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"Afters" wedding invitation.

  • 09-08-2010 5:39pm
    #1
    maurska
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2 ✭


    Hi,
    I've received an invitation by card to the "Afters" of a wedding, by a couple I hardly know, is it neccessary to reply as I don't intend to attend.


Comments

  • #2
    PKen
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 212 ✭✭PKen


    Lucky you - I can't even get invitations from people I KNOW!
    If it was a "Full Wedding" invitation (and you were or weren't going), the etiquette is to reply. RSVP is the norm.
    If it's just an "Afters" (going or not going), there's no need to reply at all.


  • #3
    nattyguest
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 62 ✭✭nattyguest


    If you can, you should respond. They probably have a budget to consider for the afters too (I Know I do for my wedding in September) and courtesy never killed anyone :)


  • #4
    The Big Red Button
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,390 ✭✭✭The Big Red Button


    Maybe it's not necessary to reply ... personally, I would though, just to thank them for inviting me and to congratulate them, wish them luck, etc.

    However there's no need for that if you're planning on sending them a wedding card anyways closer to the day, obviously.


  • #5
    PopUp
    Closed Accounts Posts: 236 ✭✭PopUp


    Does the invitation say RSVP? If so, then RSVP.


  • #6
    angeldelight
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,175 ✭✭✭angeldelight


    They will need to give numbers to the hotel for the afters reception too so I would reply if I were you - only have to get a little card, would take about 5 mins and probably much appreciated


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  • #7
    Toots
    Administrators, Business & Finance Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,957 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Toots


    I'd reply if I were you. Usually there's finger food for the afters, so it'll be handier for them if you let them know whether or not you'll be coming. You could send a little card saying you're sorry you won't be there but wishing them all the best, or you could even send a text. Just let them know.


  • #8
    BC
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,326 ✭✭✭BC


    You don't need to RSVP to an afters invite unless it specifically asks you to. These numbers don't normally have to be given to the hotel.
    However, it might be nice to at least send an email to the bride/groom.


  • #9
    ninnyhammer
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18 ✭ninnyhammer


    It depends if the E'invite has requested a response and supplied contact details. Most evening invites i've seen do neither.

    For my own day, I wont ask for/expect a response to E'invites (which i am hoping to avoid using at all).


  • #10
    dresstoimpress
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 153 ✭✭dresstoimpress


    Why would you not reply???
    If they went to the effort to invite you, its only manners to rsvp


  • #11
    Heineken Helen
    Closed Accounts Posts: 636 ✭✭✭Heineken Helen


    You could have sent a text or email in the time it took you to create this thread.

    No, you don't HAVE to respond... but if somebody invites you to anything, it's nice to let them know you're not going.


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