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xxchloexx

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m5ex9oqjawdg2i

Yea, they were pretty childish reasons to break up with somebody you "love" imo.

Nemanja91

Sounds like a pr!ck, leave him off!

jd007

Maybe you should post in Personal Issues op

Lando Griffin

He will probably give up the hash in a few years, no bloke likes getting texts from the dog and bone when drinking with their buddies and your one sounds like a wasted slapper no need to worry about her either so live and let live girl

dr.bollocko

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fungun

sound fairly minor reasons to me.

Girl - sounds like a pain, but as long as you trust him then its ok, she will grow out of acting like that
Texts/hash - bloke stuff really, he will prob do it for a bit but im happier with a partner who has their own stuff to do too cos then i dont feel bad doing my stuff! So dont see the problem. Texting thing sounds a bit annoying but not a break up reason

Biggins

He seems to be taking your considerations second, both to his ways of living and in regards to the other girl.
This is a relationship that I think is going nowhere fast, your spending (wasting) time and effort on deaf ears and you can do better.

I would dump him as soon as possible.

sara-lou

He sounds like a real catch!

If he wants to do his own thing let him, he doesn't sound like he really cares about your opinion. Fair enough if he is out drinking with his friends than he is entitled to, drunken texts are dangerous anyway. When i am with my friends i get totally caught up in having fun and chatting its easy to forget to text.

I think you should have it out with him if he doesn't want to compromise then you should move on. Whats the point in you upsettin yourself he doesn't sound worried at all

LegacyUser

txting/ hash... is not the deal breaker for you.

i think you feel that he does not consider your opinions and does not really treasure you.

if you feel that, you better leave.

you left already, better not go back.

he is not ready for a mature relationship. this is not what you want. he cant give you what you want at the moment, so leave it.

dublingal80

xxchloexx wrote: »

Ok well i need some help here , my boyfriend and i broke up but he has been texting and calling me since begging me to get back together with him , hes saying im being stupid and silly for breaking up with him because of childish reasons...

well this is what i need help with , are the reasons i broke up with him childish or not ?

i dont no if im just being a moan or what.. ill explain what he does All the time , he goes out with his friends to the pub and does text me then all of a sudden stops texting me back and the next morning still doesnt send me a message until i ring him and hes says "you know i was out" yeah thats fine but a message saying ill talk to you in the morning wouldn be too hard to send would it ? instead of just leaving me waiting for him to text back wondering whats wrong.
Then he has a female friend i know there close and at first i did feel a bit threatend but he convinced me to go out with them for her brithday , so we did and during the night she got me in a corner and said "im number one in his life not you just remember that" so ehh hold on , your my boyfriends number one.. i dont think so. I told him about this and he says he will sort it she musn't of ment it that way , still hasn't said anyything to her.
And now another reason , he smokes hash , i know thats not a big deal but ive told him i dont like it im not into it and if he must do it please dont do it around me , this was fine until he tried to act the hard man in front of one of his friends who laughed when i said i dont like him smoking it around me , so he rolled a joint in front of me just to show he wasn't under the thumb...
theres more reasons there pretty much like them nothing major but still things that get to you when you're in a relationship . What do you think i should do ?? as i really do love him just need some advice ..

why do you always expect him to text you while he is out? My ex would text me on nights out and other nights out he wouldnt. all i would ask for would be a text to say he got home ok. if i didnt hear from him id wait until the avo and give him a bell to see how he was... no biggie. there is no need to argue over a text or a lack of one.

with regards to the girl, you have said it to him and he hasnt done anything about it... move on from it and if she brings it up to you again, go get your boyfriend go over to her and ask her to repeat what she just said to you infront of him. it just sounds like she is jealous of what you have and there is no way she would be number one if you are his girlfriend

regarding the hash - personally i have been with someone who smoked it and ended up getting into harder drugs and got addicted, so for me personally i couldnt be with someone that smoked hash

I think you should sit down and talk to him - if you still care about him and love him and want it to work out. Explain your reasons and see what he has to say

Biggins

Put it this way:
Are you doing all the hard work in this relationship?
Is there any sign that he is willing to take into consideration your feelings?
Is there any sign that he is willing to step up for you more so rather than for the other girl less so?
Is he willing to take your considerations into account and meet you even half way to resolving the situation?

If your in a relationship and from the very start the foundation of it is "shaky" at best, despite all your efforts to build upon it further (by time and effort), your building upon very volatile ground and does not bode well for the future in prospect, faithfulness and health issues alone?

When you look at him - can you really see him as a responsible father to your kids some day?

If you answer the questions above honestly to yourself and they are ones that majority put him in a negative light, you know deep down its time to get out - for all your possible time and efforts, you know it will be an eventual waste and your fighting a losing battle for his heart that he don't want to surrender - even a bit for you.

In my estimation, its time for you to move on and up with your life.
Sorry if that hurts but I speak from the heart honestly.

muinteoir09

He sounds like a tool.

It doesn't matter if the reasons seem minor or childish to anyone else, if you are not happy and comfortable in the relationship you need to end it.

gpe

Dump that zero. Get yourself a hero. Imo.

Canluum

They're pretty childish reasons, you thought you could change him, you can't change people. You don't need an excuse to dump people... "I'm not feeling it" is good enough.
They're not really good reasons though, if they are you're real ones, you sound a little controlling and childish to me. Why should he have to change himself to be with you?

The girl sounds like a twat, your ex sounds fairly okay.

Biggins

Canluum wrote: »

...The girl sounds like a twat, your ex sounds fairly okay.

My feeling is that the girl is a little nuts and the bloke reached a point of no return long ago in his regard to your considerations.
Time to move on...

Motley Crue

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