Wolf whistling?

caseyann

I am curious,do you find wolf whistling rude or chauvinistic?

I do believe it is against the law in Ireland now but cant find a link to prove it.
But friends of mine have been warned that it is not allowed anymore .I read a story were School girls were banned from wolf whistling at construction workers,because caused the workers stress

Personally i havent heard a wolf whistle in Ireland in years But it didnt bother me either way there or not.

BumbleB

caseyann wrote: »

School girls were banned from wolf whistling at construction workers,because caused the workers stress

Are you sure its not the other way around?.

caseyann

BumbleB wrote: »

Are you sure its not the other way around?.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/howaboutthat/2174531/College-girls-banned-from-whistling-at-builders.html

Pythia

I still hear it from time to time. For example I passed a group of Algerian soccer supporters about a month ago when I was decked out in my finery and I got a wolf whistle from them. They probably aren't used to seeing suspender style tights in their country though!

princess-lala

I think its rude personally but I tend to ignore wolf whistles if I do hear them.

shinikins

Depends on the situation really. I've had absolute sleaze bags wolf whistling at me, and its patently obvious that they were just perving, but i've also had guys wolf whistle at me who seem to be showing genuine appreciation. How i view it changes, sometimes i'm flattered, other times i think "who the fcuk does he think he is whistling at me that way"

LivingDeadGirl

I hear them quite a lot still, wouldn't say it's outdated at all.

caseyann

http://www.independent.ie/lifestyle/with-kids-builders-are-seen-not-heard-2228100.html

I lol'd at this

Is any of the guys here who do it or work with guys who do it still,because i have heard it against the law now and considered sexual harassment.

caseyann

shinikins wrote: »

Depends on the situation really. I've had absolute sleaze bags wolf whistling at me, and its patently obvious that they were just perving, but i've also had guys wolf whistle at me who seem to be showing genuine appreciation. How i view it changes, sometimes i'm flattered, other times i think "who the fcuk does he think he is whistling at me that way"

aha i see so if you fancy him back its ok

cazzycaz

Havn't heard a wolf whistle for ages...but often when i was younger and thought it was quite flattering and harmless. However if it's followed by a 'get um off luv' by some ugly sleeze then thats different. I suppose maybe now it could be considered harrassment.

The_Kew_Tour

Hey it's better someone appreciates yer good looks then none at all

fullstop

cazzycaz wrote: »

Havn't heard a wolf whistle for ages...but often when i was younger and thought it was quite flattering and harmless. However if it's followed by a 'get um off luv' by some ugly sleeze then thats different. I suppose maybe now it could be considered harrassment.

What about if he's good looking? Or do you think ugly and sleazy naturally go together?

shinikins

caseyann wrote: »

aha i see so if you fancy him back its ok

Got it in one lol

Catari Jaguar

adrian280582 wrote: »

Hey it's better someone appreciates yer good looks then none at all

Not at all. This is a type of attitude that needs rid of imo

caseyann

fullstop wrote: »

What about if he's good looking? Or do you think ugly and sleazy naturally go together?

I think she means that in figure of speech,sleazy is ugly

Dudess

I think it's flattering. You walk by, they wolf-whistle, you continue walking. No harm done.

Delicate_Dlite

I find it rude, but I've not experieced it in a long time. I usually get groups of men looking me up and down and nudging/muttering to each other, which I personally hate, it makes me want the earth to swallow me whole.

For me being sleazy makes a guy unappealing regardless of looks, he's off the to do list. :rolleyes:

Piste

It's mildly annoying, but I don't think it's illegal, it's harmless enough.

Tefral

Sisk, siac and Laing o'rourke have outlawed builders whistling at passers by kn their sites, you get sent home for the day! That came in about 2 years ago. I wonder had it anything to do with the amount of health and safety officers and reps that started working for them who were predominantly female?!

panda100

princess-lala wrote: »

I think its rude personally but I tend to ignore wolf whistles if I do hear them.

I always presume its for someone else so thats why I never react to them.

