No Fantasies?

LegacyUser

My issue isn't as big as some on this but none the less it still has me thinking or even concerned.
In a relationship nearly 2 years, have a great sex life.
This is the first proper relationship for both of us and we're both in our late 20's.
It is a fully loving relationship.
But one thing keeps popping into my mind is the fact that the girlfriend has no sexual fantasies, like I'm talking none at all.
We both said from the start that we'd be fully honest about everything and have no secrets but I can't help thinking that she isn't being honest about this.
I just find it hard to believe that anyone can have absolutely no fantasies at all.
I've got loads that I told her about, she asked me "did I have any" and I told her honestly everything but when I asked her, she just said "no, none".

All I'm wondering is, is it normal for women to have no sexual fantasies at all?
Would it be that she still doesn't feel comfortable telling me what they are?
Is she afraid or even embarrassed to tell me?
If anyone could advise, that'd be great and also if anyone has any advice on how to get her to open up if she is embarrassed to tell me, that'd be great also.

pookie82

Why are you so obessessed with finding out. A) She genuinely has no fantasies and just enjoys sex with you for what it is, she has a fantasy she doesn't want to talk about. If you keep pushing her or harping on about it she'll get annoyed.

LegacyUser

I don't keep on to her about it, it's just i find it abit strange for someone to have no fantasies, also she is trying to make all mine come through and I'd like to be able to do the same for her, if she has any.

All I'm wondering is, is it normal for girls not to have any fantasies?

shellyboo

Personally, I don't think it's possible for someone to have NO sexual fantasies at all... only fantasies they're too ashamed to tell anyone.

If she's probing for your fantasies all the time, it's possible she's hoping that one of yours overlaps with hers so she can feel more comfortable in telling you... but that's pure speculation on my part.

I wouldn't worry about it too much in any case, OP. Some women are very shy about this sort of thing.

fungun

Buy her sth like "The Secret Garden" by Nancy Friday *nod*

I got that for a gf once who was a bit shy like that and after she read it she came out with all sorts of stuff once she realised it was normal to have these fantasies!!!!

LegacyUser

i honestly dont have so-called 'fantasy' with other guys other than the guy i like.

once a guy asked me what i was thinking about when i thought about sex. i was shy to tell him, but i was thinking only making love with him (and sometimes my ex. at that moment).

that's my fantasy. but i did not mind he moving me, changing positions although i felt no comfortable enough to give him oral at that moment.

maybe it's also about experience? i am not quite sure. but i just want to say it's possible to have special fantasy.