social prob????

LegacyUser

O, I really need help I am tired of living my life like this I litrally can't do it anymore. I am some sort of problem with people and socializing. eg. I saw a group of people I know tonight at the shopn the road from me they were hangin out just outside the shop, Thse are friend;y nice people, yet I had and I can only discribe it as a panic attack, My eyes became watery and my chest began to hurt and suddenly it got hard to breath. My body felt like freezing and not wanting to walk past them.

Same as other things in life, I won't go into a barbers if there are more than 2 barbers in there at a time (I get very self conscience as I sit in the chair) I have litrally went into town some days and walked past the barbers 5 times until he was on his own....

Funny thing is there is nothing more I love than to chat to people, sure I work in a shop serving people all day

wats wrong with me??

Zen65

helpme............ wrote: »

wats wrong with me??

Lots of people suffer from panic attacks, and there is treatment that helps you overcome them. Usually with some help (breathing exercises, cognitive therapy etc) you can manage these.

Try not to develop avoidance habits. If there's too many barbers in the shop, inhale deeply a few times and go in. You will very quickly learn that after an initial "panic" feeling, your body quickly recovers and you can chat away happily.

Also, if your daily routine does not include exercise, you need to address this. A sedentary lifestyle will exaggerate the effect of panic attacks.

Talk to your GP to get advice on what resources are available in your area.

Be at peace,

Z

LegacyUser

see that's the problem. I don't want to chat happily?? I am 10 times more calm when noone is around and I am on my own and I am impossible in social settings, Sure I have avoided countless parties over the years and a friend of mine invited me to go out with her and a few of her friends and I wouldn't dream of going down even though she said she doesnt want to know me anymore if I don't get to know her friends.

Grid.

Go to your GP and explain everything that you have on here, they will be able to treat and advise you on treatment, <snip> best of luck.;)

Zen65

helpme.......... wrote: »

see that's the problem. I don't want to chat happily?? I am 10 times more calm when noone is around and I am on my own and I am impossible in social settings,

You don't want to chat to people, or you're afraid to chat to people because of the feeling of panic that it induces?

Of course you are more calm when no-one is around and you are on your own, but that's not how you want to live your life, is it??? Your first comment on this thread was:

O, I really need help I am tired of living my life like this I litrally can't do it anymore.

Take the advice being offered here.... go see your GP. Lots of people (myself included in my younger days) have suffered what you're going through and come out the other side with help. But you have to seek that help, we can't seek it for you.


Be at peace,


Z

LegacyUser

u see the thing is, I am very young and the feeling of isolaction is really affecting my life. I only work 2 days a week (only thing on offer) and I have countless friends but I don't and never have hung around with a particular group of people. Now I have left school I am really scared of having to spend the next few months in well I suppose u could call it my prison.. I wanted to join a few courses but I was told I have to be on a job seekers thingy for atleast 3 months before I join any paid courses.. The thought of not having contact with people for the next few months is killing me...........................

I think what i said earlier was a bit odd really when i SAID '' i DON'T WANNA CHAT TO PEOPLE'' What I mean by that was I avoid parties and any kind of get together with family or friends. I have been invited to countless parties in recent years and I have never gone to any.........