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oh working too much?

  • 23-07-2010 8:39am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    hi ok my boyf of 1 year works really long hours in his normal office job and then turns around and decides to work 2/3 weekends a month in pub..
    really want to know how to expplain AGAIN without becoming a nag.. just doesn't seem to bother him that this dictates weekends..
    men!!!! :)


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  • #2
    Stheno
    Moderators, Business & Finance Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 51,690 Mod ✭✭✭✭Stheno


    Have you asked him why he has the two jobs? Perhaps there is a financial reason for which he needs both?


  • #3
    the gob
    Closed Accounts Posts: 45 ✭the gob


    are the two of you saving for something? house, holiday wedding


  • #4
    niceoneted
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 463 ✭✭niceoneted


    There is probably a very logical reason for why he does this. Have you asked him why. It may be that he has financial problems that he does not want to share but that he wants to clear up before he beds his nest with you.
    How often do you get to see him? IS this the issue you have - ie not seeing enough of him?


  • #5
    Sound Bite
    Closed Accounts Posts: 788 ✭✭✭Sound Bite


    Think it either has to be:

    Financial reasons:
    - has he alot of debt?
    - is he there a risk of him loosing his main job and he's organised the second job just in case first job ends in the short term?
    - is he saving towards something? e.g. house, car, engagement ring even?

    Doing it to help someone out:
    - Is the second job working for a family member or close friend who could do with the help?

    There has to be a logical explanation. Most people only work cos they need to. If you've been going out for a year surely you can just ask him?


  • #6
    tenchi-fan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,339 ✭✭✭tenchi-fan


    Is he just blowing the money? Do you rely on the money? Or is he saving for something.

    It's possible working in the pub is part of his social life so you can't exactly deprive him of that (office work can be boring to say the least). In which case, when you say he's working too much you're avoiding the real issue.. which is of course, he's not spending enough time with you!


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  • #7
    redhed35
    Closed Accounts Posts: 31 ✭redhed35


    as other posters have said there may be a good reason that your not privy too.

    talk to him,ask him is everything ok.

    make a plan for some time together,arrange a night out or a night in.

    in todayseconomy if he can get the work ,fair play.

    at least you know hes a good grafter,thats not a bad quality in a guy.


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