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Work colleague.. do I tell her.

  • 15-06-2010 8:57pm
    #1
    pinkpigs
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 56 ✭✭pinkpigs


    In short, I was out on Saturday night, I bumped into a guy from work who is going out with a girl from work for the past two years. He basically came on to me and asked me to leave with him. I'm annoyed for two reasons. A. we were mates and we've always had a good laugh and yap together but mainly b. that I know his girlfriend and they have been together for two years.

    I want to tell her what to tell her, she is a lovely girl and I think she should know that her boyfriend is like. I'm just afraid that he will either deny it and I'll get the backlash. He can't say that I came onto him as several other people heard him asking him to leave with him.

    I've a lot going on at the moment and don't want to open a can of worms.. just don't know what to do for the best.

    Has this ever happened to anyone and if they did tell and what happened. If it was me I'd want to know.

    Thanks.

    P.P.


Comments

  • #2
    Maple
    Hosted Moderators Posts: 16,186 ✭✭✭✭Maple


    Moved from TLL, I feel it may be best suited here however Mods feel free to bounce back.

    Maple


  • #3
    miss5
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,319 ✭✭✭miss5


    If it was me I would definitely want to know and would hope
    my friends would tell me, You do risk losing your freind though
    as she may choose to believe his version of events, I think
    you should tell her as these things generally come out in
    the end. Good luck!


  • #4
    Denimgirl
    Closed Accounts Posts: 392 ✭✭Denimgirl


    Even though that I would definitely want to know and would believe the girl if I knew she was'nt a dangerous person,as it happened with an ex years ago and a girl told me in a row to be bitchy but I did'nt want to fight with her I was intrigued and wanted to know more but (hence ex) most girls would fall out with the girl.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    if I was you I would say nothing. If other people heard him say it you'll find that she will find out anyways without you having to deal with the blowup that is going to happen in your work when it comes out, you are in the clear as others heard him ask you and that you then refused him.

    If you tell her its going to be a very big mess and she won't thank you for telling her as it will be the end of her 2 year relationship that she is probably very happy in.


  • #6
    Decker Bewildered Farmhouse
    Posts: 0 CMod ✭✭✭✭ Decker Bewildered Farmhouse


    leavewellalone wrote: »
    if I was you I would say nothing. If other people heard him say it you'll find that she will find out anyways without you having to deal with the blowup that is going to happen in your work when it comes out, you are in the clear as others heard him ask you and that you then refused him.

    And then she'll ask why the OP didn't tell her and was she hiding something.
    I would say it OP.


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