People Opinions on you

PTH2009

Had a thread on here a while ago about a falling out with someone and in work and out in town i over her people talking about me and my relationship with this person more than likely saying stuff about me. It was a while ago, i going to have to start work with the victim of the falling out friend.

I have a feeling on the persons facebook or bebo that i fell out with has all hate groups on me and probly has a voodoo curse on me.

I will not join facebook or bebo because of personal reasons.

How do you try release the past and have more postive feelings in your head.

Theres only one or two people knowswhat happend and others just here different things and have there opionions on them.

Kimia

Have you not had loads of threads about this before? Your style is very familiar. What do you mean 'voodoo curse'. What age are you? That's very weird that you believe this.

Your post doesn't actually make any sense. How old are you? Your post is barely legible. What are you actually asking?

steddyeddy

PTH2009 wrote: »

Had a thread on here a while ago about a falling out with someone and in work and out in town i over her people talking about me and my relationship with this person more than likely saying stuff about me. It was a while ago, i going to have to start work with the victim of the falling out friend.

I have a feeling on the persons facebook or bebo that i fell out with has all hate groups on me and probly has a voodoo curse on me.

I will not join facebook or bebo because of personal reasons.

How do you try release the past and have more postive feelings in your head.

Theres only one or two people knowswhat happend and others just here different things and have there opionions on them.

Man i dont mean this to be insulting but you need to change your thinking styles to a more healty type, buy a book on cognitive behavioural therapy im sure youll find it most helpful.

Miss Fluff

You need to discuss this with your therapist.

PTH2009

What i mean by voodoo curse is that this person could be going around saying things about me (how much of a ****er i am, how big a creep i am) and god or satan is choosing this perons side thats why im still single not getting invited out on nights out etc. (I just called it voodoo curse cause i could think of a name for what im trying to explain)

I made mistakes in the past. Came on too strongly, bought too much , drank too much etc.The past cant be changed .If i can put all this ****e that people are saying about me on the chin and make this motavate me to be a better person than hopefully people might change there opinions on me.

There are really bad people out there and i just want to get this into my head IM NOT ONE OF THEM,THERE ARE WORSE PEOPLE OUT THERE OTHER THAN ME but its a hard thing to go out and smile and put the past behind you.

My advice to a young person growing up. GO OUT IN LIFE DONT GIVE A **** ABOUT ANYONE AND WHAT THEY SAY WHAT THEY DO. EACH BAD COMMENT ABOUT YOU WILL MAKE YOU STRONGER GO OUT AND SHOW THEM WHAT A PERSON YOU ARE. EMBRACE YOUR TALENTS DONT LET ANYONE PUSH YOU AROUND, KEEP YOUR FRINDS AND FAMILY CLOSE, KNOW THE PEOPLE THAT ARE GOING TO USE YOU. THIS IS YOUR LIFE NO ONE CAN CHANGE IT ONLY YOU LOOK AT YOURSELF IN THE MIRROR AND SAY THIS IS ME AND THE WORLD IS MY OYSTER.

PAUL H

Nevyn

Two years ago I has someone go from being my best friend to trying to turn everyone she knew who knew me or knew of me against me.

You know people are talking and staying things and lying and stiring things up and tbh don't want your time or engry thinking about them. Excorise them from your life.

You have to take back your power, you give them the power to hurt and upset you by caring what they think and what they are saying, so don't. It isn't easy but it gets easier over time.

Don't enguage, or react or retaliation.

Pretend they are strangers which don't matter and eventually over time they will be.
Don't let them stop you living your life you can restrict and block people on sites like facebook so that you don't crop up in their feeds or them on yours.

Curses will only work if you give them power, get rid of any photos you have of them
tear them up or delete them, erase them from your life and focus on getting well and becoming happy.

The past can't be changed but you can change, if you conduct yourself with respect and dignity and refuse to be drawn in to pettiness and the games that people are trying to play you will be the better for it.
It's not easy at time, but it's worth it.

Miss Fluff

Before this thread is probably closed, like every other thread you have opened on this very same topic repeatedly, the advice remains the same. You HAVE TO discuss these thoughts and feelings with the therapist you are seeing. Are you still seeing your counsellor? And on a regular basis? When is your next appointment?

Nevyn

Miss Fluff if you have a problem with a post report it, do not back seat mod.

Unhelpful and off-topic posting will get you banned from this forum.
Do take time to read the charter which contains the rules and abide by them.
Have a nice day.
Thaedydal

jimmycrackcorm

None of us had any real control over what other people think of us. We can only control our own actions so there is no point in fretting about other people and their opinions. If you are doing the right thing and your conscience is clear then you shouldn't be concerned about others opinions.

PTH2009

GO OUT IN LIFE DONT GIVE A **** ABOUT ANYONE AND WHAT THEY SAY WHAT THEY DO. EACH BAD COMMENT ABOUT YOU WILL MAKE YOU STRONGER GO OUT AND SHOW THEM WHAT A PERSON YOU ARE. EMBRACE YOUR TALENTS DONT LET ANYONE PUSH YOU AROUND, KEEP YOUR FRINDS AND FAMILY CLOSE, KNOW THE PEOPLE THAT ARE GOING TO USE YOU. THIS IS YOUR LIFE NO ONE CAN CHANGE IT ONLY YOU LOOK AT YOURSELF IN THE MIRROR AND SAY THIS IS ME AND THE WORLD IS MY OYSTER.

if only i took this approach a few months ago than i could be superman. I hate making promises but i promise ill be a better person for my parents and for myself.

Nevyn

Then you have your goal and your focus, keep working on it, keep seeing your counsellor.

Denimgirl

PTH2009 wrote: »

Had a thread on here a while ago about a falling out with someone and in work and out in town i over her people talking about me and my relationship with this person more than likely saying stuff about me. It was a while ago, i going to have to start work with the victim of the falling out friend.

I have a feeling on the persons facebook or bebo that i fell out with has all hate groups on me and probly has a voodoo curse on me.

I will not join facebook or bebo because of personal reasons.

How do you try release the past and have more postive feelings in your head.

Theres only one or two people knowswhat happend and others just here different things and have there opionions on them.

Your gonna have train yourself to think differently,I was like you years ago,then i just thought one day i'm not living my life afraid of what people say about me! what a waste of a precious life! no way! so the way i think of it now is if people want to be cowards and have a good whisper or gossip about me for whatever reason behind my back go ahead because they have'nt the balls to say it to my face!usually people that gossip move on to the next juicy bit of gossip about someone else then your old news! sados i know ha.. don't be worrying about idiots!