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OH libido at all-time low

  • 29-05-2010 12:36am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi everyone,

    My OH suffers with depression and has had a tough year, but he is on meds and getting back into normal life, seeing his friends, enjoying work etc. The problem is the meds have increased his appeitite and as a result he has put on weight, and because of this his self-confidence and sexuality have gone out the window. He seems to have completely gone off sex, and everything related. No oral sex, no touching or anything. It has only been two weeks that he has been like this, but I don't want this to develop into a long term problem.

    How can I show him that I find him sexually attractive no matter what he looks like? He has started going to the gym and I have seen a difference already but he can't see it himself. I didn't actually realise he had put on weight until my mum pointed it out.

    How can I boost his self-confidence? I have tried to seduce him, but his heart doesnt seem to be in it while we are having sex. Somehow it felt like I was forcing him to have sex, which is obv not what I want. I want to show him that he is sexy, but I just can't seem to get through to him.

    Thanks for reading, any advice is welcome.


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
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    i was on meds for depression for the best part of 2 years. during that time i gained a lot of weight, and my interest in sex was none existent. like your bf, my self confidence went out the window, and it ended up having a drastic effect on my relationship (we're no longer together). I've been off them for a year now, and I can honestly say I've never felt better. Have lost all the excess weight, and my confidence is gradually returning. While the meds did help with the feelings of depression, the side effects brought with them their own problems, which with hindsight, were probably worse than the depression itself.

    I'd suggest your bf return to his doctor, and discuss the effects the meds are having on him. He could ask to try a different kind, to see if the side effects are less (although unfortunately, i think weight gain/loss, and libido issues are pretty common with them all).


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