Had sex with friend

LegacyUser

I feel totally mortified. I went out to a friend's birthday on Saturday night and ended up scoring him. We've been friends for about 4 years, met in college but never scored or anythign like that. Well he came back to mine and one thing led to another and we ended up having sex. There was a brief awkward goodbye in the morning as I had an appointment, and I haven't spoken to him since. I'm mortified as I don't fancy him much and I was ridiculously drunk. What do I say?

Susie_Q

No doubt he is feeling just as awkward and strange about it as you are. One of you needs to be the first to say something to break the ice - perhaps just be up front about it and talk about it? If you're not interested in pursuing anything more with this guy, laugh it off as a bit of drunken fun and get back to being friends. If you're looking for something more, this is your opportunity to discuss that.

I know you're feeling morto but honestly, once you get over the initial embarassment of seeing him again it won't be that bad!

LegacyUser

TBH I just want to pretend it never happened but that's awkward as well. I'm really worried he thinks im a slut or something. I don't know how we can go back to the way it was before after this. I'm really embarrassed.

Blackdrag

Agreed, Your not the first to be in this situation and you wont be the last.

HavingCrack

Unregistered wrote: »

TBH I just want to pretend it never happened but that's awkward as well. I'm really worried he thinks im a slut or something. I don't know how we can go back to the way it was before after this. I'm really embarrassed.

Would you consider him to be a slut so???? Honestly two people had consensual sex one night, you're both grown adults, either just don't mention it again if you don't want to or just have a joke about it and move on.

Miss Fluff

Unregistered wrote: »

I'm mortified as I don't fancy him much

Do you fancy him a teeny bit?

S23

Nothing untoward here. You live and you learn. The lesson here being don't drink so much that you end up out of your senses and having sex with someone you'd never consider doing it with otherwise.

You'll both be embarrased for a short while but you'll get over it. Chin up!

SarahSassy

Unregistered wrote: »

I'm really worried he thinks im a slut or something. .

If a 'friend' thinks you are a slut for doing exactly what he did then why would you consider or treat him as a friend...

LegacyUser

Well, the whispers have already started, apparently some of the girls think I was easy so who knows what the guys are saying. No, I don't fancy him, I mean he's OK looking and he's a nice guy but not really my type...

Pembily

Unregistered wrote: »

TBH I just want to pretend it never happened but that's awkward as well. I'm really worried he thinks im a slut or something. I don't know how we can go back to the way it was before after this. I'm really embarrassed.

Relax I had the exact same thing and I know the person for about 15 years and all our friends would be well shocked if they knew we got together but we had fun and its all grand, neither of us made a big deal and its grand now but it will be a bit awkward for a while but ye will be sound and if you are a slut * so is he!!!!

* Drunken random sex does not mean you are a slut!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It was just sex!

niceoneted

Tell him you hope he enjoyed his birthday present and as it's a birthday present it's a one off.
It may be a case that he has been pining for you though so might be tough but it has to be addressed if you want to move forward and have a friendship with him.
Good luck.

S23

Pembily wrote: »

* Drunken random sex does not mean you are a slut!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It was just sex!

I'd add the caveat that doing it once doesn't mean you are. However, if you are concerned about your reputation I wouldn't go making a habit of it

Oryx

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Well, the whispers have already started, apparently some of the girls think I was easy so who knows what the guys are saying. No, I don't fancy him, I mean he's OK looking and he's a nice guy but not really my type...

Its just talk. Dont try to find out what is being said, and dont dwell on what might be said. Everyone does stuff like this at some stage, and people do love to gossip until a better story comes along.

Hold your head up high and move on. When you meet your friend, greet him as you always would. Dont pretend it never happened, do mention it, but in passing, or in a lighthearted way. Thats how to get past it.

AngryBadger

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Well, the whispers have already started, apparently some of the girls think I was easy so who knows what the guys are saying.

In all likelihood the guys are indifferent OP, you'd be amazed at how little of what women think (about other women) actually matters to guys.

springwell7616

If you enjoyed the sex, tell him the next time you meet him "thanks for the nice evening" and say no more. If you did, say " jeezus was I pissed on (whatever night it was)......