how much do you tell your girlfriends?

LegacyUser

I pretty much tell my close female friends everything. And they're the same, although our situations our different. Like basically they're single most of the time and have loads of one night stands etc and tell me all the details! I've had two long term relationships and I always told the girls everything, like if we had a row or if we had problems in the bedroom...everything basically. Unless there was something my bf specifically said was or implied was a secret then I wouldnt say it but that thing has never come up.
In fact, I told him I tell the girls everything and he just laughed as we have nothing to hide.
Is this normal? Recently I felt bad about it like really I should be more private..it might be one thing to talk about one-night stand guys but not your own boyfriend...although I never say anything really bad.
The thing is I've fallen out with one of my closest friends...it's nothing major and its been coming for a while but she just doesnt seem to get on with me any more...avoids me and everything. I suddenly feel like shes not my friend, like I can't trust her.
No I feel like, God, she knows everything about me...like absolutely everything. And not only about me but about my BF, like personal details. She's started seeing someone who is friends with my BF and now I'm so paranoid she'd say something that would get back to him.
I feel like such a big mouth but how was I to know she would be my friend one minute and not the next?
Girls, seriously, do ye tell your mates everything? Or am I the worlds worst blabbermouth? Feel like never talking to anyone again...

LegacyUser

Theres nothing wrong with confiding with friends and telling them things but your right....theres a difference between telling your friends all about a one night stand and telling them intimate details from your relationship.

Personally, as a guy, I find it extremely annoying when a girl blabs away about everything to her friends, particularly when its personal stuff that I consider to be kept only between us. In fact i broke up with a girl once after finding out she had told her friends all about certain details of our sex life and other things. I know a lot of girls do this and maybe it is just me, but im just very intolerant of this kind of thing.

I mean while i might occasionally chat to a good male friend about things in his relationship, it would only ever be in the capacity of a confidante, like for instance something to do with the girlfriend was on his mind. I just think some things are personal and best kept within the relationship. I cant stand feeling like your in a relationship with six girls rather than one!!

If i were you OP, and this is just my opinion, i would try to be a little more discreet in future...but don't stress too much about it...everyone does it from time to time...maybe have a chat with your boyfriend and see how he really feels about it? If all he did was laugh, its likely he was just covering up for not being impressed by it...

zxcvbnm1

I have to say as a guy that generally i am of the belief that girls do tell each anlother an awful lot.
Too much for my money.

Like - telling all your girlfriends what goes on in the bedroom with you and your boyfriend?
To me that is serious blabbermouth territory.

Imagine this scene for a second:
Your boyfriend is down teh pub with his friends and is going through all teh details of what you and him got up to in teh bedroom teh night before.
WOuld you be happy enopugh with him doing that?

I'm assuming you wouldn't.

yet it's fine for you.

To answer your question, yes..you are most definitely a blabbermouth.

LegacyUser

it might be one thing to talk about one-night stand guys but not your own boyfriend...although I never say anything really bad.

i think you've just answered your own question, i only have 2 friends who i'd trust enough to tell everything. when we're single we'd tell each other everything (in far too much detail lol) about one night stands, its part of the fun of being single! but when we start seeing a guy we like we don't go there, its like an unwritten rule or something, relationships are between the 2 people involved, one night stands are a different ball game.

I always told the girls everything, like if we had a row or if we had problems in the bedroom

i love/trust my friends to bits but would never ever discuss my "problems in the bedroom" with a boyfriend, it would shows a complete lack of respect for the guy to be honest.

sexdwarf

I'd never dream of telling my friends personal details about my relationship. I'd confide about certain things in my life, but out of respect for my partner, what happens in our relationship is between us. I just wouldn't feel right betraying his confidence.

Emme

I don't tell my female friends everything. I learnt the hard way a few years back when a friend sabotaged me by going up to a guy I liked and twisted something innocent I said about him to make it look really bad. So be careful what you tell your female friends.

dan_d

To be honest OP, I don't talk about my relationship with my close girlfriends...I'd be fairly discreet. And they are the same. What sexdwarf said is very right. Some things just remain private, you don't have to tell everything.

This idea that everything has to be discussed in detail and analysed - it's very Sex and the City. Real life doesn't happen like that. Even just watching that programme (I'm not a major fan)...look at the massive big deal they make out of stupid simple things by overanalysing and discussing everything. Sometimes life is just not that complicated!! You're lucky enough to have a boyfriend who says he doesn't mind, but a lot of guys do mind. Put it this way - would you be comfortable knowing he went out for a couple of quiet drinks with a friend to discuss your relationship? All the ins and outs, what you fought about, what you did in the bedroom, everything?

And to refer you to another very reliable reference source (!!!!) - Bridget Jones. If you haven't read the second book, do. A scene from it pops into my head...Mark Darcy telling Bridget he feels like some kind of lab animal being analysed and dissected all the time by this group of women, and he's not comfortable that everything he does goes back for discussion to "dating war command"..(I'm paraphrasing)

Sorry about all the ridiculous references, but you get my point.Choose carefully what you tell and understand that some things are just private and should remain so.

Denimgirl

I keep my personal life personal and always have my boyfriends are not my friends concern and i would ask why if they started to ask me personal questions about him,i never want to be THAT close to any of my girlfriends!I heard something from a friend a few weeks ago 2 of her other mates fell out as one was telling her that her relationship was'nt going that well and she was disclosing every detail of her and her bf's personal life even told her the sex was gone in the relationship the girl went away for a week to get her head together and her "mate" made a play for her bf and they are now together!SOME woman have hidden agendas when they're asking questions about your relationship!

Cheap Thrills!

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The thing is I've fallen out with one of my closest friends...it's nothing major and its been coming for a while but she just doesnt seem to get on with me any more...avoids me and everything. I suddenly feel like shes not my friend, like I can't trust her.
No I feel like, God, she knows everything about me...like absolutely everything. And not only about me but about my BF, like personal details. She's started seeing someone who is friends with my BF and now I'm so paranoid she'd say something that would get back to him.
I feel like such a big mouth but how was I to know she would be my friend one minute and not the next?

This is what I was just about to caution you about when i was reading the start of your post.

I used to be very open with friends, but I learned the hard way over the years that it'd not an ideal policy to tell someone too much.

The reason is you can fall out with them or they can fall out with you, very few friends are for life.

Its happened to me twice that former friends twisted true information with lies and put their own spin on things (not about boyfriends) One passed around false rumours about me....etc etc People are not noble, they can be quite low. Now I am very private about everything. Lesson learned the hard way.

Anyway as far as boyfriends go, what happens between you two should remain private.