Is there any hope!

LegacyUser

Hellooo!

I'd like to ask people out there that are married or in long term relationships was there a time when they're boyfriend broke up with them and how long for before they got back with them?Or is it just the case of once you meet someone and fall in love that the guy never breaks up with you and thats the way it's meant to be?

may sound like a silly question but you know when you ask married people they say that when they met their partner they just knew they were "the one" and they just know?I have been going out with a guy past 2 years and i felt that after a first few days i felt he really was the one! i have had the best 2 years of my life with this guy then a couple of months ago he did'nt feel the same as me, which truly broke my heart to say the least it as we never really argued and the only guy i ever truly trusted even though there was some distance between us.

I'm in my 30's and have had relationships in the past but never one that felt this way.I just basically want to know if a guy breaks up with you is their any way back?he says there nobody else and mentioned he was very confused which I believe him even said when he went away with the lads for a weekend after we broke up that he was'nt with anybody and he said that without me even asking him(i would'nt because it's not my business now)i texted him last month to say i missed him he asked me when was i going abroad (which i am for 2 months) he asked when exactly was i going,we ended exting convo friendly he said it was nice to hear from me and that, i have'nt contacted him since and i won't and it's not difficult,as i don't want to appear stalkish! but i truly feel nothing but love for him and i really say to myself to stay single for a couple of years coz i don't think i could ever meet a guy and feel like this again.

other parts of my life are fine i'm not depressed i laugh with my mates and go out for drinks and stuff but when it comes to love i feel that i've reached my peak!sorry for long post,Has any of you had this happen to you and got back together with the guy and are still together now? Thanks

Lynnsie

Hi OP,
I've been though something similar - was mad about my ex, great relationship, everyone saying we were the "perfect couple". Then out of nowhere, he stopped feeling like that.

Like you, I kept looking for stories that would give me hope - people getting back together after one realising that they had made a huge mistake. I didn't have to look very far - two of my immediate family are now very happily married to people they had lengthy break ups from.

BUT what I learnt is that is really doesn't do you any good to cling onto hope like this. I know you say you're otherwise happy, but if you're feeling like this and asking for advice on it, it has to be holding you back on some level. After a while what I started looking for instead of "getting back together" stories were stories of people who had been though horrible break ups, thought they would never feel the same way again or be happy again, but are now very happy, be it on their own or with someone else.

Just my opinion but best of luck and enjoy your time abroad

Denimgirl

Miss Lala wrote: »

Hi OP,
I've been though something similar - was mad about my ex, great relationship, everyone saying we were the "perfect couple". Then out of nowhere, he stopped feeling like that.

Like you, I kept looking for stories that would give me hope - people getting back together after one realising that they had made a huge mistake. I didn't have to look very far - two of my immediate family are now very happily married to people they had lengthy break ups from.

BUT what I learnt is that is really doesn't do you any good to cling onto hope like this. I know you say you're otherwise happy, but if you're feeling like this and asking for advice on it, it has to be holding you back on some level. After a while what I started looking for instead of "getting back together" stories were stories of people who had been though horrible break ups, thought they would never feel the same way again or be happy again, but are now very happy, be it on there own or with someone else.

Just my opinion but best of luck and enjoy your time abroad

totally agree with Miss LA LA have fun! your paths might cross again and he may realise he made a mistake in letting you go

shelly1234

Hi there, well myself and my BF were going strong, had a really good relationship, felt completely secure with him...started arguing over small issues which i was making a big deal about (regret that now big time) and then one day he said he had had enough and wanted a break! i was absolutly heart broken... couldnt eat, sleep, work, found it hard to breathe almost!!! we had been living together for almost a year so then he moved home, as did i.. so after about 3/4 weeks he called over and we talked a little but just ended up having sex...didnt hear anything the next day but then that week he said he missed me and was lonely without me etc. so we went on a night away and then slowly but surely started to get back on track to the point that i was so happy again! then all of a sudden he got completely distant with me again, didnt see him for a whole week and whenever i did see him or speak to him he acted as if i was just wrecking his head!!! made me feel awful thinking here we go again... then the next week perfect again! tellin me he loves me so much etc.that continued for the last 3/4 weeks and now all of a sudden he is acting the same way again as if he would rather be anywhere else then with me even on the phone being an a**hole...im now in such a state that i cant open my mouth to him about my feeling for fear he will leave me again and as a result i am completely depressed! you need to really consider if this is what you want because if you get back into the relationship and are walking on eggshells its no good, also you have come a long way from when ye broke up, do you really want to have to go through all that again!? sorry for the long post just i am going through such a hard time of it now and wouldnt like to see anyone else have to x