requested'. What does that mean?

6th

Unregistered wrote: »

This person is not showing up in my friends list at all! But when I go to the profile, it says 'friend requested'. What does that mean?

It means you are waiting on them to accept the request.

LegacyUser

6th wrote: »

It means you are waiting on them to accept the request.

But then why are other people I've requested on my friends list, with 'friend request pending' beside their names?