Anyone else hate weddings?

gagiteebo

Now don't get me wrong I have nothing against two people who love each other vowing to spend the rest of their lives together, it really is a beautiful thing but am I the only one who gets that feeling of dread when they see a wedding invitation in the post?

First of all as a woman I hate hate hate shopping for a wedding outfit, love shopping otherwise, but something so stressful about looking for something to wear to a wedding.

The day itself is soooo long! The last wedding I was at was painful, the meal wasn't served until around 8 o clock and by this stage we were all starving and very, very drunk I just find them really boring to be honest. I find a lot of my friends just do it the traditional way because they think it's what's expected....a cousin of mine went abroad and the wedding party was no more than 30 people and it was by far the best wedding I was ever at. So simple and they only had people there they were close to, not friends of parents from 10 years back!

It's down to the couple what they want of course and best of luck to everyone getting married but back to my original point...I hate weddings! Anyone else feel like this?

Mister men

Yes

Wazdakka

Nope...

As a Guy weddings are great.
I already own a Tux and many suits, so there's no problems with what to wear.

And weddings are normally filled with dressed up, drunken women who are suddenly feeling very lonely at the sight of somebody they know getting married.

They need companionship... and comfort... and not to be alone...

I love weddings

bluto63

gagiteebo wrote: »

Now don't get me wrong I have nothing against two people who love each other vowing to spend the rest of their lives together, it really is a beautiful thing but am I the only one who gets that feeling of dread when they see a wedding invitation in the post?

First of all as a woman I hate hate hate shopping for a wedding outfit, love shopping otherwise, but something so stressful about looking for something to wear to a wedding.

The day itself is soooo long! The last wedding I was at was painful, the meal wasn't served until around 8 o clock and by this stage we were all starving and very, very drunk I just find them really boring to be honest. I find a lot of my friends just do it the traditional way because they think it's what's expected....a cousin of mine went abroad and the wedding party was no more than 30 people and it was by far the best wedding I was ever at. So simple and they only had people there they were close to, not friends of parents from 10 years back!

It's down to the couple what they want of course and best of luck to everyone getting married but back to my original point...I hate weddings! Anyone else feel like this?

You're doing it wrong

storm2811

They can be so dull sometimes,depends who's wedding it is I suppose,but the last one I was at was a nightmare,had no fun at all.
+1 for small weddings being better though,less chance of running into someone who you haven't talked to in years and trying to think of something to talk about when you run out of funny stories from primary/secondary school..:pac:

fonecrusher1

I often show up at weddings uninvited wearing nothing more than a black bin-liner & a top hat.

rossie1977

weddings are great

the church bit is boring though, was at a evangelical wedding last year and that turned into a concert so at least that wasn't too bad catholic ceremonies though are so meh

Sizzler

Simples, don't go.

Thread closed.

Biggins

The problem is that most turn out to be one long, looong boring day.
I got married (not in Ireland) by non-conventional means and so that one not got bored, we did things different.

(The short version)
After the wedding, some of whom turned up in costume, some as the characters they played in TV roles, we all went for a quick hour no fuss meal.
Then the lot of us (prior planned) all went on everything down the road, from roller-coasters, bumper cars to water rides and more.
After a few hours of that, we all went to top up in a bar somewhere with a few drinks before all headed to a show - then back out for a quick evening meal, more rides and then to a bar again.
Wife and I then said "Right we're off" and buggered off on our honeymoon.
* Everyone had a blast, genuinely told us they had a ball - and judging by their faces through the day and night, they did so.

Here in Ireland ya got the tired traditional march down the isle - right folks, now get in your cars/buses/etc and pile back to the hotel/function room and grab a table quick, the long speeches are about to begin. Best wishes, bla bla bla... read the telegrams bla bla bla, polite laughs... more drinks, meals ("who got who's first" - "they missed me!") and then another long day/night of your average music DJ/band before finally being glad to escape and home to ones bed having spent a fortune and on what you wonder, the next day!

Naa, stuff that. Gimme an alternative wedding any day. Our friends most definitely approved our thinking.

p.s: On the top of our cake was two large gnomes in wedding gear.
We brought the cake to a place we picked out on the day where we all went for a meal.
Said what had to be said in 5 minutes and then tucked in before getting back to the fun!
The wife wore a "Buffy the Vampire Slayer" dress by the way.

stovelid

I really like them if it's good friends or family.

Drinking all day with a crowd of people that rarely all get together = win.

Even the ones that you're a bit lost at can be fun as you can meet sound people and when single, they can be good for meeting women.

geeky

fonecrusher1 wrote: »

I often show up at weddings uninvited wearing nothing more than a black bin-liner & a top hat.

