Anniversery day of friends wedding

mollybird

hi girls,
me and my OH will be going out 4 years day of his friends wedding. It's teh first week in aug but would like to do something that marks the special day for us too. i don't want it all to be about the wedding party that day.

any ideas???

Malari

Hmm, if it was me, I'd arrange a dinner or something nice the day before or the day after. You won't really have a lot of time to do something special, just the two of you on the day of his friend's wedding.

Also, if it was me I wouldn't be drawing attention to it at a wedding, because there would be end to the "it'll be you next!" style comments! :pac:

Why don't you do something small and private that no-one would really notice. Have a dance to a song you both like together, get a glass each of champagne for a mini private toast to yourselves, just don't try to steal the limelight

LimeFruitGum

My 30th was on the same day as a friend's wedding. We just made a big weekend out of it; we had a lovely champagne breakfast on the day and went off to the wedding and let the couple have their special day.
The day after the wedding, we went for a nice lunch in a local country house. So that was how I balanced it out.

mollybird

ya i like your idea malari. i def don't want to draw attention to myself. get the dj to play one of our songs or have a private toast to ourselves.

cch

If you're staying in the hotel where the reception is on, then sneak back to your room at some stage for a quickie (maybe when the reception room is being cleared after dinner) and spend the rest of the evening with a big smile on your faces

becksgirl

hey mollybird, if u don't want it to be all about ur friends wedding day, why not make it all about u and ur OH, slip a ring in to his champers and pop the big question!:):):)
i am wit my OH nearly five yrs now, stil waiting on him to pop the question, all his family keep asking when we are gettin married and all his friends are married now or engaged....feel like i am being left behind,:mad::(

The Big Red Button

becksgirl wrote: »

hey mollybird, if u don't want it to be all about ur friends wedding day, why not make it all about u and ur OH, slip a ring in to his champers and pop the big question!:):):)

But ... it's the couple's wedding day, it should be all about them, and I don't think that the mollybird is suggesting otherwise!

Proposing at a friend's wedding would be completely inappropriate, in my opinion.

becksgirl wrote: »

i am wit my OH nearly five yrs now, stil waiting on him to pop the question, all his family keep asking when we are gettin married and all his friends are married now or engaged....feel like i am being left behind,:mad::(

Well then go for it, ask him yourself ... just not at someone else's wedding!

becksgirl

chatterpillar wrote: »

But ... it's the couple's wedding day, it should be all about them, and I don't think that the mollybird is suggesting otherwise!

Proposing at a friend's wedding would be completely inappropriate, in my opinion.



Well then go for it, ask him yourself ... just not at someone else's wedding!

mollybird said she didn't want the day to be all about the wedding, i was just trying to suggest ideas for her and her OH!, i think its a lovely idea proposing, at least u will remember the day and time and the song playin in the background, very romantic, u cud just keep it between urselves and not tell anyone so it doesn't take the attention off the bride and groom,:)

Lynnsie

chatterpillar wrote: »

But ... it's the couple's wedding day, it should be all about them, and I don't think that the mollybird is suggesting otherwise!

Proposing at a friend's wedding would be completely inappropriate, in my opinion.

I totally agree, this happened at my sister's wedding and it came across as an attempt to steal the limelight. Everyone was delighted for the couple that got engaged but saying that their timing was inappropriate

SheRa

mollybird wrote: »

ya i like your idea malari. i def don't want to draw attention to myself. get the dj to play one of our songs or have a private toast to ourselves.

The private toast is a lovely idea. I wouldnt be so sure that the DJ request is a good idea though, as the song list is usually something thats decided between the bride and groom and the DJ beforehand.

Malari

SheRa wrote: »

The private toast is a lovely idea. I wouldnt be so sure that the DJ request is a good idea though, as the song list is usually something thats decided between the bride and groom and the DJ beforehand.

Yeah, I was thinking that. But it doesn't mean you can't pick, say 2 or 3 songs you like that you think might be played - likely wedding songs, either slow or dancy! If one is played then the two of you go and meet on the dancefloor, wherever you are in the room. I think it's kind of romantic doing little private things like that

rebel10

becksgirl wrote: »

hey mollybird, if u don't want it to be all about ur friends wedding day, why not make it all about u and ur OH, slip a ring in to his champers and pop the big question!:):):)
i am wit my OH nearly five yrs now, stil waiting on him to pop the question, all his family keep asking when we are gettin married and all his friends are married now or engaged....feel like i am being left behind,:mad::(

Why would someone want to get engaged at somebody elses wedding Surely they can think of somewhere a little unique and personal to both of them. Plus, I think if someone i knew got engaged at a weddin, all i would be thinking, besides the obvious inappropriate timing, is this actually planned, or has the "proposer" had a little too much to drink and has become emotional and done it on a whim because of the situation around them. I would prefer that it would be somewhere beautiful and personal to the couple, not in a function room of a hotel.:p

Don't worry becksgirl it will happen for you. Don't be in such a rush to go with the settling down thing. You will probably be with him for the rest of your life, there is plenty of time for marriage. As someone once told me, if people are constantly asking when ye are going to get engaged, just reply with, "well if we have been going out for this many years we must be doing something right." Then just change the subject.

seamus

Miss Lala wrote: »

I totally agree, this happened at my sister's wedding and it came across as an attempt to steal the limelight. Everyone was delighted for the couple that got engaged but saying that their timing was inappropriate

This is the kind of thing that Hollywood shows all the time. A couple are fighting or their relationship is on the rocks, but when they attend a friend's wedding their true feelings come out, and a big emotional scene happens in the middle of the ceremony/reception, ending with a marriage proposal. While women coo and cry and say, "That's so romantic", they forget that if they actually saw that happen at a wedding, they would be completely and utterly disgusted.

+1 on doing something privately - depending on the setup, you may have the opportunity to sneak off for a champagne breakfast/lunch and celebrate between yourselves.

Would you not just wait until the next weekend to celebrate?

WindSock

I don't see why you have to celebrate 'on the day'

How many times have you celebrated your birthday on the day if it falls midweek? Surely something to mark the occasion when suits is more sensible. Just go to your mates wedding and forget about your anniversary for that day and celebrate the larger event. It's not like ye are married anyway and even if you were, is a 4 year anniversary even that big a deal

Fair enough if you think so, but as has been suggested, do something before or after. You can always 'celebrate' in the bedroom that day anyway

iguana

WindSock wrote: »

I don't see why you have to celebrate 'on the day'

How many times have you celebrated your birthday on the day if it falls midweek? Surely something to mark the occasion when suits is more sensible. Just go to your mates wedding and forget about your anniversary for that day and celebrate the larger event. It's not like ye are married anyway and even if you were, is a 4 year anniversary even that big a deal

I agree. My friend is getting married this year on my wedding anniversary. My husband won't even be with me that day as it's a mid-week wedding on the other side of the country and he absolutely can't get the day(s) off work. It's not that big a deal. We have a wedding anniversary every year, my friend will just have this one wedding. We'll do something nice at the weekend for ourselves.

And maybe next year we'll organise a co-celebration of their first and our fifth wedding anniversarys.:cool: