New forum/topic "Recovery"

Tender Hoop

Hey guys I notice that allot of people in here are in recovery from booze coke pills etc and some others are not, just long time abstainers.

Do you think it could be time to set up a topic/thread dedicated to people in recovery to share their experiences and try to give advice to others who find themselves dealing with drug/alcohol/food/sex addictions??

It could be simply named: Recovery.

I know there are international ones out there online dealing with the same issues but i find it allot easier when i'm talking to people from Ireland as the culture (including drinking culture) is one we are all familiar with.

Will a Mod see this or will i have to make my pitch else where?

What are your thoughts???

derealbadger

Tender Hoop wrote: »

Hey guys I notice that allot of people in here are in recovery from booze coke pills etc and some others are not, just long time abstainers.

Do you think it could be time to set up a topic/thread dedicated to people in recovery to share their experiences and try to give advice to others who find themselves dealing with drug/alcohol/food/sex addictions??

It could be simply named: Recovery.

I know there are international ones out there online dealing with the same issues but i find it allot easier when i'm talking to people from Ireland as the culture (including drinking culture) is one we are all familiar with.

Will a Mod see this or will i have to make my pitch else where?

What are your thoughts???

i think it would be a very good idea as trying to explain recovery to those who are not sufferers is like trying to explain colours to a blind man

Elenxor

It's a great idea, let's just keep this one going and see how it goes.

I've found that others in recovery are the only people who 'get' me when I tell them how I'm feeling and where my head is, at any given moment.
It is comforting to know I'm understood, empathised with, and above all,not judged!.

It's the 'pull yourself together' brigade who really p*** me off!

Tender Hoop

Yes, I do like this this forum but I believe we could definitely benefit by having one dedicated solely to 'recovery'. I'm sure the non addicted abstainers do not feel at home either among a bunch of dispos!!

I think only people who have been through addictions, treatment centers, aftercare,AA etc can really understand what others in addiction, whatever the stage, are going through.

Where do I go from here?

(don't worry I don't want to be a mod, They would not let me after my recent spate of bannings!!!!)

cue

It could be helpful.

bank

Tender Hoop wrote: »

Hey guys I notice that allot of people in here are in recovery from booze coke pills etc and some others are not, just long time abstainers.

Do you think it could be time to set up a topic/thread dedicated to people in recovery to share their experiences and try to give advice to others who find themselves dealing with drug/alcohol/food/sex addictions??

Hi

I agreed with your post about an independent Forum for people in Recovery. I put in a request for such forum and suggested we call it "Recovering Addicts" so all people recovering from addictions can post. If anyone thinks this is not a good title, i'm sure it can be changed. Anybody any ideas/thoughts

Tender Hoop

Cool Glad you like the idea. I think the title 'recovering addicts' might draw some unwanted attention. People in recovery will now what the title 'recovery' means.

actually I don't really give a **** what it is called tbh!!

Anyone else interested??

mathepac

Tender Hoop wrote: »

... Do you think it could be time to set up a topic/thread dedicated to people in recovery to share their experiences and try to give advice to others ...

My suggestion is that if the last six words are going to be the basis for the forum, scrap the idea now.

12 steppers will know that all anyone in recovery brings to the party are experience strength and hope; advice is for paid professionals to offer and I don't believe it is appropriate in a setting such as this.

bank

I agree Mathepac, Nobody should ever try to give advice. Thats definitely not what the forum would be all about. Perhaps tender hoop could have refrazed that sentence!!!

My hope for the Forum is for anyone in recovery from a problem, be it alcohol, drugs or whatever to be able to post here. For example I'm in recovery from alcohol and it would really help me to have somewhere to post to say how I'm getting on or perhaps not getting on too well. I may well be in danger of falling off the wagan because i was having a **** day and I just need to vent my anger and may ask for encouragement from other people to help me get by.