And you didn't even give us a present. :mad:

pickarooney

I've only ever been to two and I could have taken or left them.

AAAAAAAHHH

Biggins wrote: »

The problem is that most turn out to be one long, looong boring day.
I got married (not in Ireland) by non-conventional means and so that one not got bored, we did things different.

(The short version)
After the wedding, some of whom turned up in costume, some as the characters they played in TV roles, we all went for a quick hour no fuss meal.
Then the lot of us (prior planned) all went on everything down the road, from roller-coasters to water rides and more.
After a few hours of that, we all went to top up in a bar somewhere with a few drinks before all headed to a show - then back out for a quick evening meal, more rides and then to a bar again.
Wife and I then said "Right we're off" and buggered off on our honeymoon.
* Everyone had a blast, genuinely told us they had a ball - and judging by their faces through the day and night, they did so.

Here in Ireland ya got the tired traditional march down the isle - right folks, now get in your cars/buses/etc and pile back to the hotel/function room and grab a table quick, the long speeches are about to begin. Best wishes, bla bla bla... read the telegrams bla bla bla, polite laughs... more drinks, meals ("who got who's first" - "they missed me!") and then another long day/night of your average music DJ/band before finally being glad to escape and home to ones bed having spent a fortune and on what you wonder, the next day!

Naa, stuff that. Gimme an alternative wedding any day. Our friends most definitely approved our thinking.

p.s: On the top of our cake was two large gnomes in wedding gear.
We brought the cake to a place we picked out on the day where we all went for a meal.
Said what had to be said in 5 minutes and then tucked in before getting back to the fun!

Do you have a Pigeon English to English translator?

Millie

I hate the bloody things.
If I was never again invited to a wedding it wouldn't bother me.
A few years ago there seemed to be an endless amount of weddings as a lot of my friends tied the knot so thankfully not so many since.

pickarooney

AAAAAAAHHH wrote: »

Do you have a Pigeon English to English translator?

That would have been so much more effective if you had written it properly as 'Pidgin English'.

Try again later.

Biggins

AAAAAAAHHH wrote: »

Do you have a Pigeon English to English translator?

Why?
Do you need help with your forum name? :rolleyes:
Will a dictionary do instead?

Mint Sauce

Wazdakka wrote: »

Nope...

As a Guy weddings are great.
I already own a Tux and many suits, so there's no problems with what to wear.

And weddings are normally filled with dressed up, drunken women who are suddenly feeling very lonely at the sight of somebody they know getting married.

They need companionship... and comfort... and not to be alone...

I love weddings

but simply, great place to pull

Glico Man

Always the bridesmaid and never the bride eh OP? :P

Weddings are great. Was asked to be a groomsman at my sisters wedding last summer and was great to be part of her special day like that.

alwaysadub

I was meant to be at one today. Bout the only thing i'm grateful for about being made redundant was the fact i could turn down the invite cos i couldn't afford it

I don't mind weddings when i only have to go to one a year or something,but anything over that and i get fed up

4zn76tysfajdxp

I hate marriages.

Scarinae

I'm not at the stage yet where I'm being inundated with wedding invitations - only one of my friends is engaged so far, with no wedding date fixed yet. If I was getting married though I don't think I'd like to do the big white wedding that is lots of stress and costs an arm and a leg - I think sometimes (with brides especially) the wedding almost becomes bigger than the marriage, people forget that it is just one day in your life. A wedding, to me, is about committing to somebody that you love, I don't see why you need a Vera Wang dress or a huge diamond ring.

I can definitely see the appeal of having a small wedding abroad!

Biggins, your wedding sounded awesome

just-joe

I think its ridiculous that you're expected to pay E200 as a present. Or pick some expensive item from a list to give to em. Way OTT.

To be there at the wedding, (and ready to have a laugh) should be all that is required.

Dravokivich

went to a mates wedding recently, was only planning on hitting the afters but he was really putting it down for me to go to the whole thing... so i did... long day... hot bleeding day too... pretty much spent all my time sitting around drinking Smithwicks and being polite to people i didn't know so i wouldn't spoil the day...

Got another wedding I'm heading to next year... can't exactly minimize my apppearence time at it... considering i'm gonna be the Best man...

jaysus... that's going to be a hell of a day....

gagiteebo

aaronh007 wrote: »

Always the bridesmaid and never the bride eh OP? :P

Haha I was wondering when someone would come up with this Nah not the case at all, I'm just a grump I also hate surprise parties and engagement parties etc etc

Mint Sauce

just-joe wrote: »

I think its ridiculous that you're expected to pay E200 as a present. Or pick some expensive item from a list to give to em. Way OTT.

