Body language

Fremen

I'm not sure TLL is the right place to post this, but I'd be interested in a female perspective.

Sometimes if I'm walking along and a girl comes the opposite direction, I've noticed she'll flick her hair as she passes. I'm wondering how to interpret this gesture= it's a uniquely female one, like walking along with your arms folded across your chest.

At a guess, I'd say it's something like "I've noticed you" or "I like you", but it might be completely unconcious. Do you notice yourself doing it? If so, when?

Silverfish

Not everything a woman does is a 'gesture' to be interpreted in fairness.

I must flick my hair 20 times walking down a street, it could be in my face, it could be annoying me, it might be habit, I'm not trying to use it to send covert signals to any males in the area

Yeah we moved on from the language of the fans, the latest one is hair


Seriously though flicking hair means NOTHING especially if it's a windy day and my hair needs fixing. And yes, I might be smiling because I just thought of something. Nothing to do with you. Sorry

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You can't read someones body language if you've only just seen them. There are certain signs which can mean certain things, such as flicking hair or caressing neck or whatever, or they could just have an itch on their neck or want to flick their hair!

To read body language you first have to take note of their general habits and then observe if there are any gestures that break that habit. And of course no one gesture is conclusive, it is an accumulation of irregular gestures or movements that might suggest something.

So in short, one gesture like a flick of the hair doesn't necessarily mean anything

Fremen

Ok, so sometimes it'll be coincidence, yeah. On the other hand, it seems to me like girls my age do it far more often than older or younger women. There's a definite sequence of events: *notice* *flick* *walk on*.

I'm not saying there's a definite interpretation, or that it always means something, but it happens too often to be coincidence, in my opinion. Come to think of it, I have no idea if girls do it when passing other girls.

Edit: what did you mean by "the language of the fans" bluewolf?

Fremen

Fremen wrote: »

Edit: what did you mean by "the language of the fans" bluewolf?

It has been said that in the courts of England, Spain and elsewhere fans were used in a more or less secret, unspoken code of messages[1] These fan languages were a way to cope with the restricting social etiquette

But apparently:

However, modern research has proved that this was a marketing ploy developed in the 18th century - one that has kept its appeal remarkably over the succeeding centuries. This is now used for marketing by fan makers like Duvelleroy in London who produced a series of advertisements in the 1960s showing "the language of the fan" with models displaying antique fans with this "language

krudler

How about if a girl plays with her hair a lot as you're talking to her? I bumped into a girl I used to have a slight thing for the other day, did the catching up chat thing, then moved onto other stuff, after I mentioned I was single again she started talking about going out with "all the old faces" (knew her from work years ago) and started playing with her hair, which she wasnt doing when it was general chitchat.

Silverfish

krudler wrote: »

How about if a girl plays with her hair a lot as you're talking to her? I bumped into a girl I used to have a slight thing for the other day, did the catching up chat thing, then moved onto other stuff, after I mentioned I was single again she started talking about going out with "all the old faces" (knew her from work years ago) and started playing with her hair, which she wasnt doing when it was general chitchat.

All the lads in work must think I'm mad into them, since I play with my hair all the time. And trust me, I am not.


Yes, it can mean that a woman is attracted to you, but like anything, it's not a hard and fast rule. It can be interpreted in conjunction with many other signs (open body language, blushing, laughing, touching your arm/shoulder) but by itself is not an indicator of anything really.

krudler

laughing and touching was present go or no go?

Silverfish

krudler wrote: »

laughing and touching was present go or no go?

Proceed with caution. I'd say that's a go

krudler

Cant hurt I guess, I'm notoriously clueless at picking up when a girl is flirting with me, she could be straddling me at a party and I'd still think she was just being friendly

KaiserMc

Flicking of the hair can mean a few things , all depends which facial expression is enacted with the flick.Most common meanings are, I'm better than you.. Who do you think you are..or tis fair windy today

Silverfish

I actually play with my hair / flick my hair when I'm nervous or stalling for time before giving an answer on something, or if i notice someone staring at me making me uncomfortable. It's like by flicking my hair I'll knock their gaze off me.

K-9

krudler wrote: »

laughing and touching was present go or no go?

Oh that would be a green sign, though with an amber tinge like Silverfish pointed out. It maybe just the girl is very touchy or even a little flirty. But yeah, I'd say all that is a very good sign.

As for the OP, No. However in a pub etc, it can be a good sign, but you'd need other signals, like the above.

Kimia

krudler wrote: »

How about if a girl plays with her hair a lot as you're talking to her? I bumped into a girl I used to have a slight thing for the other day, did the catching up chat thing, then moved onto other stuff, after I mentioned I was single again she started talking about going out with "all the old faces" (knew her from work years ago) and started playing with her hair, which she wasnt doing when it was general chitchat.

Sorry to hear about your relationship ending Krudler, I remember reading many of your posts when you mentioned your now ex - hope it wasn't a bad break up.

To the OP, hair flicking means nothing.

Novella

Jeez, I'm pretty much always messing with my hair. It basically means, "I can't see, I can't see, my fringe is so annoying.", and that's about it!

WindSock

Same. My mane is so smooth, so silky, so shiney, I can't stop touching it.

Strange Loop

Fremen wrote: »

I'm not sure TLL is the right place to post this, but I'd be interested in a female perspective.

Sometimes if I'm walking along and a girl comes the opposite direction, I've noticed she'll flick her hair as she passes. I'm wondering how to interpret this gesture= it's a uniquely female one, like walking along with your arms folded across your chest.

At a guess, I'd say it's something like "I've noticed you" or "I like you", but it might be completely unconcious. Do you notice yourself doing it? If so, when?

The hair flicking could be just hair flicking, you have to put these body movements in context.

A better indicator may be if the girl licks her lips, as she spots you walking past, and then flicks her hair.
Context.

Faith

I obsessively play with my hair. All the time. It should never be interpreted as anything other than me playing with my hair!