Was Happened??

LegacyUser

Hi,

I recently met up with someone from Tagged who I've been texting for a while. I made it very clear in my texts that I wasn't looking for a fu*k Buddy relationship if that was what he was into and he made it clear that neither was he.

So we met up, we got on amazing I thought (shared a kiss), then I went home and he texted me when I got home asking why I left. I told him I was up early for work and needed a good night's sleep. However, seen as we got on so well and I was really happy, I decided to reply asking if he'd like me to stay over. I said it'd be convenient for me seen as he's closer to my work than I am. He said "Yea of course if you like!".

So I stayed over, we watched a movie then he initiated foreplay and I got REALLY turned on and I gave into having sex after all my talk of "I've been used by guys before and I really would have to be in a relationship with someone before having sex".

After feeling really bad afterwards he kept asking if i was alright to which I said "ah yeah, I just feel bad now" and explained my reasoning.

Anyways, we arranged to go out tonight before I left his to go to work, and last night I texted him asking if we were still on for it and he wb saying "I'll text you in a min and let you know x" and he never wb

I got the impression from his texts when I left his that he was been extremely cold and short. He used to give several x's and since I left his after sleeping with him he only gave me 1 each time. I think since sleeping with him he's lost interest

Should I text him now and say "Seen as you never wb to me last night I take it tonight is off yeh?"

I just feel so angry, not used because it was my own choice to sleep with him, but we got on so well I don't know why he's blowing me off now

Sorry for the length!

boarduser1980

Whats_new wrote: »

Should I text him now and say "Seen as you never wb to me last night I take it tonight is off yeh?"

It would be a shame not to text him as you both seemed to get on very well. texting him now is leaving the ball in his court to reply -If he doesnt reply to you at least then you will know he isnt interested, but whatever you do - DO NOT text time a 2nd time asking 'why havent you replied or watever'. just delete his number and any texts, so your not tempted to text again;) best of luck

LegacyUser

I did exactly as you said and I sent the text. I just got back a text "yea hun i'm just up, i'm wrecked. If you're free tomorrow day u shud drop over i'm f*cked just want to sleep x"


Tbh i think he's blowing me off? He just woke up and he just wants to sleep all day and night? What should I write back?

LegacyUser

Ok I replied "alright well i cant sorry I'm busy tomorrow x"

and he just wrote back

"when ur free then x"



I think I should say he's 28 (has a 6 year old kid), I'm 19

Kimia

No offense OP, but he probably feels like some sort of devient now. I mean, just after he had sex for the first time you go on and on about how you feel bad and explain your reasonings. Not really what anyone wants to hear after sleeping together for the first time.

I think if you want this to work you have to be cool and stop trying to force the issue. You are sending MAD mixed messages (no i won't sleep with you, yes i will, oh now i feel terrible, etc) he probably thinks you're too much hassle (sorry).

You really really have to take a step back and calm down. Text him and say something like 'Sorry about the last time we met, I don't know why I felt bad about being with you - it was great! Looking forward to seeing you later xx'.

And see what he says. At least you've tried your best then, if he doesn't reply after that the bridge has been burnt I'm afraid.

LegacyUser

Whats_new wrote: »

Hi,

After feeling really bad afterwards he kept asking if i was alright to which I said "ah yeah, I just feel bad now" and explained my reasoning.

Did you consider maybe it's something to do with this? Afterwards you started behaving weirdly and telling him how bad you felt - must have been very uncomfortable for him. Try seeing the situation from his perspective instead of yours, you're not the only person whose feelings are involved here.

Miss Fluff

+1 to what Kimia said. If I slept with a guy for the first time and he turned around after saying how he felt bad about it and hadn't meant to and then was texting me looking to meet up, I would have to question whether he was a. fully with it and b. worth the hassle.

You seem like a nice girl but do you get where we are coming from and how your behaviour could come across?

Send that text as worded above and just leave it then.

Kimia

What did you send to him first?