To be there at the wedding, (and ready to have a laugh) should be all that is required.

what type of weddings are you going to, most i've ever given is about 50 to 70 euro worth, your mates must love to invite you.

just-joe

Well none myself actually, just what I hear from family. I guess they're keepin posh company then!

swe_fi

Hate the church thing, concept, format of weddings. I mean seriously who genuinely knows 300-400 people?

What really gets me though is the Afters concept. What the h£ll is that about? "You are welcome to our wedding, but you'r not THAT welcome"

nehpets10

Biggins wrote: »

The problem is that most turn out to be one long, looong boring day.
I got married (not in Ireland) by non-conventional means and so that one not got bored, we did things different.

(The short version)
After the wedding, some of whom turned up in costume, some as the characters they played in TV roles, we all went for a quick hour no fuss meal.
Then the lot of us (prior planned) all went on everything down the road, from roller-coasters, bumper cars to water rides and more.
After a few hours of that, we all went to top up in a bar somewhere with a few drinks before all headed to a show - then back out for a quick evening meal, more rides and then to a bar again.
Wife and I then said "Right we're off" and buggered off on our honeymoon.
* Everyone had a blast, genuinely told us they had a ball - and judging by their faces through the day and night, they did so.

Here in Ireland ya got the tired traditional march down the isle - right folks, now get in your cars/buses/etc and pile back to the hotel/function room and grab a table quick, the long speeches are about to begin. Best wishes, bla bla bla... read the telegrams bla bla bla, polite laughs... more drinks, meals ("who got who's first" - "they missed me!") and then another long day/night of your average music DJ/band before finally being glad to escape and home to ones bed having spent a fortune and on what you wonder, the next day!

Naa, stuff that. Gimme an alternative wedding any day. Our friends most definitely approved our thinking.

p.s: On the top of our cake was two large gnomes in wedding gear.
We brought the cake to a place we picked out on the day where we all went for a meal.
Said what had to be said in 5 minutes and then tucked in before getting back to the fun!
The wife wore a "Buffy the Vampire Slayer" dress by the way.

Thats sounds like an okay day out I guess, but in my opinion it's no good for a wedding. I think weddings are awesome. Beer, cheesy music and everyone is drunk. It's just a big party.

Cheap Thrills!

I've no real interest in them myself but I always go and make the effort for the people concerned!

nehpets10

just-joe wrote: »

Well none myself actually, just what I hear from family. I guess they're keepin posh company then!

More like posh-joe, eh?

Biggins

nehpets10 wrote: »

Thats sounds like an okay day out I guess, but in my opinion it's no good for a wedding. I think weddings are awesome. Beer, cheesy music and everyone is drunk. It's just a big party.

We had that too - but not a long one and interceded by other stuff as well in various irregular formats.

I Love weddings!

I love getting dressed up, having a whole day out, the chat, the dancing, everyone looking great and in good spirits. Having giggles with your friends, yummy food, getting merry, residents bar singalongs. I just LOVE it.

I have one tomorrow

pickarooney

swe_fi wrote: »

Hate the church thing, concept, format of weddings. I mean seriously who genuinely knows 300-400 people?

What really gets me though is the Afters concept. What the h£ll is that about? "You are welcome to our wedding, but you'r not THAT welcome"

I think some peope treat wedding invites like the Add a Friend button on Facebook.

Elessar

I like them myself. Always a good excuse to have a few drinks, a dance and a good time. That is, when you have friends there aswell.

The first time I got drunk was at a wedding.

Chiorino

Biggins wrote: »

The wife wore a "Buffy the Vampire Slayer" dress by the way.

In before the pics or GTFO. What exactly is a "Buffy the Vampire Slayer" dress? Awesome sounding wedding though.

AntiRip

Not a great lover of weddings myself, very long day. I think over the years especially during the so called Celtic tiger they became like a circus. Over the space of a couple of years it was acceptable to give e100, then it was e150 and so on. People invited more and more people to their wedding just to pay for the wedding or even make money out of it!

I went to a mates wedding he had in Lanzarote a couple of years back. There was about 30 people at it. A short ceremony at a beautiful white church on a hill, simple meal at a local restaurant and a pub crawl around Puerto del Carmen. Best wedding I ever went to. A lot to be said about a small foreign wedding.

Pretty_Pistol

I don't like them. There's something quite fake in it. Well, for my family anyway. The last wedding I went to was my 1st cousins and I hadn't seen them for 10+ years. There's another one of those coming up and I'm not looking forward to it.

