My friend's girlfriend made passes at me!

lucozader

i didn't fancy her and i would never do that to a friend

so i told her to take a hike

my friend has since found out through the grapevine and is treating me like i beat up his dog, burned down his house etc....

i no longer regard him as a friend due to his constant hostility now,he has turned quite nasty actually

what did i do wrong ?

sambuka41

You should have told your mate yourself or say nothing,to anyone!!!

I wouldn't be too happy to hear something like that through the "grapevine" esp if I considered the person a friend.

Ickle Magoo

As I said on the other thread, I suspect she was the grapevine and she told your friend you came onto her A) to get you back and to make herself feel better by prompting her fella to go into jealousy meltdown.

I would definitely try taking you friend to one side and spell out exactly what happened, where and how and then, leave him to draw his own conclusions. If he doesn't believe you then he wasn't much of a friend to begin with but take heart that if she's coming onto you she isn't that into him and it's only a matter of time before he has to face up to that. Also, since you are the one telling the truth, you can repeat your version till the cows come home with a clear conscience & that shows.

Best of luck.

Drops of Jupiter

Hi OP,

You did nothing wrong at all but are being made to feel as if you are to blame!

Your friend's ego is probably bruised and he's probably hurting so he's taking his feelings out on you! Maybe he really liked this girl so he might really be upset. It's not fair on him to blame you for everything but probably easier in his mind.

Sometimes you can never win with couples. Like for example I know a girl who told another friend her boyfriend was cheating (he was). Guess what the girl is still with the guy and neither of them speak to this friend anymore! So sometimes it's damned if you do damned if you don't!!

You have done nothing wrong - was just unfortunate that you got entangled in this mess. Hold your head up high and don't take crap from this friend. I imagine he will come around eventually but he should be man enough to apologise to you.

Bottle_of_Smoke

He might suspect you were flirting with her when it happened.

He could just resent the fact that his girlfriend fancied you and therefore isn't looking at the situation rationally