On the other hand I may be going through a brilliant period and someone else is going through a **** time and ask for advice. I may then be able to tell them how I managed to get myself out of the temporary hole i was in etc

Guys I'm no expert, I just want to have some where to go that will help me to get through my recovery.

Should I change the name to " Recovery" ???

Tender Hoop

mathepac wrote: »

My suggestion is that if the last six words are going to be the basis for the forum, scrap the idea now.

12 steppers will know that all anyone in recovery brings to the party are experience strength and hope; advice is for paid professionals to offer and I don't believe it is appropriate in a setting such as this.

Ok Ok jump down of your high horse mate. I didn't write experience strength and hope because that has AA written all over it and it was never my intention to start a AA forum.

Allot of people don't like AA and including their little puns and slogans will only alienate people.

When I said 'advice' you knew well what i meant. To try to help others in an addiction cycle by offering support and 'sharing' how others in recovery have coped.

I just though that it would be a good idea to have a forum where people recovering from addictions could go and say what was on their mind. Simple.

bank

I'm not sure how getting a new forum approved goes but I think the post has to generate interest or else it doesn't get approved. As it stands it has no support so the likelyhood of having our own Forum could be short lived. It would be a shame because I feel there is a lot of people who could do with somewhere to go when the going gets though. The new forum post is at http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=461

As far as I understand it is against the rules to advertise for support of a forum so this will be the only time I am going to let people know about the new forum, after this, its up to you whether we get our own forum or not .

C_Dawg

I'm in favour of a new forum for recovery. This forum could of been ok with the odd recovery thread but at this stage the forum has been swamped with recovery threads.

Tender Hoop

Hello Bank,

I read the locked thread and I think its bull**** that we cannot start a new forum for those reasons.

Of course there are outside places to get help for recovering addicts just as there is also outside places to get info on health issues but I don't see them closing the health forum.

The mods are such a bunch of asssholes

bank

Hi Tender hoop

I am absolutely not excusing people but its complete ignorance on the part of some mods/forum manager. I think in general people consider people who are TRYING TO CONTROL their alcohol/drug or other habits/addictions as freaks/crazy terrifying people. Note I said "trying to control" because the thousands of people who drink/drug/over eat to excess every day/weekend are seen as "normal".

They get up, go to work, socialise with people, have coffee, play sport so they deserve to get merry, drunk, drugged up at the weekend. To a lot of people its life. God forbid if you decide that over doing the alco/drugs etc isn't such a good way to live life, all of a sudden your seen as " abnormal". You're even a liability to Boards.ie if you want to post your experiences/thoughts on their forum.

I'm at a loss in my understanding of the human race!!!

eviltwin

I think its a great idea and I'm sure there are many people on boards who would welcome and benefit from such a board.

Yes there are many places in the real world to access help, we all know that, but as someone who took nearly 10 years to get help for an eating disorder I know that for many people its a big step to take and not always something that can be easily done.

I know that if I had been involved in some kind of online group I would have gotten help sooner. So yes I do think its a no brainer, on line help groups exist for all manner of things and are a genuine life line to a lot of people so why not have one here?

Do the mods even have any experience of addiction? Doesn't sound like it. Is there any way to appeal it further up the food chain?

Elenxor

Well we tried...it's not going to happen!!

Can we let it go now?

Instead, can we all just concentrate on our own recoveries and offer encouragement to new posters on the Forum?.

bank

Hi Elexnor

Nobody is stopping you concentrating on with your recovery, I certainly havent stopped concentrating on mine. One huge problem with this country is everyone just gives up. Nobody is willing to fight for what is right. Its obvious that a "recovery" forum is needed if so many people are posting in the "WRONG" forum. No, the mods don't ever have to agree to a new forum but if people don't give support to it and fight for it, it will never happen.

Tender Hoop

I agree we should continue to petition for a new recovery forum.

Frisbee

Tender Hoop wrote: »

I agree we should continue to petition for a new recovery forum.

It will get you nowhere. The word from on high is that no such forum will be approved.