If or when I get married I'm eloping and cutting out the BS of having to invite family I never see or being forced by my Mam to invite her friends.

I love weddings there always a great piss up!!

dkdavey67

only like weddings if they are for family or close friends. dont get people inviting the world and its mother along just to have numbers. nothing worse than hearing some plus one at the bar say "oh i dont really know them i'm just here for the piss up" personally i dont need a wedding to go have a good knees up.
I'm having mine abroad next year so i dont have to invite anyone that i dont want to and anyone that does go I know it's for genuine reasons.

Biggins

Chiorino wrote: »

In before the pics or GTFO. What exactly is a "Buffy the Vampire Slayer" dress? Awesome sounding wedding though.

Enjoy.

NothingMan

Had many a family wedding and always the usual format but always a good time too. Usually spent locked outta my face dancing.

My first friend to get married had a quick civil ceremony and then about 30 of us went to an adventure center and had a BBQ for dinner followed by drinking in the houses there. A very hungover next day we all did archery and various climbing activities.

Best wedding ever.

Lux23

I think the biggest problem is the gap between the Church and the meal, you end up getting pi**ed with no interest in food.

If I get married it will be registry office do with a fabulous dress, a few friends and family with a nice meal and a few drinks afterwards. Then off on a honeymoon for at least a month. No fuss or speeches or bridesmaids or boring waits for my guests while i get a million photos take.

bronte

I really think it depends on the people getting married...I've been to some great ones, and some that I was dying to get away from.

A mate of mine wants the whole white church wedding despite the fact that she isn't remotely religious. I don't really get that.

Biggin's sounds class! :pac:

ejmaztec

A wedding's only entertaining if there's a bloody good fight to break the monotony.

topper75

At least when a nasty big bill comes in the letterbox from the ESB, they don't expect me to use up one of my annual leave days to spend in a sh'ite hotel. I'll give them that.

Cypher_sounds

No harm attending an auld wedding every now and again, to catch up with friends or relations or whoever, so no i dont hate with weddings.

anniehoo

Biggins wrote: »

I got married (not in Ireland) by non-conventional means and so that one not got bored, we did things different.:D

Aw your wedding sounded class! Wish i could get invited to one like that.

I dont hate weddings per se, i just hate the "sameness" of all irish weddings.The church annoys me for starters. Practically everyone i know couldnt care less about religion yet we all have to sit there and listen to the crap that some priest spouts when its all a complete lie.

Cue the rest of the day like this church->hang around hotel lounge trying not to get drunk too early->starving by 6pm-->dinner is always late and you're half cut-->speeches blah blah..we know you love everyone->knackered and stuffed by 8pm-->red bull and vodkas-->band-->shoes off-->DJ-->console whoevers gotten too drunk and is crying-->bed 5am in the hotel room you paid €150 for!

Ive got 4 this year and bridesmaid for one of them! Wooooo no holiday for me because theyre so flippin expensive!

Ah no i sound like a moany cow,i always enjoy them, i just wish for all the money couples spend on the day theyd try and make them a bit more memorable and different!

topper75

Cypher_sounds wrote: »

No harm attending an auld wedding every now and again, to catch up with friends or relations or whoever, so no i dont hate with weddings.

See - I don't buy that - because if you really gave a care about these individuals, you would have contacted them regardless of a wedding. The fact that you don't is a tell-tale sign, no?

Mike 1972

Thing Ive never got about weddings is that they normally take place around a time (give or take a couple of years) in a couples lives when they are setting up house together and starting a family.

i.e. the time when they most need to be saving money

and yet most people are willing to blow a five figure sum on a single day mainly for the benefit of their embarassing relatives.

Cypher_sounds

topper75 wrote: »

See - I don't buy that - because if you really gave a care about these individuals, you would have contacted them regardless of a wedding. The fact that you don't is a tell-tale sign, no?

Whoah i never anything said about not contacting them regardless, i was just replying to the op, of course i wouldn't bother going to a wedding if i haven't seen or talked to the person getting married in a few months or years, if i got a invitation that made me think for a sec hmmm whens the last time i've talked to him/her?.... i'd be saying they can shove their invitation up their hole.

kelle

Depends on whose wedding it is.
I find having children is a great excuse. Either I "can't" get a babysitter and can't go, or else go but leave very early.

My aunt was at her 5th child's wedding earlier this year, she went to the church and got the photos taken then went back to the hotel room after the meal and watched TV all night - she said it was the best thing she ever did at a wedding, because she is so fed-up with them at this stage.