That said the strangest thing happened to me on Saturday when I walking to my car in Stephens green shopping centre.
There was an English family walkng beside me. I don't want to be judgmental but mum and dad were of the chavvy persuasion. As I was passing one of their kids, about 6 year old boy, shouted 'I like her boobies', and he kept on shouting it. I was sure the mum was gona reprimand him but she just shouted to me 'Oi my son wants to ride you'!!!

I was in complete and utter shock. It was the bizzarest thing ever.

I just ignored them and kept walking to my car with my cheeks blazing red.:o I felt it tad inappropriate coming from a 6 year old boy and his mum tbh.

princess-lala

panda100 wrote: »

I always presume its for someone else so thats why I never react to them.

That said the strangest thing happened to me on Saturday when I walking to my car in Stephens green shopping centre.
There was an English family walkng beside me. I don't want to be judgmental but mum and dad were of the chavvy persuasion. As I was passing one of their kids, about 6 year old boy, shouted 'I like her boobies', and he kept on shouting it. I was sure the mum was gona reprimand him but she just shouted to me 'Oi my son wants to ride you'!!!

I was in complete and utter shock. It was the bizzarest thing ever.

I just ignored them and kept walking to my car with my cheeks blazing red.:o I felt it tad inappropriate coming from a 6 year old boy and his mum tbh.

Oh my sweet lord!! :eek: If that was my kid Id batter him!

I'm with you on the ignoring part though, I always assume its not for me :rolleyes:

LadyMayBelle

It's funny, with the hot weather and girls wearing less clothes, it's like guys have a licence to wolf whistle.

It happened to me last week as i was walking past a house with scaffolding..and I was mortified initially! It hadn't happened before and I guess immediately I thought "that is so rude, how dare they!" but then thought "ah feck maybe the old Dove summer skin was worth it". No real harm done I guess.

WindSock

panda100 wrote: »

'Oi my son wants to ride you'!!!

:eek: I'dve told her I am reporting her for pimping out her minor son (well probably not, but I'd have thought about it when it was too late)

I don't like being whistled at by anyone. I don't feel appreciated, I feel uncomfortable that I am the subject of backslappery among a group of people. If it were done from a group working on a site I would take their pic and get in touch with the foreman.

speedboatchase

WindSock wrote: »

:eek: I'dve told her I am reporting her for pimping out her minor son (well probably not, but I'd have thought about it when it was too late)

I don't like being whistled at by anyone. I don't feel appreciated, I feel uncomfortable that I am the subject of backslappery among a group of people. If it were done from a group working on a site I would take their pic and get in touch with the foreman.

Woah - I don't wolf-whistle (can't even whistle) but I'm amazed it could bother someone that much

WindSock

speedboatchase wrote: »

Woah - I don't wolf-whistle (can't even whistle) but I'm amazed it could bother someone that much

I work on a site. I don't particularly want to be harrased as I am making my way around my workplace. It is unnessesary and crude. They no the rules, if they want to mess it up for themselves, it is on their own heads, not mine.

Clare Bear

Doesn't bother me in the slightest. It can be a bit embarrassing sometimes if it takes you ages to walk out of sight but otherwise it's grand. They could be shouting worse things at you! I don't like it when they're vulgar but just a wolf whistle is fine.

caseyann

WindSock wrote: »

I work on a site. I don't particularly want to be harrased as I am making my way around my workplace. It is unnessesary and crude. They no the rules, if they want to mess it up for themselves, it is on their own heads, not mine.

I could imagine that would be very uncomfortable for a woman working on a site and feeling like constantly been glared at and then to add the sound to it,would make it very uneasy environment to work in.As it is a source of domination trying to make the woman uneasy and embarrassed.
I recall a friend of mine had to walk past a site every day for about 6 months,she literally started crossing the road because she had her 3 year old in the buggy and they still were shouting and whistling.

speedboatchase

WindSock wrote: »

I work on a site. I don't particularly want to be harrased as I am making my way around my workplace. It is unnessesary and crude. They no the rules, if they want to mess it up for themselves, it is on their own heads, not mine.

