How to bag that man!?

MrsN

Hi guys. I'm looking for some advice. I've got my eye on my best friend's older brother. i am 26 and he's 27 and I've had my eye on him for quite a while but he has been going out with somebody else. i think that relationship is over, but only very recently. I see my best friend every day and I see her brother about 3 times a week. we've got similar interests, we are both fitness fanatics an I meet him at the gym and at runnind events. i really like him and Im becoming really frustrated because I dont know how to find out if he likes me too. I cant tell my best friend in case it all goes horribly wrong and I end up looking stupid. He doesnt go out to nightclubs very often. What should I do? Im afraid he sees me as just his sisters friend. Please help. thanks

Silverfish

Moved from tLL, hopefully more suited to here.

Terry

Kiss him.
Seriously. Any man will be "bagged" with just one kiss.
If he backs off, then forget it. He's not interested.
If he jumps straight in, then he just wants his hole.
If he appears a bit taken aback, but then responds to the kiss, then you're in.

Never hit on a dude in a nightclub if you are looking for a long term relationship. We're just out for our hole there. Ok, there are some exceptions, but they are few and far between.
Your best bet is to ask him out in the gym. If he says no, it's not the end of the world.

One thing I would advise you to do is to run it by your friend. She may not be happy with you looking to have a relationship with her brother. Another thing to take into account is the rebound factor. He may just be looking for someone to ride in order to get over his break up.

The best thing to do is give it time. Express your interest, but make it clear that you're interested in a relationship and not just a one night stand.
If he is not interested after that, then you need to move on and find someone else.
Don't dwell on what could have been.

If your friend is as close as you say then talking to her about it won't be such a big deal. Just tell her how you feel and ask her would it be alright with her if you were to ask him out.

ted1

show him your boobs. but all seriousily Just let him know by a kiss maybe meet him for a run and flirt but keep it obvious cause us guys are stupid and can't notice the obvious.

MrMojoRising

MrsN wrote: »

Hi guys. I'm looking for some advice. I've got my eye on my best friend's older brother. i am 26 and he's 27 and I've had my eye on him for quite a while but he has been going out with somebody else. i think that relationship is over, but only very recently. I see my best friend every day and I see her brother about 3 times a week. we've got similar interests, we are both fitness fanatics an I meet him at the gym and at runnind events. i really like him and Im becoming really frustrated because I dont know how to find out if he likes me too. I cant tell my best friend in case it all goes horribly wrong and I end up looking stupid. He doesnt go out to nightclubs very often. What should I do? Im afraid he sees me as just his sisters friend. Please help. thanks

Ask him out.

Yes - it is that simple

S23

Yeah try asking him out. All this nonsense of just kiss him and if he does a,b or c then you'll know is rubbish. Don't just pounce on your sisters brother.

Also, another thing to keep in mind, is how long is the relationship he was in over and how serious was it? If it was a heavy one with a bad breakup its probably best to give him some space for a while. If it was just a short term casual thing then go right ahead.

RacoonQueen

Suggest going for a run together. It'll give you plenty of time to chat in a relaxed setting.

kiwi123

Whoa give it a while i'd say becuase personally i wouldn't want to walk myself into a situation where i'm someones rebound.
Like no harm in dropping hintbombs by flirting or whatever but i'd still wait for a while, you don't want to come across as an eager beaver!

katie99

Don't just kiss him. That's too forward.
Suggest going for a run together. Then suggest a coffee after, nothing heavy. You will know from his reaction to both if he is interested or not.
But heavens don't just kiss the chap. You may catch him unawares and he may react uncharacteristically.