two boys one girl

gooch85

Been living in England for a few years basically had to move over for work, anyway long story short was going out with a guy for 6 years in Ireland madly in love and hated leaving him. Since I moved over we have broken up but still see eachother every time I come home and still stay in close contact. Started seeing another guy in the last few months over in England, started out as really good friends but now it's gotten a bit more than that, he knows all about my ex in Ireland and knows what the situation is(ie if I ever move home we will be together) problem is now ive really started to fall for this new guy, he's a great friend is always there for me and I can tell him anything. We see each other all the time and fool around very mildly, basically he refuses to sleep with me because of my ex in Ireland, he thinks that he will fall in too deep if we go that much further Im so conused about the whole thing on the one hand I have a beautiful boy in Ireland waiting for me if I ever decide to come home but on the other hand I have another boy in England who will be there for me 100% if I could just let go of my ex. Just so confused as to what to do, has anyone else been in this situation?

jurgenscarl

There is no real right or wrong here.
Guys especially guys who have been in only a few serious relationships are often shocked and angry to discover that some women often have two or more lovers at the same time.
This is stereotyped as male behaviour - many goodlooking charmers have a string of girls who he can call on for sex whenever they want.
Personally I find that it's best to tell people that the relationship is not exclusive when I am seeing several women at the same time.
You come across as a women who is free spirited and does as she pleases.
If you prefer one of the guys and decide to choose him over the other go ahead and do it.
If you like the idea of two men at the same time, do it but better off telling them that they have to share you.
If one or both guys are not happy with it and you don't want to do things his way, then he's a big boy and he should go find someone else.
Honesty is the best policy.
Tell people what you want and don't fool with them.

kjl

To be honest I would disregard jurgenscarl post, it seems to me that you have already made up you mind and you just need us to confirm it. I think you need to tell your ex that you no longer wish to see him romantically and then pursue a relationship with the guy in England. You are still young, you spent 6 years with your ex. Now its time to try something new, and from the sounds of it you are pretty keen on this English fello. I think your heart is already telling you to go for it and give it a go with the new guy. He sounds like a pretty nice bloke, so whats the harm.

desolate sun

OP are you sure the Irish guy is 'waiting' for you at home? He may be in the same situation as yourself. It is a dilemma allright. I wish I had your problem! (too little men)
What are your future plans? Do you intend moving back to Ireland anytime soon? IMO I think you should go for the English guy just because I think the Irish guy may not be there for you. Bird in the hand/bush situation

pS why did you break up with your ex in the first place? Was it the distance? Maybe he could have moved over? Anyway give the new situation a try. You never know it may not be all it's cracked up to be and your ex may be the one for you