What have i done??

LegacyUser

Hey ppl,
Hoping to get some advice on something that has been affecting my happiness for about 2 years now. Im 21 and had my first proper relationship when i was 19. She was an awesome girl and my first sexual encounter. Times were good but slowly it all went to hell, i broke up with her but it was long and drawn out with us both finding it hard to cut the cord. Eventually it did end and she found someone else and i was enjoying single life.
Which would have been fine but unfortunately drink is our nemesis and she ended up cheating on her boyfriend with me one night we met eachother out in town. Since then its been really wierd between us.
We barely talk but our hometowns pretty small so saturday nites we bump into each other and generally end up arguing/kissing.
I should add shes single now and we both have the same friends which is why we keep meeting.

I dont really know what to do anymore, being honest i want her back but i think iv screwed it up too much.

Anyways my friends are kinda sick of it all since this has been ongoing for years and i was hoping for your opinions or advice

Thanks

m@cc@

Have you spoken to her? How does she feel about it?

merlie

Hi Op,

You should try and talk with her, not out on the town but perhaps at your house or her own or somewhere like a park, where you can talk but try avoid arguments , as this is a sign of not communicating properly and secondly try avoid kissing or getting to close, as this will disrupt any kind of conversation you want to have.

If she is the first to kick off an argument, just tell her you didn't come here to argue but to talk. Tell her you understand and will listen to what she has to say as you would expect her to do the same for you.

Make sure you meet with her during day time hours and not at night.

This is perhaps the only way to clear the air. Take it one step at a time. If you go chasing her, she might run so be cool but caring.

Good luck

LegacyUser

I haven't talked to her while sober in quite a long time.
She is quite distant apart from on nights out which makes it hard to meet up.
TBH i dont know where i stand with her. Last Wednesday while she was out in town she sent me messages saying that she wanted me to stop hitting on her when she was drunk and that it wasn't fair. Strangely the saturday nite before she had been asking me if i had thought about marriage when we were together???
Its been like this for months now with texts saying things like she loves me and others arguing with me.

I will endeavour to meet up for lunch this week. We defo need to have a talk

Wagon

Mogle wrote: »

I haven't talked to her while sober in quite a long time.
She is quite distant apart from on nights out which makes it hard to meet up.
TBH i dont know where i stand with her. Last Wednesday while she was out in town she sent me messages saying that she wanted me to stop hitting on her when she was drunk and that it wasn't fair. Strangely the saturday nite before she had been asking me if i had thought about marriage when we were together???
Its been like this for months now with texts saying things like she loves me and others arguing with me.

I will endeavour to meet up for lunch this week. We defo need to have a talk

Yeah. Keep off the booze and you're head will be clearer when you have the chat. I don't know but it sounds like she's trying to keep your around for when she's lonely and vice versa.