Getting back together?

Loopsie

hi all just looking for advice here
Do you think when a couple break up and have been apart a year that they can get back together and it can work out???? were together about 3 years
has anyone any experience of successful re-trys essentially??!!!
Couple broke up cos one went off travelling, during travelling period he went to visit her and she said she didnt love him........and sent him home. She is now back and he is with someone else and ex wants to try again.........
Ps this is advice for a friend of mine!!!!

AnonoBoy

He's with someone else.

She told him she didn't love him - she should now have the good grace to leave him alone.

seamus

+1 She had her chance and she blew it. If chasing her across the world to try and get back with her isn't enough for her, then he should forget about her because she doesn't love him.

It's the "grass is greener" syndrome. She only wants to get back with him because she's lonely and he's unattainable. The relationship will break down again (she doesn't love him) and nobody wins.

LegacyUser

I would say, depends of the reasons for breaking up in the first place. If the reasons are solved and both people are moved on/ grown up from it and they both want to get back together then it can possibly work out.
Saying you are not in love with a person anymore is pretty straight forward reason so highly unlikely that suddenly she would love him again.

In the brief you said it sounds more a case of wanting what you cant have.
He has moved on, so now she wants it back, its a typical childlish case of needing an ego boost to know that your ex would still want you.

I would think if he is silly enough to fall in that trap and get back with her she will dump him again sooner than later.

Sorry for being harsh but it unfortuantely happens all the time and to the best of us.

Tell you friend to move on.

Loopsie

I trying to look out for him cos i know he likes the new girl but the ex is messing with his head BIG TIME...........my opinion she only wants him cos he is with someone else.......now i could be completely wrong!!!!

AnonoBoy

You're not wrong. If she wanted him so badly then she shouldn't have sent him packing when he visited her.

I've seen it happen a hundred times, if he dumps the new girl for the ex he will undoubtedly regret it.

Loopsie

he has dumped the new girl as of this morning apparently and says he wants to give ex another chance......i feel like shaking him!!!!!!!!

I spose i just have to let him learn his lesson himself.......i know its probably a silly question but anyone any guesstimations on how long this train wreck will go on for??!!!

dublingal80

God knows but all you can do is support him. its his decision. he will either be delighted that he broke up with his gf and it will work out with his ex or he will regret it

either way, you telling him how you feel isnt going to fix the situation at all. just be there for him

LegacyUser

TBF Loopsie, its realy none of you business.
he felt stronly enough for this girl that he travelled accross the world to tell her his feelings, do you know *her* reasons for sending him home???

I assume he is a fully grown boy with a mind of his own, and if he has decided to give it another shot, then who are you to tell him otherwise. You can fell bad for him if it goes t*ts up, but we all know that you an give people all the advice in the world, if they choose not to heed it then thats there problem. Stay out of it.... that wot I say!