Can't get him out of my head

LegacyUser

I need to forget about this guy, I don't really know what kind of advice I am looking for here but I think maybe I just need to vent.

I was seeing a guy for about 5 months. At first things were nice, he seemed more keen then me and did a lot of the early chasing. Although he was never much of a texter and would go two or three days without contact (I didn't really mind this). He had to move back to him mum's hosue for financial reason and fell back in with a lot of old friends from his home town some of them sound like really immature scummy types and he admitted this himself once or twice, but I didn't really hold that against him.

He was always very guarded and could often seem cold or distant, I sometimes used to think he had some serious issues but I didn't like to pry. As time went on he seemed to become more distant and it got to the point where I was doing a lot of the chasing after him. About 3 weeks ago I had a bit of a fight with him because he just didn't seem that bothered about me sometimes. when I had calmed down a had a serious talk with him and though it would probably lead to it finishing but he I think he knew where I was going with it and started to day he's try and make more of an effort. He did too - for one week! then things went back to the way they were, I rang him lats weekend and he was all vague about when he would be able to see me nect because he had loads on (he is always very busy) in the end he decided he could see me on Tuesday. After hanging up and having a think I decided to text and say I couldn't see him on Tuesaday, as I did have something else to do that day and I didn't feel that I should cancell it for him when he could barely be bothered to see e at all.

Since then I have heard nothing from him, it's not unlike him to not text me for a while but I think he may have taken that as me giving him the brush off but I think this might be for the best anyhow. I have decided to leave. Now however I CANNOT think about anything else. I just CANT. What do I do? Do people think I am doing the right thing?

There's more to this story but they are the main points and I think the post is long enough!
Sorry for rambling on.

munstergirl

Hi op
Well done on venting.

Do you want someone to say don't text him, ok i said it.

Have you read that book he's just not into you.

Go meet yourself someone nice, who might even text you before you text them, or shock horror ring you

If your tempted to text him again just read your own post, says it all really.

AngryBadger

OP I do think you should finish up with this guy as he doesn't seem to be as into this situation as you are.

HOWEVER; I don't know if I'd agree with your assumption that he took your cancellation as a brush-off, more than likely I'd say he's waiting for you to get in touch again as that's how things usually go.

For the sake of clarity I'd suggest finishing this off "formally" if you will. I suspect you'd have an easier time putting it out of your head then.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies.

I agree, looking at the post I should OBVIOUSLY not text him. I already knew that anyway. I have done enough of this and I am going to leave it, even if he does text me. I can't justlify carry on with something. A few weeks ago I remember sitting with him and thinking of all the stressing I had done about whether or not he was going to text me to get to this point. I feel real dread about the fact that I would might be in the same situation again the next week.

I probably should finish it with him formally, but that's very hard and I have a feeling that he will just leave it now if I do. Maybe that's the cowards way out but if he can't even be bothered to text or ring me to find out what's going on then does he really deserve an explaination.

The thing that bothers me is early on he was the one doing the chasing and we had a good time together. I can't help but think what went wrong?? Why? Why? Why?

I guess these things happen though and I need to move on with my life.