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  • 23-07-2010 10:31pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Ok quick synopsis, went on a first date with a guy I know two weeks ago, we ended up by chance joining friends of his for dinner, getting hammered and having a great night, just kissed. He was a pure gentleman. Next date one week later was us on our own, few drinks and a stayover.yes i know, but it felt right. Plus we had been texting constantly and on phone nearly everyday chatting. I work up the north of the country and he' s in the south. One week on and due to work tomorrow night is my only night off, and I have committed to going to a good friends birthday. I asked him to come on tues, he brushed it off so I asked him again tonight and he said that he would see.All over text today. Its a birthday party, a few drinks with about 30 other people and will be a great laugh. Im not sure now about it all :-(. any advice anyone or has he just lost interest?


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    You put out too early. He doesn't consider you long-term girlfriend material because he assumes you're a slut and sleep with every guy in the early stages.

    He got the sex. Now he's done, done, onto the next one...


  • #3
    niceoneted
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 463 ✭✭niceoneted


    A party with 30 people of whom you most likely will know alot is a lot for so soon in the relationship.
    He probably was trying to be polite and not say no directly.
    I'd let him off it not get bogged down with and stick to a few one on one dates for now.


  • #4
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    WAY too much pressure. He doesn't want to go to the party (understandably!!) but this is no reflection on you, way more likely that he doesn't fancy meeting 30 people all at once.

    As the above poster said, try and keep the dating on a one-to-one basis for a while. It's very very early in your relationship of 2 weeks to be expecting him to go to a social function with you. He has avoided saying no twice so I wouldn't ask him again tbh, it's not fair.


  • #5
    redhed35
    Closed Accounts Posts: 31 ✭redhed35


    too much too soon = burn out.

    back off for a while,you only just met and now you want him to meet close friends.

    whats the rush?

    get to know each other,take your time.


  • #6
    Kiera
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,130 ✭✭✭✭Kiera


    I'd have done the same as him tbh. Would not meet 30 mates of someone i only went on 2 dates with. Waaaay too much too soon. Back off and leave the ball in his court.


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