Conflicts

SarahBeep!

Recently complications have arisin in my relatinship with my girlfriend.
She's a lesbian, I'm bisexual. I think this is the problem....has anyone had any experience in this area?

crotalus667

SarahBeep! wrote: »

Recently complications have arisin in my relatinship with my girlfriend.
She's a lesbian, I'm bisexual. I think this is the problem....has anyone had any experience in this area?

what are the complications ??

SarahBeep!

Has very little patience with me, doesn't let me get close, even to hold her hand. I think she thinks I'm going to leave her for a man...

rainbow kirby

Is this her first relationship with a girl and/or is she still closeted to some people?

baby and crumble

it's very possible that she feel insecure about your commitment to the relationship- a lot of bad press goes around about bisexual women especially going 'back' to men, for an easy life. Load of poppycock if you ask me, but hey, i've been there and it's easy to get into your head.

Of course (and I hate to say this) but it may be that she's acting like this because she simply doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore. perhaps she's uncomfortable being openly affectionate in public.

how long are you guys together, and is her behavior now very different to previously?

SarahBeep!

rainbow kirby wrote: »

Is this her first relationship with a girl and/or is she still closeted to some people?

Nope

zoegh wrote: »

Of course (and I hate to say this) but it may be that she's acting like this because she simply doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore. perhaps she's uncomfortable being openly affectionate in public.

how long are you guys together, and is her behavior now very different to previously?

We were at home alone on the couch. This is a total first, she's never been like this since we got together in March and it came on all of a sudden.

baby and crumble

Hmmmm... is this her first serious relationship? You guys are only together a couple of months, maybe its abit fast for her or something?

Is it a consistent thing or has it only happened the once? If its only the once maybe she was in a mood or something. If it's consistent you should ask her about it...

SarahBeep!

Nope, she's been serious before. She's actually older and more experienced than me. It's been pretty much the same the last few days but it happened all of a sudden.

azezil

Have you tried talking to her about it?

SarahBeep!

She just shuts me down or tells me not to be silly

Heebie

Are you sure she's not one of us (Men, that is.) ?? That sounds like a guy-thing.. not a lesbian thing. =O

But seriously.. that sounds like a classic case of someone with an attachment disorder where she's trying to push you away.. in order to see if you're going to leave her "like everyone else does" It can be a vicious game.. and tends to come up from the fear that you'll hurt her if she lets you get too close.
(I've done this to a couple of guys.. before we were "in a relationship". but we were starting to get close. It can really poison a relationship if it's not recognised & dealt with.

There are certainly other things it could be as well. (see posts up there ^^^ )

SarahBeep! wrote: »

She just shuts me down or tells me not to be silly

baby and crumble

OP, I think you need to call her on her behaviour. It's not on. It's pretty childish too...