ex back on the scene, what a surprise!

LegacyUser

Hi all,


I am looking for opinions..

My ex, who broke up with me 2 and half years ago, has contacted me every couple months for the last 7 months or so. At first he requested no contacted, then broke his request of course!

We were madly in love but sometimes love is not enough as we all know

This time though its different, he has called me and I was at party so pretty much intoxicated, and as much as I know (he told me few month ago) he has now a girlfriend he claims he loves, he asked me again to come over to mine. (I wasn't born yesterday I know what that means)

I didn't let him as it would be cheating, for him of course, now he says they have good communication together and are not jealous with each other and can do their "things" but no sex..Now that has confused me a little, although I'm sure its just an excuse for him not to feel guilty (mind you he said he could not tell her about it if it was with me as I am the ex!)

Could someone just clarify this for me? he wants an ego boost for sure I know that but clearly that cant be love if there is no jealousy whatsoever, especially that with me he mad absolutely mad jealous, I was too but nothing extreme.

I cant understand this, does it means he doesn't love her that much then as he claims? I know that she's mad about him so I cant understand that do their own things business (shes early 20s btw)

No worries, I am not interested in him anymore I'm just really curious of opinion cos contacting an ex, even for a booty call, is really swimming in dangerous waters in my opinion.

Would appreciate feedbacks

thank you

spinandscribble

puzzled1 wrote: »

Hi all,


I am looking for opinions..

My ex, who broke up with me 2 and half years ago

ago, so its over for ages..

I cant understand this, does it means he doesn't love her that much then as he claims? I know that she's mad about him so I cant understand that do their own things business (shes early 20s btw)

Sounds like you care, why think about it anyway? All you have to go on is his word. Personally I'd take it as a lie. Its not like he came there to just "refriend" you did he?

No worries, I am not interested in him anymore I'm just really curious of opinion cos contacting an ex, even for a booty call, is really swimming in dangerous waters in my opinion.

does it matter? reasons for cheating booty calls? boredom, taking a risk to see what happens, hope you'll make him feel good about himself. Maybe shes not the jealous type and your ex wanted to see a woman get jealous over him for kicks. Maybe he thinks you're weak enough to get involved with him. Maybe he thinks you're dumb enough to believe that so he can get foot in the door again. Either way its not something worth thinking about.

I'd keep doing as you're doing and keep your distance. Nothing good can come of it.

LegacyUser

You want to be told he's not in love with her, that his love for her isn't as special as his love for you was. You want to believe he's still into you and can't get past what you shared. The reality is he's holding onto you for a booty call should things not work out with her, a back-up plan. No-one here can tell you how deep his love is for her, or what he's thinking, but he definitely doesn't have good intentions on anyone's part.

He broke up with you. Stay away from him. Ignore his communication. Block contact. Don't go there.

LegacyUser

thanks for views, I didn't particularly wanted to hear something, was wondering about it thats all. I dont hold grudges, life is too short for that, if hes happy then im happy for him. its saturday afternoon, no plans for the day and i was curious to chat about it, nothing else.

But I take it all in good point, im not bother about his contact, Im not the one with the no contact problem, and no foot getting in the door!

Long gone and dusted!

thank you again guys! now, bank holidays drinks are in order!

have a nice weekend.

spinandscribble

puzzled1 wrote: »

thanks for views, I didn't particularly wanted to hear something, was wondering about it thats all. I dont hold grudges, life is too short for that, if hes happy then im happy for him. its saturday afternoon, no plans for the day and i was curious to chat about it, nothing else.

But I take it all in good point, im not bother about his contact, Im not the one with the no contact problem, and no foot getting in the door!

Long gone and dusted!

thank you again guys! now, bank holidays drinks are in order!

have a nice weekend.

Theres always going to be a few moment of "whhhhhaaaaa?" when you hear from a ex or odd news about them. Its only natural. Good luck, hope he stays away.

LegacyUser

yep pinandscribble, that's always my reaction when I hear from him, its more like "noowwww whhaaat again" type of thing, he knows he's not getting any with me so why bother at this point!

Anyway, this always fascinates me as to see how we, woman, and men reacts to things really...that is why i guess i was asking.
Why if one day i go out with a guy and he does the same thing behind my back and chat his ex after telling me he loves me,thats blows!

for me, once im with someone, regardless i love them mad or just like them then i blank exes, but then again im lay back with my exes, no bad blood, maybe im too nice but its like whats the point in being angry! if someone wants an ego boost by the fact i would reply or pick up the phone then sure i give it, what do i care, it doesnt do anything to me.

Anyway, my vino is waiting for me and im waiting for my girls over to head out so thanks again and all the best to you too.

have a good night!