How independent are you?

girvtheswerve

Something that has struck me of late is that Im not as independent as I would have liked to think.

Now that Im single again and living on my own ive felt very lonely at times and find it hard to make myself go do things.

So how independent are you?

jurgenscarl

You've just been used to being in a relationship and you have forgotten how it was like to be single.

No point in feeling lonely. Go out and get another girl.

Snowie

independent is looking after your self living your own life..

I would of thought your talking about motivation

girvtheswerve

Maybe it is motivation im talking about. Hard to give yourself a kick up the a$$ sometimes to get yourself going.

I suppose the key is to start identifying goals and how they can be achieved

L31mr0d

The problem is it's hard to tell someone that they should treat everyday like a gift and make the most of life (I know. clichéd. but it doesn't make it any less true) usually an individual has to experience some catharsis which makes this apparent to them.

A good mind game is to imagine you won the lottery so that money was no object. What would you be spending your time doing 5 years from now doing? If your answer is traveling, or something to that extent then what would you be doing whilst traveling? Videoing it? Taking pictures? Keeping an extensive journal? Think about what would motivate you to travel. That is probably an area you should work towards.

Once you find a direction in life that you are passionate about motivation to do it will just be a second nature.

Being alone also isn't necessarily a bad thing. Even in relationships people still need to find time to be with themselves and their own thoughts.

http://wimp.com/howalone/

MJOR

i think maybe you were in a comfortable routine and now you're not and maybe you're struggling? set yourself small goals and get out there a bit more.

challenge yourself do something new and exciting !

your now free to explore new things and find yourself again

take up some new sport or hobby

and try and let go of your past

neveah

The poster above is right - you were in a comfortable routine and now you don't know what to do with yourself.

I found it difficult when I came out of a long term relationship at the end of last year but I have challenged myself to loads of new experiences this year. I'd definitely recommend new experiences as they help motivate you and keep you busy and most importantly when you have done something new there is a sense of achievement and this will make you feel good about yourself and help you feel more independent.

Some of the things I have done this year - ran in a marathon, went to my first festival, went on a holiday with my friends.......just a few ideas but I'm sure you get the jist of what I'm trying to say.

cooltown

You were in a comfortable routine and now you don't know what to do with yourself. Thing's change get over it!

Grid.

Is it just purely motivation or do you feel socially inhibited at all?? Like the other posters have said try and keep active both physically and mentally and get involved in group activites if you feel up to it, you'll be better off in the long run, good luck!;)