unsure help please

maryqwerty

i posted this in after hours but feel id get better responses here. my granny who is 97 is in hospital and could die any minute. she was sent in last night with a heart problem.
i have a holiday planned to go to china for a month with a few friends, leaving dublin on wednesday. i obviously dont want to miss this holiday or change my flights etc but what would my family think if i missed her funeral? is it a big no no or would people be inclined to think ''u have to go on your holiday''

Canard

If you've had the plans for a long time and it's a once in a lifetime chance, I think the generally accepted idea is to go. She'd want you to go wouldnt she? Mine died in very late July, so the funeral was in August, and my cousin had a flight booked to America so he went. He was reluctant but everyone agreed it was the best thing to do, although I'm pretty sure he was present for at least part of the funeral.

Sorry to hear, hope things work out. *hugs*

cats.life

chat to your family im sure they would tell you to go. what would your gran say? for me my granny died when i was in london years ago. i was gutted when i didnt say good bye to her, you have your chance to hugg her and kiss her and tell her good bye and you will see her when you get back. did the doctors say that she may not pull trough?

I agree with cats above, have a chat with your family. My grandmother died suddenly the night before a cousin left for South America, my brother was in Australia and my parents due to fly to the Canaries for a week a few days later. No one changed their plans. My grandad insisted on it. An uncle of mine died after a long illness when I was just visiting a friend in England, my mother told me there was no need to come home for the funeral. This sounds like a once in a lifetime opportunity for you. See what your family advise.

blodvyn

I'm 110% sure that she'd rather pass in the knowledge that a grand kid is heading off on a once in a lifetime experience rather than wallowing at a funeral.

With that said the civil thing would be to talk to your parents?