Ah I understand, I didn't realise it was your place of work, I can completely see how that would wreck your head day-in, day-out

WindSock

speedboatchase wrote: »

Ah I understand, I didn't realise it was your place of work, I can completely see how that would wreck your head day-in, day-out

I think it is the same for the woman in this situation though. She may not work there, but has to walk past these people everyday and now feels like she has to cross the road to avoid being harrassed. That aint right either, tbh.

caseyann wrote: »

II recall a friend of mine had to walk past a site every day for about 6 months,she literally started crossing the road because she had her 3 year old in the buggy and they still were shouting and whistling.

Abi

Dudess wrote: »

I think it's flattering. You walk by, they wolf-whistle, you continue walking. No harm done.

On occasion I've wolf-whistled back to humour them :pac:



No harm really, just lads being cheeky tbh.

terlywerly

Hasn't happened to me in a while now that I think about it, I remember when I was a bit younger it used to make me really embarrassed and self conscious that I was getting wolf whistled at, but now not so much.
One incident that comes to mind (probably the last time I was whistled at) is this: I was walking along the road heading to the shop and there was a house being worked on by a load of builders, some of them were taking a break sitting on the wall outside. One of them in particular (really sloppy looking fat guy <shudder>) eating a big breakfast roll, nudges the guy beside him and gestures over to me. Next thing I hear this big wolf whistle and the guy shouts over 'Hey you, nice t1ts'. To this day I don't know how I thought of an answer back so fast, but I turned around and smiled at him and said 'Thanks, you have a nice pair yourself!'. Well the guy beside him nearly choked with laughing on the cup of tea he was drinking, wolf-whistler went bright red and I kept walking. On the way back, they were all still working on the building and as I went by, two or three of the other builders applauded.
I still laugh thinking about it to this day.
But no, wolf whistles are harmless really, annoying but alright

caseyann

terlywerly wrote: »

Hasn't happened to me in a while now that I think about it, I remember when I was a bit younger it used to make me really embarrassed and self conscious that I was getting wolf whistled at, but now not so much.
One incident that comes to mind (probably the last time I was whistled at) is this: I was walking along the road heading to the shop and there was a house being worked on by a load of builders, some of them were taking a break sitting on the wall outside. One of them in particular (really sloppy looking fat guy <shudder>) eating a big breakfast roll, nudges the guy beside him and gestures over to me. Next thing I hear this big wolf whistle and the guy shouts over 'Hey you, nice t1ts'. To this day I don't know how I thought of an answer back so fast, but I turned around and smiled at him and said 'Thanks, you have a nice pair yourself!'. Well the guy beside him nearly choked with laughing on the cup of tea he was drinking, wolf-whistler went bright red and I kept walking. On the way back, they were all still working on the building and as I went by, two or three of the other builders applauded.
I still laugh thinking about it to this day.
But no, wolf whistles are harmless really, annoying but alright

HAHAHAHA classic
The best answers always come un prepared on the spot or hours later and you are wanting to :mad:

Howard the Duck

I would never wolf whistle..well i can't anyway my whistling skills are very poor i sometimes wish i could do the whistle solo for "jealous guy".. i much prefer to stare silently at beautiful women and look away embarrassed if they catch me.

I actually just remembered i got wolf whistled at a few years ago by some teenage girls... i got very very embarrassed .. i'm pretty sure they were being sarcastic.

caseyann

Howard the Duck wrote: »

I would never wolf whistle..well i can't anyway my whistling skills are very poor i sometimes wish i could do the whistle solo for "jealous guy".. i much prefer to stare silently at beautiful women and look away embarrassed if they catch me.

I actually just remembered i got wolf whistled at a few years ago by some teenage girls... i got very very embarrassed .. i'm pretty sure they were being sarcastic.

