Do I need to give a wedding present?

irlforum

Hi,
I was invited to a wedding but can't go because I have to go to another one...it's my bosses wedding at work.

Do I need to give her a wedding present? If I do it would be money - how much do you think?

Thanks.

SueWho

Normally if I couldn't go to a wedding I'd give an actual present of some kind (not cash) that isn't too dear. But presents are kind of pesonal so it might be hard to buy something for your boss and yet giving your boss cash also seems a bit weird. I'd get them a voucher for a nice restaurant- maybe €60 or so. Not sure what other people think of that but I'd see it as a sort of happy medium.

Irishrossoblu

No. Sure if you cant go to the wedding why would you get a present. Unless it was a best friend etc. But then again Irish people feel the need to give presents for a persons engagement, which I think is totally ridiculous.

tinkerbell

No. Unless it was a super close friend and you couldn't attend then I would give a present. Other than that, you should only be giving a present if you are attending the wedding, although some people would give a present regardless.

Since she's your boss at work, why don't you and the rest of your colleagues chip in a €20 each or whatever you can afford and get say a voucher or something.

irlforum

Thanks - I was told I should or had to but I thought it was ridiculous myself. This idea of paying for someones wedding is ridiculous to me.

Personally I only buy what I have the money for - I have an old car for example because I didn't want a loan.

Yawns

Maybe buy them a nice picture frame? Wouldn't cost much but will be appreciated maybe? You could pick up a decent frame for 20 - 30 euro and have it wrapped for you. Job sorted

SeekUp

If you don't go to the wedding, you certainly don't have to give a gift. That being said, I like the idea some other posters have had of some kind of token gift. Doesn't have to be expensive or anything, just something thoughtful . . . and only if you want to!