i hate life

Jilly19

lately iv been finding life really difficult. iv been struggling to cope with things and then to top it all off i lost my job. i had that job for 2 and a half years and am heartbroken that i was let go! im so worried and frightened as to what i might do now as im fed up of my life. nothing is going right for me at the moment:(

ANXIOUS

Jilly19 wrote: »

lately iv been finding life really difficult. iv been struggling to cope with things and then to top it all off i lost my job. i had that job for 2 and a half years and am heartbroken that i was let go! im so worried and frightened as to what i might do now as im fed up of my life. nothing is going right for me at the moment:(

I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling that way. I get down sometimes but you just have to keep going. I find that excersising always helps me. What profession are you in?

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Jilly19

ANXIOUS wrote: »

I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling that way. I get down sometimes but you just have to keep going. I find that excersising always helps me. What profession are you in?

http://m.youtube.com/index?desktop_uri=%2F%3Fgl%3DIE%26hl%3Den-GB&hl=en-GB&gl=IE#/watch?xl=xl_blazer&v=WlBiLNN1NhQ

im not in any at the moment

ANXIOUS

Jilly19 wrote: »

im not in any at the moment

What were you working at? Have you any friends or anything that you can talk to?

Jilly19

ANXIOUS wrote: »

What were you working at? Have you any friends or anything that you can talk to?

i was in sales. i have a few good friends but i dont want to shove my problems onto them. they have their own things to deal with they dont need mine too

ANXIOUS

Jilly19 wrote: »

i was in sales. i have a few good friends but i dont want to shove my problems onto them. they have their own things to deal with they dont need mine too

The good thing about being in sales is that even in a recession companies still need people to sell the goods for them. So I wouldn't be too worried about getting a new job.

I know if I had a friend feeling the way you do, the last thing I'd be worried about is how it imposed on me. I'd just be there for my friend.

Have you been to a counceller or anyone?

Jilly19

ANXIOUS wrote: »

The good thing about being in sales is that even in a recession companies still need people to sell the goods for them. So I wouldn't be too worried about getting a new job.

I know if I had a friend feeling the way you do, the last thing I'd be worried about is how it imposed on me. I'd just be there for my friend.

Have you been to a counceller or anyone?

i have seen a few different counsellors in the last few years but i jus dont feel comfortable. iv also been on medication but that doesnt help for long. im just at a loss as to what i can do now

mickman

get up early every day, dont stay in bed

go for a good early morning run, eat properly and you will start to feel better almost straight away

go for a swim 2-3 times a week. dont drink alcohol

oscar22

Hay Jelly,
Sorry to hear about how ur feeling.
I would agree with mickman.
Start gettin up early as you would for work and going to bed a nice time. Get out for a walk or join a gym.(that's if you can) Your going to have to start filling your day with other things.i.e i do a bit of gardening. Don't hang around a house, u'll only b thinking of things. meet friends and family for coffee or call around to them. Everyone loves a visitor.:)

try writing up a to do list.

U should try some relaxtion, i know it sound a bit hippy but it might relax you. Not one thing will make things ok try a few different things.

also you could speak to someone, it's good to talk.

Try staying away from drink, that will make you feel down 2. Hang overs are not good.

I suffer with cronic pain and every clinic would suggest excercise.
excerise gives you nateral happy hormones.

You should look into re-training, there are loads of organizations with information..ie.fas or your local occupatioal teripest. I found these good.
It's ok to feel down but don't leave it take control of your life. It's very easy happen.

I know its not easy to change things over night but even if you start making a small change ever day its something. Also treat ur self to something, i buy myself something every week,(not like car or holiday, something small, things can be tight) like a nail varnish.

Hope your ok, there will b other job's.be postive.Hope this help some bit.:)

Ricardo G

OP I have been the same way for the last 12 months
I lost my Job (also in sales), got myself into an unmerciful amount of debt so much so that i did'nt sleep for weeks on end with the worry and stress of it all !! I dont have too many friends tbh and i've always questioned the reason for that, but i started to look at the positive aspects, i am healthy, have a great partner, have a roof over my head, a loving family and i'm gradually trying to control the above issues. Don't let it get to you too much and try not be idle for too long, its too easy to think about all the bad things but try to be positive. Always remember there are people out there much worse off !!

hinault

It does help to talk.

Even if you think that you're burdening someone else by telling them your problems.
In fact you're not burdening them.
By talking to your family and friends, you are unburdening yourself to an extent.

And by them listening, they will then know that someone else has problems and is feeling down : this will help them to put their own worries in to perspective as well.

It is important to try to remain positive and to try to remain open.
By remaining open, I mean being receptive.
Get out in to the fresh air.
Try taking up some exercise.
Try reading.
Music can be a great way to relax.

Being worried and preoccupied is a terrible thing.
I've been there.
Reading/exercise/talking to family and friends all helped me.
Some of the most positive people I have ever spoken to, are the people who have far greater issues than I had to struggle with, helped me greatly.
It put my issues in to perspective.

me_right_one

I like to look browse through the pictures on this site sometimes. As someone said, its all about perspective. Hope you're ok

http://apod.nasa.gov/apod/

LegacyUser

i've a feeling you're going through one hell of a bad patch, which EVERYONE goes through. if counseling isn't your thing, then maybe you haven't found the right type of counseling/ right counselor. I doubt pictures of skies can help people in that kind of rut, but i get where the last poster is coming from. yes, you do need perspective, but that will more than likely come later. you should focus on doing things you enjoy for now. go and get a massage, start looking after your appearance, go out with mates for lunch/ nice meal, write up a new CV and add any achievements/ accomplishments you have done. I know you're in a bad patch and think 'dammit, i was good at sales and now i've nothing', maybe this is the perfect oppurtunity to take a risk and either get into another profession or get out of Ireland for a bit, find yourself a nice lady and enjoy your life. I think you're being a tad dramatic with your title, and I get that, I've been there, but you obviously do care about your life if you're coming on here talking about it. So change the dynamic and try some new things and actually do it this time. Meds and counseling can do so much, but you have to meet those resources half way and put some work in (it won't seem like work after awhile, it will be uncomfortable/ unfulfilling at first, then normal, then enjoyable). Give it a go, and don't give up on yourself just yet, you've way more going for you than you think.

room670

Things can only get better , those song lyrics are true ,when you are down on your luck , your luck will change eventually !

Tootle

Could you try volunteering somewhere? If you've worked in sales, you'll be great with people. It might sound daft, or maybe not but Nursing Homes are full of people just dying to chat. The other place would be an animal shelter. I know it'll take some motivation to take the first step but it'll give you a great sense of satisfaction. Keep some positive thoughts going.