See thats the thing some people actually will do it to make fun of someone and that person will actually feel it.

liah

Happens often enough, I just ignore it, who cares, really?

stovelid

WindSock wrote: »

If it were done from a group working on a site I would take their pic and get in touch with the foreman.

I really hope it wouldn't stop there. Once they were sacked, a civil suit should be pursued.

Time to stamp out this stuff once and for all. Life isn't a Benny Hill set, y'know.

Silverfish

stovelid wrote: »

I really hope it wouldn't stop there. Once they were sacked, a civil suit should be pursued.

Time to stamp out this stuff once and for all. Life isn't a Benny Hill set, y'know.

I know you're being sarcastic, but do you not think wolfwhistling/ shouting comments at someone in their workplace should, in this day and age, be a thing of the past?

stovelid

Silverfish wrote: »

I know you're being sarcastic, but do you not think wolfwhistling/ shouting comments at someone in their workplace should, in this day and age, be a thing of the past?

Personally I think it's a bit crass but usually innocent (or childish) enough. I'd probably speak to them myself than make a heavy disciplinary deal out of it within the company. My opinion of course.

As a guy, I'm obviously not in the slightest bit bothered by equivalent bawdy behaviour like that from women, but I can understand how it could be different for some women, especially if there is a undercurrent to it.

Silverfish

stovelid wrote: »

Personally I think it's a bit crass but I'd probably confront them myself than make a heavy deal out of it within the company. My opinion of course.

As a guy, I'm obviously not in the slightest bit bothered by equivalent bawdy behaviour like that from women, but I can understand how it could be different for some women, especially if there is a undercurrent to it.

Well it can be hard to confront people when there's a group of them and only one of you.
And it's a bit demeaning and belittling when it's your workplace. Sometimes people have to hear their behaviour isn't on from someone in charge of them, rather than the person they're doing it to.

Fair enough you wouldn't act on it, but I don't think it's really fair to comment like that on someone who would act on it.

stovelid

Silverfish wrote: »

but I don't think it's really fair to comment like that on someone who would act on it.

I did though. And it was challenged and discussed. All is well, as far as I can see?

Silverfish

stovelid wrote: »

I did though. And it was challenged and discussed. All is well, as far as I can see?

Okay, you seemed to be implying that reporting it would be extreme.

I personally think that it's up to managers / supervisors to be aware of staff behaviour, so reporting it would be the right thing to do

stovelid

Silverfish wrote: »

Okay, you seemed to be implying that reporting it would be extreme.

Personally I think it would be a little extreme and I'd try and get it across to them first without getting them into serious bother for what is often innocent enough, if still dumb and still sexist, behaviour.

If that didn't work, then the Rubicon has been crossed where they know it offends and then you get the management in...

Imo purely.

Silverfish

I'd have a hard time scaling the 9 flights of scaffolding to where they were the last time it was done to me.

stovelid

Silverfish wrote: »

I'd have a hard time scaling the 9 flights of scaffolding to where they were the last time it was done to me.

Silverfish

Or, you know, talk to the foreman.

EDIT: foreperson?

stovelid

Silverfish wrote: »

Or, you know, talk to the foreman.

EDIT: foreperson?

Sure, he'd probably be ring-leading the whole farrago.

BumbleB

I dont think its a pretty alpha male thing to do .Weak and puerile.

c00kie m0nster

I get it all the time but I think it's creepy and rude...

drunkymonkey

I actually never ever heard anyone do this in real life! I guess i just dont hear it or i'm just a big ugly !

alexa5x5

Yeah I hear wolf whistling quite a bit, but mainly men beep there car at me or lean out the window and shout something like "alright luv". Personally I hate it, Id like to be able to go for a run in my neighbourhood but I cant stand the whistling and beeping. I mean WTF do they think is going to happen "ooohh I love that sound I want your c0ck right now".
Over all I feel sorry for these men, its the only interaction they have with women...losers!!

pickarooney

BumbleB wrote: »

I dont think its a pretty alpha male thing to do .Weak and puerile.

What do you understand "alpha male" to mean?